I really like this boy and he really likes me, and I know that I am supposed to wait until marriage, but when I see him I can't help it. I have a very strong will, but I don't know what happens if I get in the moment?
2006-06-13 05:21:35 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 14 years old and he is 17 years old. This would not be stagitorial rape!
2006-06-13 05:42:31 · update #1
You're conscience is already telling you that it is wrong to engage in premarital sex. If you are a Christian, that is God's way of giving you a strong warning. It may be that your emotions are strong, but obviously, you have already been pushing the envelope a bit and getting a little deeper involved in the touching, etc. and you are getting close to the point of no return. You may need to try to back off from what you are now doing with your b/f and make sure you will not be put into the 'moment'. Your will may be strong, but it is not going to help you if you keep putting yourself in such a strong temptation situation! What will happen, is you will eventually get so far along that you will say, 'what the hell!' and just go all the way. I know, I thought I had a strong will. I opened up a whole trove of problems with that one what the hell. It will probably destroy your self will. I got involved in drugs and other stuff as a result. I opened the door a crack and the devil kicked the door right down. You will do what you want to do...it will be your choice. You do not put a gun to your head with 5 loaded barrels and say, I am lucky, and fire. It is a dangerous game you're playing and one day you will get burned. I hope you can hold to your values and truly be able to back off now, before it goes too far. Blessings.
2006-06-13 05:35:56 · answer #1 · answered by originaltigger61 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I say you wait until things progress and grow. You are acting on pure hormones right now and strong attraction gets that reaction out of a person. I feel you should date and get to know him on more of an intellectual level then if you love him then you can make a responsible decision. Just remember strong actions can come with even stronger consequences so I say until you can handle the responsiblity of a child then hold off. There are pleny of other things to "do" and show affection than sex.
2006-06-13 12:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by rkmvalente 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet heart as long as you take precautions to protect your self go for it if you feel you're ready. Marriage is not the time to have sex for the first time. To have a truely balanced relationship there must be the emotional and physical expression. How will you know if you wait until your wedding night to experience this?
2006-06-13 12:25:02 · answer #3 · answered by FunnyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on alot of factors,and I'm afraid you'll get a lot of immature answers....
Ask yourself a few questions:
Do you feel emotionally and physically prepared for that intimacy?
Can you forgive yourself if you gave it up and things didn't work out?
How strongly do you want to protect your virginity for your future hubby-this one may or may not be it.
Are you prepared if it does happen with condoms and have had a recent check up?
I guess if you decide to do it,be smart about it,and if you decide against it,you'll have to remove yourself from the temptation.GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-06-13 12:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by lotsalovetanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you see the odds .I would ask you will you live to see the day of your marriage.If getting an opportunity take it and make good use of it so that you will remember the first time for your entire life.There is no greater moment than that in a virgins life.
2006-06-13 12:28:18 · answer #5 · answered by richard p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is best. Waiting until marriage...is a choice, but your missing out on so much. It's your decision. I just hope you make the right one and don't regret it in the long run. Good luck.
2006-06-13 12:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by pulchritudinous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quick fix, don't put yourself in a situation where you might have a lapse in judgment. Like you said you know your supposed to wait so just wait. You will respect yourself alot more if you do. If this boy really likes you he will understand.
2006-06-13 12:26:03 · answer #7 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you most definetly should wait for marriage. it is your natural hormones to desire this boy and his to desire you but you will be better off to wait and not have sex until marriage. if this is the true love, it will wait and you will feel better about yourself. the other scenario is you have spontanious sex you get pregnant or a diese and he leaves you. he is going to have more respect for you if you wait. single parenthood is not a picnic and you will be responsible for another life the rest of that baby's life.
2006-06-13 12:30:21 · answer #8 · answered by bannanas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are less than 18 you better not even consider letting yourself get in the moment. Do you wanna be a parent, if not, keep your pants up. Dream about it all you want.
2006-06-13 12:24:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
spread your legs!!!!!! If you wait till your married sex with person might suck, and it could ruin your marriage. Sleep around a little find out what you like before you tie yourself down to one person you might not be compatible with
2006-06-13 12:27:56 · answer #10 · answered by StephNLee2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋