Why can't I reschedule Father's day to Saturday if I have a wedding to go to on Sunday?

Question

I need everyone out there to tell me if I am being a horrible son or losing my mind.

I have a friend's wedding to go to 4:00PM on Sunday which happens to fall on Father's Day. I call my parents on Monday to see if we can get together on Friday or Saturday to celebrate Father's Day with a lunch or dinner. But to my parents, unless you are celebrating on the EXACT day (and not even LUNCH, it has to be DINNER) it doesn't count. Now I am getting a huge guilt trip from them (which I instead of feeling badly, feel pissed off), but I am still going to my friend's wedding.

Please tell me your thoughts, let me know if I am being an A$$HOLE, give me your honest opinion, because I think my parents are being crazy.

Answer 1

You are not being unreasonable. My son and I are celebrating fathers day on Saturday. My son asked if that would be okay, and I said sure. There is nothing wrong with compromise, and your father should understand. Good luck, and you shouldn't feel any guilt. (Some parents are masters at the guilt trip).

Answer 2

Uh oh, your parents fell for the holiday commercialization trap. At least you're mature enough to realize life doesn't have to revolve around insignificant holiday celebrations on the day someone says it has to be.

People make up stupid holidays and then the stores make a big deal out of it and next thing you know, we are obligated to celebrate. Any day can be Father's Day. It doesn't have to be a Sunday in June. I think it would show that you actually care more about your Dad if you find another special day to share with him rather than follow the crowd. Besides when you do that, you actually CAN get into a resaurant for a great, relaxed meal.

Weddings are an ancient, some say sacred ritual that is special to those getting married, they don't have to plan around something like Father's Day. Father's Day on a specific Sunday in June doesn't compare, so it can be overruled by something more significant.

However, if you didn't have a wedding to attend, then definitely make the day special for your Dad.

Answer 3

No way man, I'm with you on this one....although a wedding on a Sunday???? Never been seen by me before and I have been to many many weddings!!! Anywho, yes it's tradition for your parents to celebrate special days on the day of, but hey, you're old enough to make your own decisions right? You're a Big Boy!! Yes it may be upsetting to them and of course they will put a huge guilt trip on you, but you have other commitments. You just have to explain to them the situation and try to come to a happy medium. If they really want a supper, another night, if they really want to celebrate the day of, then do lunch. Sit down and ask them what's more important to them and what would be the next best thing to having a Father's Day supper with their favorite son on Sunday and they will have no choice but to make a decision because they will realize that you are NOT braking their plans for this. You can also bring in the fact that this is the only time it's gonna happen, kind of a one in a lifetime thing!!! Father's day comes every year, but your friends get married only once!
Good luck!!!

Answer 4

I don't think that you are looking at the big picture. You only have one father and mother, respect them and love them as long as you can. Some day they will be gone forever and your friend will still be there. I think your friend will understand and while I would hope your father should understand your desire to attend your friends wedding, your family comes FIRST. Show this to your dad and ask him to please help you, so you can be with him for fathers day and still give you a chance to go to the wedding. If he is the father I think he is he will, but just remember what I said above, you only have one father and mother and until you marry they come FIRST. Good luck and I hope you can work this out with your parents. A Father who understands both sides of this question.

Answer 5

I think that it shouldn't matter what day u celebrate Fathers day as long as u see ur dad during the wekend some time. And i think that ur parents r being crazy, they should understand that u have a weeding 2 go 2. And i dint think u r being a a$$hole, well good luck 2 what ever it is u do on Sunday.

Answer 6

I think you should be able to do something with your dad the day before, unfortunately, he doesn't. If you are not in the wedding, why can't you just do both, attend the ceremony (will probably last 15 minutes tops) and the Reception for an hour. then you can have dinner with your mom and dad the same night! Good luck!
I'm sure your friend will understand, afterall they did plan there day on a "holiday"

Answer 7

I think you're right. Do they try to control EVERY aspect of your life? I bet they do. Tell them to loosen up. Drop Dad's present by on Saturday and show them that they can't control you! Why in the world would your friend schedule a wedding on a Sunday? That's odd. Father's day happens every year, your friend will hopefully only get married once. Go to the wedding.

Answer 8

I do think you're being selfish..I mean who in the hell would have a wedding on Fathers Day anyway?? That's crazy...Your friends are crazy...Who's more impt?? Friends or Family?? Y ou need to consider all those factors...Furthermore, You didn't mention anything about HAVING to be there due to the fact that you may be a part of the wedding...Therefore you can't be TOO close to this friend...Thy didnt' think about you enough to ask you as part of the wedding...That would be the ONLY way I would miss Fathers day with my FATHER!

Answer 9

I understand your concerns but the wedding would be a no go! It's your father man. I think it is horrible that the person whose wedding it expected people to actually come to their wedding on a holiday. That's kind of selfish of them. Maybe the wedding is a Father's Day gift to their fathers, so you stay with your father and give him his Father's Day gift. Or better yet juggle both. Take your parents to a brunch and then scoot to the wedding unless they aren't in close proximity of each other.

Answer 10

We're celebrating this Thursday. Dad will be away on Father's Day.

Or you can swing by the parents' house in the morning and give presents/time, and then go to the wedding.