She is a woman who has issues but repeatedly blames them on me. She apollogizes only to curse me out again. She calls me every name in the book with the eception of a child of gOD.
2006-06-13 02:15:09 · 9 answers · asked by Destined2beGreat 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Actually,I am a grown married woman with a mother just like this.While it's painful,I just refused to take the abuse.For years I repeated a variation of this to her:"I love you,I'd love to hear from you when you are feeling better."CLICK,hang up or get the heck out.ALWAYS throw the ball in her court-I'm done now,get in touch when YOU can talk/feel better/are in a better frame of mind etc.Don't participate in the war and criticism,just end it for your own peace,leaving an invite behind.I t took a few tears but almost evey time I have contac twith my mother now she can remain reasonable,and you need to end it when the abuse begins to establish your new boundaries EACH TIME!GOOOOOD LUCK!!!
2006-06-13 02:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by lotsalovetanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom used to blame me for everything too. So I know how you feel. Depending on how old you are, the main way to solve the problem is to move out, but if you're stuck there for awhile, try talking things out with her. If this doesn't work, another way is to ignore her when she acts this way toward you. If you show your mom that her actions do not bother you, then she might lay off a bit. This helped me a lot with my mom. Just keep in mind that her problems are not your problems, and she needs to deal with them on her own. I can give you more advice if you need it. Just email me. I have a lot of experience with this type of behavior. Good luck!
2006-06-13 02:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by armand19842002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider family counseling. If she has some issues, they need to be worked out. Since I don't know what those issues are, or what you fight about I can't really give any other advice then that. You two need to sit and talk, and since you've apparently tried that to no avail, you're going to need someone to mediate.
You also might be forced to decide if you want to keep your mother in your life.
2006-06-13 02:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by tarnishedhalo85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you mother sounds like she has a chemical imbalance. the brain produces chemicals the keep the though processes going one such chemocal is called dopamine. too much or too little of these chemicals can cause mental problems. these problems can be anything from minor depression to hearing voices and seeing things.
pchycotrophic medication is use to restore the imbalance to a more managable level.
i know this because i suffer from it, i recently lost a wonderful woman because of it. i am very sad.
i know it can difficult to deal with believe me she regrets what she is doing.
2006-06-13 02:33:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The woman doesn't hate you she just has issues with herself. Knowing that, you know better than to take her comments personal. Learn the art of detachment.
2006-06-13 02:20:36 · answer #5 · answered by rayhanna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's call passive aggresive behavior. Ignore her accept the fact that she 's got issues and need to deal with it on her own. and you want no part of it in your life.
2006-06-13 02:19:11 · answer #6 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know...maybe she doesn't know that you feel like she hates you. She might think that you think that she isn't serious when she does that. Try calmly talking to her about how she makes you feel and that might help. If it doesn't, you could try a good counselor. good luck!
2006-06-13 02:20:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Limit your contact with her. When you do talk to her be prepared for her behavior. Know that it is her problem, not yours.
2006-06-13 02:21:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking with her when she is calm. Maybe get some counseling
2006-06-13 02:18:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋