Are there any scriptures in the Bible regarding coping with the death of a child?

Question

We lost our 16 yr old son in a car accident in January, and our other son was seriously injured but did survive. Time is not proving to help, actually gets worse. We have decided to turn to the Bible and hope the words of God can bring comfort to our hearts.
We are Christians, but do not attend church on a regular basis. I don't know where to begin when it comes to reading the Bible. Any help would be greatly appreciated. We have the NIV version.
Thank You, and only serious answers, no non believers please.

Answer 1

I'm sorry for your loss. The first verse that comes to mind is Ecclesiastes 3:2, a time to be born and a time to die. I can't say it brings much comfort. Verse 4 says ' a time to mourn and a time to dance.'.
I found the 23 Psalm to be a comfort when my 16 year old daughter died.
Colossians 3:3 For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God. (4) When Christ, who is your life, appears, then you also will appear with him in glory.
I was wanting an answer as to why my daughter died, and this was the verse I came to when I opened my Bible. It has brought me comfort
Also, Psalm 139:13 - 16. All our days are known by God before we are even born.
I hope these help. We just passed the 15 year mark on our child's death, and things will get better. I have always felt that God took on most of the pain when she died; I know that is strange.
God bless your family, and also your other son.
My daughter was saved,; I think that's what got me through it.

Answer 2

Take a look at John 11:1-16. This contains scriptures about he death of Lazarus. I think this is an important scripture because in whole it explains what death is in a way many do not refer to it today. Many say when we die we go to heaven or hell but the bible says very different in many cases. How I came to appreciate this fact is by asking myself, why would there be a resurrection if based on the life we lived determined our destination of Heaven or hell? Also take a look at scripture Titus 1:2, John 10:27-28, John 11:25-26, Revelations 21:14 and 20:14, Isaiah 25:8. These help us to remember God's hope for mankind through Jesus' ransom sacrifice.

I hope these scriptures help in ways that you can continue on, knowing that you will one day reunite with your son in better conditions. Beginning your healing in the bible is the perfect way to start and I hope it brings you closer to God. I send to you my condolence.

Sincerely,
Natasha

Answer 3

I am sorry for your loss. I am also a Christian and though I have never lost a child, I know someone at my church who has. I am looking up some scriptures for you and one is Matthew 5:4 "Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted." I have learned that you also need to pray specific on what you want. It is also good to have people pray for you as well. Psalm 39:7 "And now, Lord, what do I wait for? My hope is in you." Also, Psalm 119:147. You can also look in your concordance at the back of the Bible and look up, Hope, loss, grief, etc. Also a good book is the Women of Faith Devotional Bible. I hope this helps. My prayers are with you

Answer 4

I am so very sorry for your loss, SusieQ. Any long answer I could write would be inadequate. If there is no support group in your own church, find a Christian support group dealing with the loss of a child in your community or start one. I have talked to quite a few parents in this situation but the best answer I can offer since we cannot see each other... is that you find other believers for group support. Read your Bible with faith for tomorrow because the answers are surely there for you. Your faith is evident in your question. Your pain is there and not masked and you sound wanting to heal. Find as many others as you can who can tell you with a look and their arms that they understand. If there is no group nearby, then ask your pastor to help you get one started. God Bless You.

Answer 5

Dear suziQ,

I am not a Christian, so I'm sorry that I can't offer help with Bible sources, but I wanted to pass along the name of a book that helped me when I lost a loved one. It's called _Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief_ by Martha W. Hickman, and although it doesn't follow a specific religious doctrine, it is spiritual in its content and applies to people of all faiths.

There is a page for each day of the year that read like diary entries, and I found that allowing myself a bit of time to read the days' entries gave me time each day to focus on my grief, rather than feeling constantly overwhelmed. I would spend 30 minutes or so reading the entry for the day, thinking about my loved one, crying, being angry--whatever I felt like doing. Having something to help me focus and deal with my feelings really helped me feel hopeful about getting through each day, slowly and with purpose.

The author's daughter died in a horseback riding accident, and she offers comfort without cliches and encourages readers to feel hopeful while recognizing that the grieving process is different for everyone. I highly recommend it; you can read a description and reviews at amazon.com (link below).

I am sorry for your loss, and I hope you can find something meaningful to you that will bring you comfort.

Answer 6

Hi let me say first that I ma so sorry for your lost . sometimes we feel like no one is listen and do not understand but God is a loving god and he do care about you and your lost . the and pray will get you thought this most difficult time . Read Romans and let god work . you will be surprised what will come . take care and my god bless you and your family .

Answer 7

I am so sorry for your loss and am glad to see you reaching out.
You are very vulnerable now...please be careful.
Have you tried conventional counseling....grief counseling?
Have you tried to find any grief-support groups that meet near your area?
It is always wise to find some people who have been in your shoes...who have gone through what you have gone through.
They will understand you where others won't.
God works through people.
Don't limit your options, please!