me and my girl have made a mutual desicion that until we mature financially and otherwise, our attempt at a long term relationship is only going to flop at a worse time in an even worse way. she'll be moving out in three weeks (exactly one year when she moved in). At first i liked the idea and unconciounsly pushed it, cuz i wanted some space, I belive. but the closer we are getting to the time, the more i am second guessing the desicion. I think this is the best course of action, but its tearing me up as much inside as i know it is in hers (traslation: alot). we hope the tides of Fate will bring us back, but i know how that can go. anyone know if i'm just going through a seperation anxiaty, fear, or whatever? Any advice?
2006-06-13 04:27:59 · 5 answers · asked by donttrustsheep 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh, and not to mention, she's really been my only girlfriend ever, so if anyone has ideas for a guy who has never really been out on a limb to get a girl. i currently don't go to school (eventually will again) and have a job at UPS with really no other social life outside my ring of friends, which consists of few ladies.
2006-06-13 04:39:50 · update #1
I went through a similar situation about a year ago. I think what you are experiencing now could be a combination of anxiety and fear. You could be fearing that you made the wrong decision and afraid to be alone. There is no easy way to get over someone. Only time. I do believe if two people want to be together in the end they will make it work some how. For now concentrate on you.If you two made the decison to be apart then that is the best thing to do until you are 100 % sure you want to be in the relationship. It may be easier for you if you not talk to her even though it may be hard.Takling to her may make things harder for the both of you. Try not to think about all the what if's; what if she finds someone else, what if she doesn't like me anymore, what if i don't like her anymore, what if we never get back together. Focus on your goals and how you can be a better person. I wish you luck
2006-06-13 05:41:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
Take life one day at a time. You've both shown alot of maturity in the decision you've made. If you're meant to be together, you will be. Yes, the change will be hard for awhile, but you will adjust. You probably are suffering some anxiety, but that's normal under the circumstances. Best of luck to both of you!
2006-06-13 04:34:33 · answer #2 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put all your hope into "someday" getting back together, that will just draw things out. If you end things like civilized humans, you will always have that chance of someday getting back together, but for right now, go out and have fun, talk to girls, get their numbers. And just HAVE FUN
2006-06-13 04:36:23 · answer #3 · answered by The Mullet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. It might strengthen your relationship
2006-06-13 04:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by Red R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Time" is the best way....
2006-06-13 04:32:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋