Girlfriend broke up with me a few weeks ago and insisted being friends because she 'wasn't a relationship person' (excuses :P). Instead of crying about it and acting like a wuss I instead made it look like I was fine with everything. I've also made it clear my life is going great right now and am happy. Although I do plan to move on and meet new girls, I'd also like to see if I can get back with the ex girlfriend because I do actually like her alot and we get along well. Would casually letting her know that I am dating again be a good idea to help win her back? Or just staying friends and being confident and fun to be around? I'm not one of those guys who is begging to get back with her and I can't live without her I'd like to see what some good things are to do they may help out if there's still a chance. :P
2006-06-13 03:40:53 · 30 answers · asked by everlongdrummer87 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO. That's lame. Move on.
Don't be friends w/ her...it'll only prolong the pain. Just move on.
She wasn't a 'relationship person' because you weren't the guy she wanted to be in a relationship with. Take it like a man, leave her alone, and get on w/ your life.
2006-06-13 03:42:08 · answer #1 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-20 01:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by juan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Games are never a good idea. I would try just telling her that you have fun with her and miss having her around. I would also find out why she thinks you're not a relationship kind of guy. Is it an excuse for her b/c she wanted to end it, or is there something you need to improve on. You can ask her this as friends first too by telling her you don't want to make the same mistakes with the next person. If her answer is something you think you can change or prove to her isn't true, then I would ask her if she thought you could have another chance. Good luck!
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2016-05-13 20:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it may backfire on you if you try to put on a show. Honestly and calmly let her know that you think you get along well and still have feelings for her, but you understand she doesn't feel that way.
It may not be the right timing for her to be in a relationship, and if that's the case, it's not the right decision to continue, even though you may be a really good match. Timing is crucial in relationships.
It sounds to me like she has some personal stuff to work out and it has nothing to do with you. If your heart can take it, I'd say keep being her friend, but check with yourself to make sure you are not hanging onto a dream that isn't happening. If you continue to have feelings for her in a friendship, it may get messy for you.
2006-06-13 03:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by kannajo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, sorry that your relationship ended. I am sure you're going through a hard time, I wont try and console you because even though we've all been through heart ache, every case is very different.
I think that even though it might hurt to hear this, she has made her feelings very clear. She doesn't see you as relationship material. She probably loves being around you, and therefore sees you as her friend. As for telling a white lie to get her back, it may work it may not. However, do you want her to get back with you just because she's jealous, or because she actually wants to.
If it's meant to be she'll see you as you are and want to be with you Be her friend, be there for her and honour her decision.
2006-06-13 04:04:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, dude, i don't think it'll work... the best way is being honest....u know, girls respond to that....usually....anyway, you're saying " I'm not one of those guys who is begging to get back with her and I can't live without her "..maybe begging is what she actually wanted...but don't do it! you're a man and you should keep your dignity intact. so what i think u should do is simply telling your girl you're good without her..., but u would be better with her...u would like a lot to be together again , but if she doesn't ...she's free.....so give her space and time....she'll probably come back...but if she won't, move on and live your life....she doesn't want a relationship....she could have her reason to be like that...maybe she's scared of it, maybe she had some bad experiences in the past, or maybe she needs to take some time off for herself....anyway, u both should be honest....
2006-06-13 03:58:57 · answer #8 · answered by hoodchica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, don't tell her you're dating, let her find out on her own with simple clues. Such as a lipstick in your car that she sits on accidently. When she pulls it out, you can say casually, "whoops, she must've forgotten it last weekend"....something similiar.
Or, if she's at your place...make sure it's somewhat obvious that another girl has been there. Anything from a blouse left on a chair, to makeup items in your bathroom.
If she asks, then just say "just dating...nothing serious". It's enough to let her know that you're a wanted man and that she may lose you if she thinks others are interested.
Good luck.
2006-06-13 03:46:52 · answer #9 · answered by Shep 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is eactly the right thing to do
Go out, have fun, meet girls - you'll eventually find someone you like better.
In the meantime she has lost her safety net, suddenly her emotional crutch is not that interested anymore. She'll want to win your attention back.
but be careful, because if she only wants you when you're less available then you are on a sticky wicket if you do get back together - you're stuck playing it cool forever.
Probably the best outcome will be that you'll find someone who returns your love without manipulation
2006-06-14 09:48:23 · answer #10 · answered by del-d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋