Just returned to work from a breakdown and no-one talks to me - it's like I have 2 heads!!!!
2006-06-13 04:45:25 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
They are afraid to upset you or make you feel bad. They also probably heard gossip or wrong information about your breakdown. The best thing to do is act like you usually do and they will stop acting weird after a while.
2006-06-13 05:02:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People know it's very difficult to say the right thing and very easy to say the wrong thing. I self-harm, have done for a long time, but I've just started leaving my arm uncovered 'cos I'm getting mental health help and I don't have the energy for the secrecy anymore. When people stare I ask them if they want to know something. I'm honest about it. people are generally curious, but afraid to ask unless invited. Then they ask a lot more. It enhances understanding and reduces the likelihood of them being as awkward with someone with same prob in future.
You should try and talk openly about it. Say, "Did anything interesting happen when I was gone?" Then say something about you needing a rest or something. Broach the situation. Thing is there's a gap between you and they're too scared to close it. You have to brave it yourself. Good luck!
2006-06-15 19:56:34 · answer #2 · answered by old_but_still_a_child 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you just had a breakdown, maybe they are afraid of setting you off. Give it a little time. Some people have the emotional capacity of a toaster and are not able to connect. Others (most of the probably) can't talk about there own emotions let alone acknowledge someone Else's. They are afraid.
2006-06-13 11:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may have nothing to do with you personally. I think that people say little when a situation feels uncomfortable to them. Let's face it; things that have to do with mental health have the tendency to strike us all where we live because it can be a touchy if not down right scary subject for those that have not had any experience with them. Perhaps they are looking to for clues as to how to start and what to talk about. I would suggest talking to one or two of the "nicer" people and just talking. You don't have to share anything that you are uncomfortable with, but realize that they may be looking to you to tell them what subjects that you want to talk to them about. I would suggest saying something like this (if you're comfortable); I'm back and I was ill. If you don't feel fragile, tell them. If you don't want special considerations; tell them and then show them. I would say, don't wait for them to take the first step; be friendly but assertive yourself.
BTW : I hope you are feeling better and that you are taking things slowly. I believe that it takes time to heal from any illness; physical or mental. We all need to walk before we can run! Good luck.
2006-06-13 11:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by Sheri L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been on both sides of bereavement/trauma. When a bereaved person returns to work, they often find that people won't talk about the situation. This is because they are worried about upsetting them, or complicating the bereavement process. However, they do find that most people will offer support and advice if they ask for it.
2006-06-14 16:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by nemesis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is because quietly & eagerly they are just waiting you to join them back- the way you were - a happy person by right and choice.
Saying a single word means reminding you all again of things you've already gone through (as like each one does atleast once in a lifetime). Nobody does, so that you don't have to re-live in those days- those of bygone pains.
Those chapters are closed. Be happy~ always!
2006-06-13 15:25:29 · answer #6 · answered by deBee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a shame when this happens. Please understand that people are generally concerned about you but just don't want to bring up the subject incase they upset you or hurt your feelings. Me personally, I would say outright - hows things? you feel better. I hae a friend who is clinically depressed and always have a laugh with him about it - but thats easy for me as I know him so well - its more difficult when you dont know the person really well.
2006-06-13 11:49:23 · answer #7 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably hard for them to imagine what you have been going through-- put yourself in their shoes would you know what to say?
This is the only time when being tactful really counts. They may think that perhaps their opinion wouldn't be welcome hence the silence
It would be ideal if they were to even acknowledge you even just to say hello and ask how you are feeling now..
2006-06-13 12:00:18 · answer #8 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean, after being in a mental clinic for a while when i went back to school no-one knew what to say, its alright pretty much now, i just explained to close friends and then it was ok
2006-06-13 11:49:06 · answer #9 · answered by kjonno91 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May its because they dont really understand ur situation. thay might have never been ion the same situation. and if they say anything wrong its gonna be bad
2006-06-13 11:48:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋