We both like eachother alot but he has no time for me because of his job, he never calls but tells me to call him and normally can't tkae my calls but doesn't call me back. Is he just not that intrested or just busy? I have to tell yah, he works from 12 noon till about 11:30 p.m. the rest of his time he (suppposedly) uses to sleep and rest up for ythe next day. He obviously likes me but he doesnt call and that's a contradiction. How can I talk to him about what I'm feeling and how can I tell him we shouldnt get involved any furhter? Iwoul ddate him, I really like him, but I have to be realsistic.
2006-06-13 03:50:19 · 12 answers · asked by candiecorn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is a friend you do not want to be mean. Instead you should be honest with him and tell him you value his friendship, and are concerned that moving the relationship from friendship to romantic will ruin the friendship. Let him know that as a "friend" it bothers you only slightly when he doesn't put effort into calling you, or returning your calls; however, as a girl friend, his behavior would be unacceptable and a deal breaker. Once the romantic relationship ended your friendship would be damaged for a very long time... maybe forever. Honesty is the best policy!
2006-06-13 04:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You sound very young. If so, you are probably not ready to settle down anyway. Therefore all of this wondering about this relationship (before it ever started) is sort of futile. Go find someone who can meet your needs and stop wringing your hands over this man. Go have fun.
On the other hand, if you are ready to be serious, this sounds like a good thing...you are friends first, you are attracted, he's obviously hardworking. His schedule won't be crazy forever and I doubt he works 7 days a week every week. So buck up. He probably doesn't like working so hard. Having a girlfriend complain to him about it really doesn't help.
Good luck.
2006-06-13 10:58:13 · answer #2 · answered by c_schumacker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anything that you care about you make time for.. when my daughter was younger, I was breastfeeding , working full time and going to school. But I met a guy and I was interested. So I called him sitting in traffic. Text'd him while I was waiting for class to begin. Every night before I went to sleep, even if it was 1am I would call and say good night, just to let him know that I was thinking of him.
Even when I couldn't talk to him, ( if he called me and the baby was crying or something) I always ACKNOWLEDGED the fact that he was reaching out to me, by calling back. This guy doesn't like you .. He likes you , liking him. And there is a difference.
2006-06-13 10:56:40 · answer #3 · answered by earthling4luv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your in a relationship and such circumstance become a necessary evil, its a test of ones love for another, however, if it exist prior to a relationship and prevents enough quality time together to even establish a meaningful relationship then it can't possibly provide a healthy circumstance to deal with, not to mention he spending that much time on the job usually leads to making stronger ties with co-workers or associate than their own partners..its a lose lose situation..and I recommend against it.
2006-06-13 11:03:20 · answer #4 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have a way of making time for the things that they are really interested in. He is not obviously not interested in you enough to make time for you. Besides, as long as you pursue him, he doesn't have to worry about you going anywhere.
Also, you say that he spends his spare time sleeping (supposedly). Sounds like you don't trust him already. Not a good starting point for a good relationship.
You don't have to tell him anything. Just stop pursuing him and enjoy your life. If he is really interested in you he will make time to connect with you. In either case, you will be a happier woman, don't you think?
2006-06-13 10:58:35 · answer #5 · answered by Bud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's just busy, and maybe you should sit down with him and ask him what kind of relationship he wants with you. Tell him what you want as well, and if he keeps going with his job and doesn't pay any attention to you, believe me, it's time to split. But if he finds time on a weekend or whenever he's free to be with you and gives you his undivided attention, stick with him.
2006-06-13 10:56:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't have time for you he's not your friend. For the people and for the things we like we can always find time and when one says, "I don't have time" one really means, "I'm not interested." Get busy too and don't call either and see what happens.
2006-06-13 11:22:08 · answer #7 · answered by Richard III 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if youre sure this guy likes you, then you should also be sure that u can trust him 100 %. Otherwise, an attraction is best left as an attraction only
2006-06-13 10:57:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, basically your saying your relationship consists of phone calls and not actually seeing each other?
Kind of an obvious answer isn't it?
2006-06-13 10:53:41 · answer #9 · answered by Shep 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out to lunch or dinner together and have a talk about what is going on and your feelings about him.
2006-06-13 10:54:55 · answer #10 · answered by anvilsandinkstudios 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋