I met this girl a while back, but due to some unique circumstances I've been forced to wait for this girl for over a year. And I'm fine with that because she's worth it. In order to make waiting easier, I feel the need to always talk to her and communicate. She has opposite feelings regarding this, she gets frustrated by talking because she can't have what she wants so it's easier for her not to talk as much. She described it as, if she gave up chocolate for lent she woudln't want someone dangling chocolate in front of her face the whole time. I'm just trying to be empathetic for this and understand and I can't completely. I just want to know if these feelings she's having and her way of approaching this is normal.
2006-06-13 01:55:35 · 16 answers · asked by Maestro 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are almost in the same situation. I met a great guy here(online) 5mos ago. In short, we fell in love. The thing is, we have to wait too because he's currently deployed. Just like you, he's here for me to chat whenever he's free in between missions. Luckily, it was so often. But unlike your girl, I'm always looking forward to talking with my man even before we got involved. Now, we always make it a point to meet online as much as we could..because just like you, communication is important.
What I'm saying is, you're the only one feeling the interest to make this sort of relationship work out until the time you see each other. I feel that, she's not into you...because if she does she will appreciate what you are doing, like being there and talking to her. She, on the other hand will at least make an effort to do the same for you. I feel that she doesn't want you to devote much of your time on her because maybe she's not feeling the same way as you do. I think that if I was that girl I wouldn't complain that you're just like a "chocolate dangling in front of me and yet i couldn't have you for the moment", so it's better not to talk as much?? Well, it's better to have this kind of communication than nothing! Because if there's not much or even nothing....you will both drift far, far apart.
Remember this, when a girl feels something for you...she'd go head-over-heels flattered with all the attention you are giving. We love to be loved and appreciated but if we don't feel anything for the man, everything that he does is nothing and sometimes annoying. Think about it, maybe she just don't want to burst your bubble for some reasons only known to her.
So, try to loosen up. Take it lightly. Disappear from her view for a while maybe she'll realize you mean something to her. If she tries to contact you well it could mean something but still play it cool. Don't let your guard down unless you are sure.
Use discernment.
2006-06-13 02:26:29 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 11⤊ 2⤋
hey, no affence but you may think its worth your time but its not, you are making some sacrafices so why can't she? All I can say is that she found a guy that will wait for her as long as needed but she is rejecting you. From a females point of view stop waiting, Im trying to be nice about this but it frustrates me that there are some guys out there that are good and then girls just reject them!!! Anyways Im in School so I gotta go bye bye
2006-06-13 02:07:24 · answer #2 · answered by lovin_me_always45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard to wait and it is said the best is worth waiting for and i understand why you want to communicate with her all the time but she seems like a very independant woman and very strong willed you must respect that and i'm sure its hard for her too but maybe you should just stand there and just wait for her to call and make the move if you stop calling her all the times you do just call her half the amount she will notice and shell wonder why whe may be scared of losing you and may want more communication
2006-06-13 02:01:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the one cause I can suppose of that might make her let you know she cheated is to harm you. If that is the case, what the hell change does your response make to her? If you does not appear harm via it, she in most cases feels un-fulfilled. She desired to peer the harm in your face and to your eyes. I desire she reveals a man who will do the equal to her. People who're in a dating, cheat, after which run inform their lover that they cheated deserve any and all unhealthy matters that come their method, wanting bodily violence. If you're relationship the variety of individual who does this ... I quite desire you appear for a brand new lady who's wholly distinctive from her. Whatever features that after drew you to her ... appreciate them and keep away from them. If you confirmed no bad response ... well for you. You took away all her a laugh. If this occurs once more ... simply inform her that it is nice, all you desired was once her frame, besides. Then, flip and stroll away. Good good fortune on discovering a girl who is aware of find out how to be actual.
2016-09-09 00:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know her unique situation but I wouldn't stop your life for this girl. You can keep your feelings in your heart for her but what if you wait all that time and then all of a sudden she decides against it. If I truly cared about someone I wouldn't want to cut them out of my life. I don't believe the way she is approaching this is okay for you. You need to think about your feelings too. I think you need to try and get her out of your life and move on and if she truly is the right one she will come around. But in the mean time don't put your life on hold. You may miss out on the right one for you out there!!
2006-06-13 02:01:05 · answer #5 · answered by J L 76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, The same thing is happening to my best friend. She met a man over the summer, and he said, "I can't date u, let's date in High school." She believed this, she met him summer ending seventh grade starting eighth. And she's perfectly ok with waiting for him. Personally, I think he's cheating already.
2006-06-13 03:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by Shy n' Sweet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not real sure why u have to wait a year,this sounds weird already,for w/e reason sounds like she aint tryin to put her feelings in2 something she knows cant happen right now.which i dont blame her for,as i said in the 1st place,i dont get a situation where u have to wait a year,i can understand distance problem,but what stops u from being "together"? sounds screwed from get go! good luck!
2006-06-13 02:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by dawnita0322 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya, here feelings are normal.....for someone who isnt really that into you as you would hope. You're on the 'convenience' list. Shes having fun wherever she is now without a care for you but is keeping you on the hook for later when you might fit into the plan
2006-06-13 01:59:23 · answer #8 · answered by Kyle J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for ten year and I can tell you that you better get used to waiting if your going to be in a relationship. They always still have to put on their makeup or do their hair and at the store try on more clothes ...get used to it
2006-06-13 02:00:42 · answer #9 · answered by snoopy22564 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, she's keeping you on the back burner, just in case or for when she's bored, move on. A friend of mine recently waited for his married girlfriend to leave her husband, she played with his head and his heart so long he finally snapped and did something incredibly stupid, he's now in jail, nuff said.
2006-06-13 02:05:47 · answer #10 · answered by doodledeedee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋