life, god? I'm pretty down?

Question

I'm not understanding, I need insight. Last night, I was let down yet again. I am cursed beyond belief. I know I should be grateful, but it's very very hard. I'm unhappy. My sister wants to be a pro athlete, now I know it's tough and seemingly unattaintable. Aren't you supposed to have goals? She has the talent, drive, determination, dedication, she works so hard. She's worked hard for a long time. I've dreamed of being liked by people(friends) and having a bf( and love) yet the bf and the friends seem to be unattainable. Yet I did for some1. We are 20-26. She is 26. We've struggled for 10 years or better. There's a glimmer of hope sometimes. We get close and then big disapppointment rolls around. Call me crazy, but I'm cursed. Quite possibly those chain letters. Though I've had a bad life before that. I lost my grandma, my cousin lost her father to a 16 y/o who didn't use the signal and he wasn't wearing his seatbelt, my other grandparents I worry about, they drive me nuts. I worry ab

about every1 else. I got in big fights w my sis, and I mean big too. I can't talk to my cousin for a lot of reasons. And it's repeatedly the same thing, especially my sister wanting to be an athlete, every1 thought she'd make it. She seems to have the mentak issue, she sychs herself out. We thought this year would be different. She has gotten some help and she did well, she came close(see what I mean) and then big let down. I guess she needs to consider herself a pro. Although I think they were amatuer's. Or get real help, but we are not rich. I had a fight w my family cuz they don't understand. Fought w my mom again. The computer oveheated. Everwood is cancelled. And 20 other things. And there's even more then that.

I wish. I'm down to the last bit of hope tho. I am sick of struggling. I am calm. You have no idea how my life has been. I only listed some, I could list more.

I'm not comparing myself. So? I'm so cursed and let down, so deep beyond, so far out of wack of every1. I'd like to be normal. Normal is pretty perfect. I'm like pluto or the other planet, 10-100 ft from the rest.

I have been praying for a long time. (10 years) germaine_87313, I know there are bombings. I know I do, but she is my sister. Even if we don't always get along. I tend to be more emotional.

I know death is a part of life, to whoever said that. But I still don't understand. The way they died. I had two dogs die(one was put to sleep sadly) a cat die, and other pets. I got a lot of family problems. My dad has a lot of job troubles. My mom stands all day w no lunch hour, lunch 5 minutes. Right now they are too busy for me. Heck no1 ever listened to me. Is it an age deal? No1 in school ever listened to me.

I didn't even add any of the friend stuff I've been through. My father's sister's son? Was in Iraq, he's save now. But there was an e-mail we had gotten where they were shot it. I was scared to death. And the last few summer's just all kinds of bad stuff. Mostly bad. Some graduations, and weddings, busy. Not great stuff most of it. I mean I can't even remember cuz there's too much too tell.

Sorry for the couple errors. I meant mental* issue. And the other spelling mistake, whatever else is not perfect.

safe* and pretty down.* There's loads more I could come up with. Sure, a relative had a baby. And it wasn't all bad. I do take time to listen to music, what I love. But It doesn't last. It's not going to last forever, the positive.

Answer 1

God uses problems to direct you
God uses problems to inspect you
God uses problems to connect you
God uses problems to protect you
God uses problems to perfect you

I know it's hard but problems are what tests our faith, to reveal whats really inside us.Whatever trial or problems your faceing today, thank God for the opportunity to grow stronger in you faith, keep trusting God, and everything will be ok! Start thinking of problems as a chance to grow. Usually the bigger the test, the bigger the reward for keeping your faith in God strong.
"Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance." James 1:2-3. Read that verse and see if it helps.

Answer 2

Stop worrying. You are not cursed.
First, everyone dies. It is an unavoidable fact of life. The fact that someone you knew dies does not make YOU cursed. My mother died when I was 15 years old, a freshman in high school. That does not make me cursed...it means her time was up.
Second, finding that "special someone" is something that happens once. You will finally find that someone and be SO happy! But, if you find someone who is not "the one," don't you think you should rightly be happy when it ends? After all, you don't want to be dating "Mr. Wrong" when "Mr. Right" shows up, right?
Third, things in life are only unattainable to those who give up trying. Everytime.

Lastly, have faith. I found the love of my life when I was in college. We met through some bizzare circumstances that could only be Divine intervention. Pray that you meet the right person soon. Do not settle. God has someone in mind. Trust in that.

Amen.

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(after reading your ammendment)
You are looking the wrong way. You are looking at all that is bad. Let me ask you....
1) Do you have a bed to sleep in that is not padded with newspaper?
2) Do you have a roof over your head?
3) Did you have at least one meal per day for the past seven days?
4) Do you have clothes that fit, and are not full of unintentional holes?
You need to stop saying "my life sucks because..." and start saying "my life is so great because..."
Start with the basics, as numbered above. Go from there. I bet you can get to 20 before really having to think hard.

Answer 3

charmed,

You suffer from really low self-esteem. I am not trying to say that your pain isn’t real, but your reaction to your life indicates that you feel that you deserve to suffer and that everything will eventually go badly for you. I suggest a workbook by David Burns called “Ten Days to Self-Esteem.” It costs $11 on Amazon.com, and it is excellent. If you go through the entire book, it will change the way that you think and the way that you feel.

More importantly, we are all under a curse without Jesus. Galatians 3:13 says:

Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us, for it is written: "Cursed is everyone who is hung on a tree."

Take the time to read Deuteronomy 28 and 29, and you will learn the curses and blessings of the law.

Jesus is the only person Who ever kept the law, and therefore, only He can receive its blessings. We have all broken the law, and we deserve the curses. The beauty of the new covenant, or New Testament, is that it made a covenant through the blood of Jesus to give us His blessings instead of the curses we deserve.

Jesus deserved the blessings, but He took the curse for us. We give Him our cursed lives, and He gives us His blessings. Can you imagine being the daughter of a King? What would life be like if you were royalty? That is what Jesus offers us.

How do you get this wonderful life? God is way past very, very good, and He cannot associate with evil in any form. We have all made mistakes, sins, and they separate us from God. Tell Jesus that you are sorry for your mistakes, and ask Him to forgive you. Then tell God, your new Father, that you will gladly serve Him.

After you do that your new life will begin, but without any experience or knowledge, we often don’t know how to understand or live this new life to its fullest potential. Feel free to contact me, and I’ll help you with the fine print.

God bless.

Answer 4

Well, I am sorry for your troubles in life.

However, I want you to consider something. We are not intended to have painless lives. We are not intended to get everything we want in life. And while I do not believe that God moves us around like pieces on the Big Board of Life, I believe that adversity ultimately strengthens us and gives us the potential to truly grow in life.

An example? When I graduated college at 21, I was accepted to a prestigious graduate school. Because my father's business had nearly failed, I was forced to work my way through college. But as I prepared to go on to graduate school and an exciting new life in a different part of the country, my father passed away and left my mother with very little money (and no insurance). My friends had all moved on and were enjoyng their lives while I worked two jobs to keep the wolf from her door and mine.

Because of that, I had to shelve my dreams, and worked very hard to support my mother. Ultimately, she became self-suffiicient, but I never got to go on to graduate school. However, after a couple of false starts in my career, I found a profession I love and do quite well in. And, upon reflection, I am much happier that I would have been had I fulfilled my original plan in life.

The key? Understand what's causing you pain in life. If you are continually let down by others, how can you avoid this? If you find you do not have a boyfriend, how do you change your own life to make this thing possible? Now, mind you, your personal happiness should never hinge on the opinions of others. At the same time, if you are not getting the love you need from your current friends, then maybe it's time for you to move on in life. That way, you find new friends who accept and love you for who you are, not who you think you should be.

Another thing to consider. Between now and the time you are 25-26, you will change more than you will for the rest of your life. The friends you have, the things that matter, and the joy you seek will be radically different that what you know now. Allow yourself to change and enjoy the process along the way. Go with a sense of trust, and do not allow anything to vanquish your spirit. For you are young. And with the young, the ability to change and embrace the world are qualities that the rest of the world can envy.

Finally, realize that there are so many in life who have it much worse. The refugees in Darfur. A elderly woman watching her husband fade away from the ravages of Alzheimers. The loneliness and despair of the soulsick. The people who elect to be unhappy, even though life has given them every material reward.

So resolve to love your life, no matter what. Happiness, after all, is a decision. And you can view hardships as permanent or temporary obstacles to your fulfiillment as a person. The choice in life is yours to make.

Answer 5

You may be clinically depressed. It might be a good idea to have that checked out or talk to a professional.

In my faith, there is a comparison made between refining and purifing silver and testing and making a person. God will put you through trials to make you stronger the same way we melt metals to make them pure or fire clay to make it hard. After the process, the thing being worked on comes out better and stronger, although during the process it looks to some like the thing being worked on is being destroyed.

The fact that you come through so much means that you are very strong. Worry about your own goals and don't worry so much about your sister. Focus on the things you have and what you want, then come up with some ideas about how to attain these things and make sure you are being reasonable.

Answer 6

You are not cursed, All you are doing is going about things the wrong way. When you do something you are suppose to give thought to what effect it will have on the people close to you but if jealousy is your only motivations then how can you expect anything to go right in your life. If you set goals or anything like that then it must be base in truth or it will always blow up in your face. like it has be doing. So stop and sit down and find out what the truth is and try start setting you goal from there.

Answer 7

Take on one thing at a time, there's no need to hurry anything. everybody on this earth go's through hard times and things usually don't go the way we want them to. Know that your no the only one struggling. Stay strong.

I don't know where you stand with God but let me assure you that He loves you more then you know. You (and your sister) were created for a specific purpose, to fulfill a mission, if you will, by God Himself. If you try to take on a mission on your own without God's help you'll always end up falling on your face and will never be completely happy or satisfied.

The only way to know for a certainty what you are supposed to do and where you are suppose to go is through prayer, with God. He'll tell you what it is He wants you to do and give you the ability to do it. Perhaps, now, you and your sister have been kind of ignoring God and therefore the frustration sets in. I don't know because I don't know you or your sister but I DO know that God has a plan for your lives and all you need to do is to seek Him out and ask Him. God Bless You and your sister.

Answer 8

A god tht punishes for bein bad n blesses for bein gud is just somethin made by the fragility of the human mind
nothin is a gift or a curse everythin is a challenge
do ur best n life's a struglle enjoy
n its only when u give up tryin things r unattaintable

Answer 9

Charmed, when was the last time you closed the door to your room, or any room, had it completely quiet and just whispered "Jesus and then said the very things that you just wrote here" You're down and we all get there - it's called life and that's why there's Jesus - to help us when we're down - and close out all your burdens to him with a sincere request of Lord Jesus, you're all there is that can help, will you take me into your hands and help me? I don't know how to do this, what I'm doing right now or what I'm doing wrong or right, but I need something in my life that tells me I'm headed in the right direction." And then sit in the silence of your room and close your eyes and think on nothing but sitting at his feet and if a thought enters your mind, push it out, stay focused at the feet of Jesus - even if it means acting as though you are literally clinging to his feet. You will not be able to help but notice his power working in your life.

Answer 10

Wow, so much and so painful! I can understand why you are down...please feel free to chat with me, add me to your friend list, email me, whatever! It sounds like you need a willing ear to hear you and have a long conversation, and I will be happy to talk with you. A lot if you need it. I am a friend here for you if you want to talk. I am a laid back person and will only give you advice if you want it and won't push my opinions down your throat. You may say whatever you like. I have had fights with my Mom, still do, and my cousin, who was my best friend, well...we speak once or twice a year. I have lost my friends many times and have suffered because no one heard me scream and sob, or saw my hand reaching out for anything warm...
I can only offer you my time and my patient ear, and my friendship if you want it...and my experience and how I found God and how I am making it one day at a time. Anything you want to know...you are in my prayers and my heart goes out to you...
Hugs!
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Answer 11

You Need A Life That you Can Be Comfortable With And Let Your Family Have The Life They Choose To Be Comfortable With Whether It's Right Or Wrong To You!.......