this is a situation I have found myself in. I have been with the girl for going on 2 years I do really like her. Everyone talk likes we are going to get married (her and my parents). I dont see it ending anyother way except with us getting married, but she just doesnt do it for me, shes not a very sexual person with a low sex drive.
2006-06-13 03:05:52 · 15 answers · asked by usc_drew 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like to me all your worried bout is sex now although its a special part of marriage and stuff you should tell her what you would like . so you need to be oopennnnnnnnnnnnnnnn with this girl and just tell her. sure you will break her heart, she will be pissed at you and she'll find someone else. no i dont know the whole situation, but if all you do is likkkeeeee her???????????// after two years?????????? why are you still with her, if you only like her???????? you dont have to marry this girl. break it off b4 you end up cheating on her. BREAK IT OFFFFFFFFFFFFFF, dont hurt this girl. maybe she needs to know how to pls you better COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY TO A REALLY GOOD RELATIONSHIP, and seems to me communication is what YOU ARE LACKING with her. im not tryin to be rude dude, i promise u that, but man dont do that to her. if you dont want to get married, you need to gently tell her that you want to be single, go out get u some a s s then youll be sorry cause maybe shes not doing it for you on the sex part, but you will probably maybe? realize you will have lost the best thing in your life, which is the same thing i have done.exacttttttttttt same situation so i broke up with her. now i wonder to this day how shes doing.
so dude again if all u do is like her after 2 years of a relationship just tell her i mean maybe its not meant to be, or maybe there is a wild side to her but shes waiting to get married
2006-06-13 03:13:00 · answer #1 · answered by texasdaddy2009 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is important but not the most important thing when you are in a relationship. Because sex will end at some point in your lives - bodies don't stay the same, people change physically but you have to know that you can connect with your partner in other ways not only sexually. Because when it's really gone - what will you have? Especially after a women gives birth - there are a lot of things that change. Beware - you are with someone because you are happy with them even without the sex. If sex is really that important to you then you should talk to her and let her know that you would like to try a few different things / techniques... or go shopping and buy her some sexy lingerie and tell her that you'd love to seee her in it...cuz you think she's sexy - always compliment her... maybe this works. But if you think that sex is the most important thing and you can't work it out with her then you have to forget about what everyone is saying - her and your parents - you have to be happy and you have to please yourself - as selfish that sounds. Otherwise in the long run - you might end up cheating on her (maybe after you're maried and w/kids) and that would be very hurtful overall. Think, think with your own head.
2006-06-13 03:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by Heidy M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though sex shouldn't play the most important role in a relationship, it is a important factor. Maybe if you helped her out by telling her what you like, and how you want it, that could make it better. There are many ways to spice up your sexual relationship w/ her. It's a matter of pin pointing the problem, and correcting it. Don't marry her if there are "any doubts" about anything! It could become a major issue once to two are married.
2006-06-13 03:29:17 · answer #3 · answered by Whonosbest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. In the long run you will be discontent and may even resent your marriage, I wouldn't end it just yet, try to heat things up, do all the things you can think of to turn her on, no matter how trivial.Her age can have something to do with this, women don't hit there sexual peaks until about thirty so if you are young(18-25) you've got some time, and as for the parents wanting marriage...all parents want grandchildren and for their children to find someone and settle down so don't trip there. If you truly love her it won't matter how much sex you have, just the quality of sex you have.Just try to find other ways to bring you closer to her, and if all else fails ask her to be more sensual.
in a tactful way and she may blossom into a "wildflower"
GOOD LUCK !!
2006-06-13 03:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by brooklynbornson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a huge part of any relationship. If you have been with her this long you must love her. The question you should ask yourself is if you want to deal with this problem for the rest of your life. Once you have decided and are 100% sure of your decisions go into full heartedly. If you decide to break up, than break up. If you decide you can live with it make sure you give her you whole heart. BTW you should probably get some pre-marriage counseling that way you will know if it is a libido problem or if it is a deeper issue.
2006-06-13 03:13:11 · answer #5 · answered by hockey_kisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2yrs? Have you talked 2 her about it?If not, U should. If U R not satisfied sexually, most likely U will end up cheating to fill the void!!(even if u love her) So I think its best to do something now , and NOT after U R married.
2006-06-13 03:20:23 · answer #6 · answered by stef 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to me,dont do it!!!!!!!!!!! if she is not getting down with you and you feel this is not your mate because of this,the worst thing you can do is put the rope around your neck by marrying her, put a hold on the marriage,its a mattter a fact put a hold on the relationship,dont marry her because people or your family expect you to do it.They are not the one who are going to suffer sleeping with mrs piece of ice over there.LOL do what is best for you,and for her too,give her the chance to find a dull lover some else where. You do what is best for ya!!! get the heck out of there...... and if she is a good girl maybe the best thing for you to be is her friend.you said it your self you like her,that is good for friends and you are thinking about marriage you should be saying you love her.Don't do it man................... good luck....
2006-06-13 03:16:54 · answer #7 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
passion and attraction is what should bind you in the first place. then its the mental connection, understanding and communication. these are all good basis to start a long term relationship - together with a proper financial situation of course.
But one thing you should avoid is behaving to satisfy the other's expectations - i mean that of your/her parents etc. You need to be selfish in these kind of decisions cos in the end it will be just something about YOU!
2006-06-13 03:32:04 · answer #8 · answered by Amantia A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can answer your own question honestly...
I dont think that there is some people that has low sexual drive.. I guess maybe her love for you has doubt, or she is preoccupied of too many things..
If you are not satisfied with her, it means you will not be happy...
But always remember sex is not always matter when it comes to partnership and marriage.. Ask yourself.. if she makes you happy, if not better quit..
2006-06-13 03:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try to get her to open up sexually. Introduce her to new and different things in the bed and see if she opens up. If you try that and it doesn't work, don't get married. All you are gong to do is end up cheating. If she's satisfying you now, it's not going to happen.
2006-06-13 03:18:13 · answer #10 · answered by shizzy0117 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋