or forgive I love him but it hurts so much that he could do that to me someone please help also he used to be really loving but now he does not even kiss me anymore what do I do
2006-06-13 03:43:56 · 31 answers · asked by debbie_jane_ryan2010 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hon you need to check that kind of behavior. That is just disrespectful. You shouldn't have to deal with that.
2006-06-13 03:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Nell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you have to realize is that you never "Forget" something like that, but you can always forgive. Look at him and say "I forgive you." Tell him how you feel until you are blue in the face, then leave it like that. If you keep bringing up this issue you can never move on to the next point of the relationship. What he did was wrong and yes you were hurt, but life is too short to dwell on the things people do. If you can feel you can never trust him again, and you can't forgive, then move on. You have to remember, males do NOT want to hear about the same issue over and over again. Because he will ask you this question that will always catch you, "Then why are you still with me." Now.....him not kissing you anymore is a problem. You need to evaluate the relationship and yourself. If a man doesnt want to be touched kissed hugged or anything of an affectionate nature by his mate, someone else may be in the picture. I know after I have sex, I'm not in the mood for MORE affection. And maybe in his case, he's got all the attention he needs from the girl he may be seeing. But dont' jump to conclusions and say he's cheating or someone else is in the picture. Here's one way you can find out....
Next time......play wrestle with him...nip at his neck...steal kisses from his lips.....if he has an attitude and pulls away jokingly ask "What's the matter? I bet your other girl doesn't play like me." See if he stops in his tracks. Facial expressions can tell all!
2006-06-13 03:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetheart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can't make someone love u. The man he is right now is the man he'll be 4 the rest of his left unless he's under 12 (which I doubt) don't 4get that there R about 6 billion people on this planet half of which R men so whatever it is that he's not doing to make u happy, believe me their r millions waiting to replace him. If he doesn't kiss u anymore it's because he's kissing someone else, sorry if it hurts to hear that, but the sooner u let him go the sooner you'll find someone to make ur happy. Look in the mirror and tell yourself " I'm a Diva, and i deserve a prince, not a loser" cuz thats the truth. His ex sounds like a skank or else she wouldn't have messed around w/ him after the divorce. Move on, its hard but its worth it.
2006-06-13 03:51:14 · answer #3 · answered by HONEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can I tell you that you don't already know in your heart of hearts. A man that cheats can never be trusted and trust is the foundation of every healthy relationship. What you have to really ask yourself is...Why would you stay with someone who doesn't really love you? You deserve more than that. And its not like he's the only man on the planet. Has it ever occured to you that if he is already "cooling off" that it may only be a matter of time before he leaves you for someone else. When someone really loves you its not something they can fake. You'll know it and your heart will be singing not sad. I can hear the sadness in your heart. Do yourself a favor girl and determine to have only the best things in your life. A man who will love you and "be faithful", friends who will support you even when you fail (because we all do at one time or another) and respect for yourself. Because if you don't value and respect who YOU are...no one else will.
2006-06-13 04:02:04 · answer #4 · answered by Noggy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this man doesn't care to make you happy any more. Why forgive him? He didn't ask for forgiveness. And if he's not loving anymore, that should tell you all you need to know. Leave him go....there's much better out there. Find one that truly cares for you.
2006-06-13 03:48:46 · answer #5 · answered by trueblond195 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and if that doesn't help then leave. Everyday that goes by and you feel lonely in your relationship than you are hurting yourself more. Move on to someone who loves you and who doesn't hurt you like that. By staying and allowing yourself to be hurt you are giving him the upper hand in the relationship that is supposed to be equal and honest.
2006-06-13 03:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by KAI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This relationship doesn't sound healthy for you, at this point. Mutual trust is essential - do you really think you would be able to trust him again? Treat yourself right! You set the standard for what is acceptable.
Maybe some time out of the relationship, then try to start again.
2006-06-13 04:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by Jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously when he was still seeing his ex, their relationship hadn't completely ended...I was guilty of a similar situation, divorce wasn't complete but I was already dating...hind site,it was just a game being played, but his lack of affection toward you now is something to be concerned about....you need to ask why the change and act accordingly...perhaps he jumped into this relationship , rebound, to soon.
2006-06-13 03:51:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WoW believe it or not I was in the same situation except I was the ex-wife, he kept making false promises, I think its a game to them, to play with hearts like that. I think you and the ex-wife should get together and play his ***
2006-06-13 03:46:21 · answer #9 · answered by savvy_seraphem_smile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it sounds like he might be up to something again. Remember someone that loves and respects you will never do anything to hurt you. Move on you deserve better.
2006-06-13 03:46:04 · answer #10 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, kick him to the curb. He's a loser.
The whole reason you're with someone is to BOTH give and receive love, not to act as a doormat or the be ignored. Trust me, you CAN do MUCH better.
2006-06-13 03:47:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋