In highschool I dated this guy for 3 years. We were never physical, but it was more of an emotional relationship. I still have very strong feelings for him. He just told me that he has started seeing this new girl. In the past with different girls he's dated, he has told me that they have always talked about me, and I have always been a threat to them. I have always loved him, and now I want to be physical with him because I care about him so much. Do you think I should tell him how I feel or do you think now would be a bad time because he's dating someone?
2006-06-13 05:36:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok when I said that I want to get physical with him I mean that I just care for him so much and I realize that now. Getting physical doesnt necessarily mean having sex... I mean he's a virgin, I am not. So i would want to wait for the time when we are both ready for that. But maybe I should just rephrase myself. I want to be with him, because I know that I love him.
2006-06-13 06:13:38 · update #1
It might be the wrong time for him but it has never been a better time for you. Tell him excatly how you feel but appologize for the bad timing. If he is your true freind and cares about you he will respond in a good way weather it be him saying i am not ready for that or that he is ready to try it. You never know what can happen.Take a risk and live today like its your last everyday. the worst that can happen is he rejects you but not likely to happen, from what you say.
Good luck and let me know how it all goes.
2006-06-13 05:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by chantell 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the past last few hours this girl has been pregnant with little brothers best friends baby, dated a guy off and on for 3 years in high school and wants him back, been on an internship across the country and worried about some guy that wants to be more than friends tried it for 2 weeks didn't like it just wants to be friends and worried because he still wants more, and dated a guy off and on last year and now she wants him back as well. What's up with this?????
2006-06-13 09:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by kim36867 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, if you don't say something now you might as well let go. You have waited long enough, now that he is seeing someone is bad timing too. But, he's not completely into her yet. Just don't wait to much longer then I would have to say that your not thinking of his needs. Get together with him and let your feelings be known now. If you really care about him then let him make up his own mind whether or not he chooses to keep seeing this girl or if he would like to be with you. You may find out it might be to late, but at least you'll know that you tried. Don't be foolish give it your best shot. Good luck to you, hon.
2006-06-13 07:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by Seeker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have some questions first: If you're not with him now, why do you want to get physical with him all of a sudden? Do you see this current girlfriend as a threat to you?
You can tell him how you feel anytime you want, but you have to prepare yourself for the fact that he may not feel the same and that it could affect your friendship with him. As in, it may not be anymore. And you can't demand an answer right away. Tell him how you feel and give him a few days to figure out how he feels. Also, you're young, it might not work for you now, but who knows for the future??
2006-06-13 05:48:44 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this boyfriend about 10 years ago and yes, he tells every girl she dated how incomparable i am and yet he keeps on having relationships one after the other and never get serious in wanting me back...I was too ideal for him that maybe scares him that he'd love me deeply and he'd lose his freedom...He's the guy that do exactly what i say and never complain...He adored me so much until he went to other country and met different girls..they are crazy about him and im not...maybe that is also one thing that keeps him telling them how different i am....i hope this answered your q.
2006-06-13 05:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by bea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BAD TIME. He is with someone else. Let things ride out for a bit and you will either get past this feeling, or the new chick will feel you are a threat and dump him anyways. Wait until he becomes available to tell him how you feel.
2006-06-13 05:39:44 · answer #6 · answered by jhornneon23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel but don't offer sex to lure him. Sex becomes a weapon instead of a gift then. Don't use sex as a weapon and you will be one step ahead of those other girls he has dated or is dating. Take a chance, he is probably still wondering or wanting to hear just how you feel. If he ain't married, then it is ok to reveal your feelings while he is "seeing" someone else. But let him break it off with her before you kiss him.
2006-06-13 05:41:53 · answer #7 · answered by mi2ok02_2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as it hurts, he is not interested in you "in that way". He likes you, as a friend, but not more than that. If you persuaded him to be physical with you, you're only going to end up getting hurt even more later on. Move on in your life, like he has done. Find another guy to love, and give your heart to him! Good Luck!
2006-06-13 05:42:45 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time to tell him will never be perfect. I think 3 years is long enough to keep your feelings hidden. Tell him, you may never find the right time, but if you don't tell him you will always wish you had.
2006-06-13 05:40:31 · answer #9 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a very direct person, the time it took you to write this, you could have been telling him this, so go ahead let him know how you feel and see what he has to say.
2006-06-13 05:40:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋