My boyfriend and I have been together 4 years, we have always had a great relationship I couldnt ask for anyone better. The first 2 yrs of our relationship we had an amazing sex life 2-3 times aday we would do it anywhere and everywhere, We were just very attracted to each other. The attraction is still there on both parts, but it seems the sex is slowly fading out of our relationship, He owns his own buisness so he works alot and when he gets home he wants it but is so tired he falls asleep,I want it also but I end up falling asleep due toexhaustion from work school and kids, what can we do???
2006-06-13 02:59:12 · 19 answers · asked by italianprincess_fl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First don't put sex at the top of our life. You two may as well be married. Sounds so much like married life. As you get older sex will still be there but it changes. Take a vacation away from kids and business. That is hard to do. Be patient. Sometimes sex is great if you wait a while. Take a nap if possible so you have more energy and not so tired.
2006-06-20 02:50:01 · answer #1 · answered by sally_little03 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow, welcome to the club. This has been a problem in my relationship for years. I know it sounds awful, but it helps to schedule a set time. Like a Saturday night when you guys have both had the day off and won't be so tired?
The long hours and young kids won't be around forever. Make time for sex with scheduling, and you can get through this tough time to the other side - when the kids are older, your work is more settled, and you can "rediscover" each other again!
Trust me, being close even on a schedule is so much better than going the celibate route.
Even if the night is a set "date" - you can still be spontaneous. Since you know it's a weekly thing, for example, you can spice things up by having him buy you some lingerie. Then he can have fun thinking about what he wants you to wear, and you can have fun getting a present that's really just as fun for him. See? Anticipation!
Or you can surprise him a massage. It's all about planning. You can come up with a fun idea even while taking the kids to school or daycare. Give it a try...
And like I said before, this period in your life won't last forever!
2006-06-13 10:12:15 · answer #2 · answered by katielevitt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When doing all that you are doing something has to take a back seat. You sound like me and my husband. Kids and work cannot be put on hold. Sex does slow down to a crawl sometimes. We used to wake up very very early just to be sure the kids were asleep and we could make love without interuptions. It helped when the kids started spending the night with their friends. It does get better as the kids get older. By then the business is a little more stable. It will get better. I promise. Ours are grown and gone now. So now we decide do we want sex or a nap! But life is still sweet.
2006-06-13 10:58:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
passion for sex do subside after awhile, especially for couples that been together for awhile. But the relationship either grow stronger or stagnate. Sex is not a priority at your relationship at this point, perhaps making a life for the future is. you are not gonna recover from 2 or 3 times a day. What you can do is to plan a date once in awhile make sure you clear everything off your schedules to do so. Leave love notes for each other. A quick phonecall of thinking about you is always good. Perhaps once in awhile he can send you a bunch of flowers for no reason other than appreciating you. A little kiss or nudge before going to sleep is better than nothing......
2006-06-13 10:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself which is most important to you , work or your relationship. If it is your relationship then you might think about planning little date's with each other. Maybe just dinner and a movie, or a quickie on a side road always works, or just have the kids away for the night and spend it holding each other watching TV.
2006-06-13 10:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by mamiles29 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just set a play date when the kids are not home and you guys have no work or school. Send the kids to their grand parents and you 2 get a hotel room and knock some boots.
2006-06-13 10:17:00 · answer #6 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand my husband and i both work plus i go to school and we have 5 children we have been together 8 years and we still have sex twice a day. we get up together everymorning and do it,lucky me i get to go back to sleep afterward cause thats just to early, and then when he gets home we get in the shower together do it again or whenever one of us gets up in the middle of the night for a drink or something we will wake up the other for a quickie.Its great. all you gotta do is for like a week or two just pay close attention to both of your habits and you can find that if you wait a little longer or get up earlier you cant work it out. It is so worth getting up early for.
2006-06-13 10:31:24 · answer #7 · answered by shortpplrule01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds silly, but schedule time for it. Good sex rarely happens spontaniously after you've been in a relationship for a while. Schedule a night where mom has the kids, he knocks off early, and you've taken a nap. Hope this helps!
2006-06-13 10:04:27 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica Anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ever played with the same toy for years? Ever eat the same food every day for years? Then don't expect any different with sex, specially with men. We DO get tired of the same cracker after a while. It's normal.
2006-06-13 10:05:14 · answer #9 · answered by scorpion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it looks like his business and your kids take too much out of you guys. I'd say you should get help in solving those two problems first, like maybe a babysitter for your kids and hiring more people for your husband's business so you won't pass out from exhaustion everyday!
2006-06-13 10:06:18 · answer #10 · answered by mystic_gohan_masenko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋