2006-06-13 03:21:52 · 11 answers · asked by Shya 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do you mean "mannish"? As one single mother to another---I would have to say that "mannish" little boys need to be kept out of adult conversation and adult situations. Which is kinda hard when it's just you and your son, but you have to make a sacrifice. There maybe some people's houses that y'all can't go to. Your son has to know that you're the parent and that it takes alot of work to make sure he has everything he needs. He has to appreciate your struggle, but he can't be your "sounding board" when others get on your nerves(especially family members) When he hears you talking shyt about people--in his child's mind he thinks he can treat people the way he hears you talk about people. He doesn't understand that some of those things you said, You would never repeat to the person intended for the comment. If all else fails---Cut azz!!!
2006-06-13 04:59:05 · answer #1 · answered by gzmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Managed? What do you mean by that? As a single mom, I do the best that I can every day. I try to make time for my son and I to do something together at least once a week. He is 18 and graduated high school this past week. He gave me a mother's day card that told me how proud he was of me. He understands that I did the best I could and accepts "NO" as an answer. I couldn't be more proud of him and I am not afraid to let him know.
If you keep the communication open and honest....there should be very little problem. Some of the things he tells me I might not like, but he's honest and to me that is more important. To some people...my son might be considered "spoiled", but he did NOT have nor get everything his own way!!!! When times are tough, I tell him that as long as we have each other, trust, honesty, communication and most of all LOVE, we can get through anything!!!!!
2006-06-13 11:43:12 · answer #2 · answered by DrDave 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every child needs 2 parents, not matter what. Even as a single parent, the kids need stability. If you don't already, put them and keep them on a schedule so they get used to what is supposed to happen daily so there are no surprises. Pay attention to them, don't snap at them when they do nothing wrong, and yes they do need a male figure in their lives. Many different men would do more harm than good simply because it would confuse them.
Try to keep them happy. If they step out of line, you need to show them who's boss. Kids need discipline. I'm not saying to beat them bloody or anything, but if you lay down the rules now, they will respect you as they grow up. You still need to show them you love them even after a spanking if that's your method. Taking away material things does not work because they will always get them back. It even shows them that it's ok to do that to others. Good luck!
2006-06-13 10:42:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what you mean by "managed", but first in foremost you show them LOTS of love and attention, put them in organized sports or activities which will teach them teamwork, humility, frienship, and character. Let them know that education is #1. If their father is not in their life amke sure at least 1 positive male role model is whether it be your Pastor, a grandparent, uncle, whatever. Also, don't have men coming in and out of your house. If it's not a serious long term relationship, they have no rason to be around your kids. Believe me, boys will hold a grudge and look at you in a different light.
2006-06-13 10:29:19 · answer #4 · answered by marquisa22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Single Father, I can only give you one answer.. Just keep trying.. It is really not fun being a single parent..If you are not gray haired by the time you are 30, you are doing pretty good.
Have a nice day. dvz
2006-06-13 10:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep as many positive loving men around as possible
2006-06-13 10:28:39 · answer #6 · answered by Thomas S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that they a male figure in their lives and put them in after school programs.
2006-06-13 10:25:21 · answer #7 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a babysitter that can watch your kids so you can do what ever you can do and if the dad is not helping you can get chilsupport from him and also play with your kids
2006-06-13 10:26:31 · answer #8 · answered by christyboo!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you threaten them with time outs. then ban TV and withhold cookies. if all else fails, paste band aids to their mouths.
2006-06-13 10:25:52 · answer #9 · answered by uzisilber 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to get a man they always like a man to look up to!!!
2006-06-13 11:33:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋