2006-06-13 04:34:06 · 13 answers · asked by red lyn 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Out of extreme pride or sensitivity: either because they think they are "too good" to be treated that way or merely because they expect more from the people they love. However, once the other person admits his fault and truly regrets behaving that way there is really no point in not forgiving. As a very wise man has said "To err is human, to forgive, divine".
2006-06-13 06:54:00 · answer #1 · answered by maggie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Many times the person holding the grudge has felt betrayed for many reasons by a person or group. This isn't usually one particular issue, but many that so many time have been bottled up inside a person and it eats at them. All of the sudden on small thing happens and it's like a volcano erupting. Forgiveness, at this time, is unheard of. It's going through many phases. Hurt, anger, resentment, etc. I have seen many forms and the positive side is for frienships, it can make them stronger. It forms a bond. The key to this is those two words that many people fail to think of a powerful. "I"m sorry". Both sides showing remorse but then again and sadly, it can destroy friendships. The idea of, "it takes two to Tango" meeting halfway has to happen for this to become a non issue. Sadly, some can't find it in their heart to do this so, it's a hard lesson learned for the other side willing to meet. Forgiving and moving forward is a hard road for many and some just choose to shrug it off and bury in their subconscious. Ironically, grudges can be held a lifetime. no end no resolution and in some ways form of punishment between friends, family. Knowing this, is hard for many and for others, serves no purpose of any kind. Just alot of should of, could of, would of's.
2014-05-06 04:09:46 · answer #2 · answered by K S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because sometimes it's just our "pride" that keeps us from forgiving someone...I know that I have felt that way before but I usually snap out of it unless someone has REALLY done me wrong with something unforgivable....it would have to be pretty bad to hold a grudge for say..years. I know a lot of people that do it though...and sometimes the reason is so trivial but they feel that they should not be the ones to make the first step and make amends......somebody has to take that first step though....otherwise you just stay stagnant and nothing ever gets worked through. I hate to see this sort of thing happen in families....how sad to go through your life and never ask for forgiveness or to forgive.... that other person may pass away or something tragic may happen and then you can never be at peace with yourself. Imagine the guilt you might feel if that were to happen??
I hope there are no grudges in your life...Good Luck to you!
2006-06-13 04:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by Blue_Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not so much that a person holds a grubge is the fact that they have been very hurt by the people they hold the grudge against does that make any sense
2006-06-13 04:40:21 · answer #4 · answered by bernie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it depends on the degree of forgetting and forgiving when people wrong us. I don't have grudges with any person and this helps me a lot in my daily life.
2006-06-13 04:51:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grudge aint always a bad thing, its a natural defence mechanism
2006-06-14 23:20:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the people involved deserve to rot in hell, and until that happens, nothing will change...
I have held a grudge against my father for over 20 years... Once he is dead, then I'll reconsider, until then....
2006-06-13 05:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because they can't get over it..depends on what upset them in the first place, will depend on how long it takes for them to forgive and forget.
2006-06-13 04:38:13 · answer #8 · answered by shaliise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are different some do some dont, but I do think that some cultures are more prone to it, it is nurtured and carried on for generations.
2006-06-13 04:45:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause they feel hurt and dont wanna get hurt again , or thier angry and dont have the heart to forgive . mainly because someone did something to them and they are very annoyed to the point of no return
2006-06-13 04:40:13 · answer #10 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋