Recently my boyfriend did this. His reason was understandable, but at the same time not, being that he claims to be in love w/ me and that I'm the "most important thing in the world" to him. We met this past year in our second year of college. He is from Canada and I live in the south US. Before he left to go home for the summer we'd already made all of our school plans for next year so we could be together. And I was supposed to visit him in Ontario last saturday. He called me a day and a half before I got on the plane to come see him and said we couldn't work b/c there were too many reasons for him to stay there and he couldnt come here for school. THAT same day earlier he called me talking about being excited to see me and how he couldnt wait and wouldnt let me get off the phone until he said I love you like five times. Does anyone have any feeback on this? Unless you have split personality it doesnt make sense. Oh. and he still emails and ends w/ "love you babe" WTF????
2006-06-13 04:06:56 · 11 answers · asked by Silver_Cinnamon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's lying. He doesn't love you, he wants to see other girls, or he is already seeing other girls.
2006-06-13 04:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Immurity comes to mind. He could also be a total flake. Maybe there is someone else back home, and you were only a "fling". Long distance is also another problem. A 10-month relationship isn't really that long in the grand scheme of things, but maybe it's good thing you found out sooner than later. "Love you babe" can mean a whole different thing than "I Love You". Guys are testosterone driven, which can make it seem like they have dual personalities at times.
In the meantime, don't stress out over it too much. Relax and enjoy your summer. Give it time and see where it goes. If he truly IS in love with you, he will move heaven and earth for you to be together.
2006-06-13 04:17:11 · answer #2 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy has problems and does not know what he wants out of life. Being with him would be like a 24/7 roller coaster ride. Whatever his problem is he is definitely not someone you want to spend time with...he is too schizo. Cut your losses and him from your e-mail because he is not worth it. Whatever his issues are you can do without knowing about them or knowing him. Good luck!
2006-06-13 04:13:38 · answer #3 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a guy, I can say this, "love you babe" is casual and means nothing. My guess is that he said stuff to let you down easy, didn't want to rip your heart out with a dull spoon, rather he used a sharp knife and used precision. My other thing is that he loves you but isn't in love with you. I had that one happen to me. Dated a girl for a year and we told each other we loved each other and then BAM! she called it quits. She loved me and cared for me, but wasn't in love with me anymore....don't ask how that happened!
Good luck, there are plenty of fish in the sea!
2006-06-13 04:13:26 · answer #4 · answered by Jonis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men. UGH. Here is my honest opinion. THIS MAY HURT YOUR FEELINGS SO BE WARNED. He probably had someone in Canada. You were his USA girl and it was exciting and fun for him. He went home and rekindled. He's a jerk who is messing with your head (in case he comes back). Block his email address, go for a hike and go out with your friends. Be by yourself and mentally picture punching him dead in the face.
2006-06-13 04:13:38 · answer #5 · answered by ali_007_007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A. Boys are stupid.
B. He's probably got a lot of things influencing his decision besides you. Maybe another friend or family member gave him a hard time about moving away.
C. Boys are stupid.
2006-06-13 04:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by mardoll10 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm, i dated a guy like this once. so half-assed hey? so what, it's not enough to make it work long-distance for a while? this guy may love you but he's not fighting for you.
the guy i dated was similar- lovey dovey and saying how much i meant to him and how much he cared and talked about 'making love' and stupid crap only girls would normally talk about, and then he broke up with me with no actual concrete reason within like 72 hrs. sooo dumb. you are better off without him.
2006-06-13 04:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't really love you. He means love as you would love a friend. Time for a change in your life. Man, i don't have a girlfriend, but if i was with her i would love her, specially if i said it with my mouth.
2006-06-13 04:10:12 · answer #8 · answered by trobop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds a but wacko...it sounds like he has some type of multiple personalities, or he might have been on drugs.
2006-06-13 04:10:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is playing mind games with you. Don't give him the power to do it. Move on.
2006-06-13 04:09:34 · answer #10 · answered by purple dove 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋