So, he doesn't return the favor...?

Question

My fiancee and I enjoy sex, naturally. Almost every time we foreplay, I perform oral sex on him. However, sadly, he doesn't return the favor. I am not a quiet person, but I also am not an overly blunt person. So, I'm caught in quite a quandry!! He has done it once but that was a while ago. I usually take a shower right before we have sex, so I know it's not that I "smell". I'm really perplexed and don't know how to tell him. What do you think?

Answer 1

Sometimes men can get sexually lazy or just selfish. We all work harder the first few times we have someone new but few of us keep up the pace. This was pointed out by a partner of mine recently and i didnt even realize that I was neglecting her orally. You might try initiating sex by saying something like, "if you will come to the bedroom right now and (use your phrase for oral sex here) Ill do anything you want after wards." You might have to go to a baseball game (pun intended) or something like that after wards but i bet you get what you want.

Answer 2

I can answer this...I don't mind "returning" the favor after a separation...(i travel a lot) but once we have been together (through the week), the thought of eating my own deposits kind of gross me out. So my lover gets treats our first night together... not much after unless I had a few drinks and my inhibitions are down. Some women also have a very strong smell regardless of hygiene habits... not an even playing field... you can really scrub an external organ... not so with the internals....-rob

Answer 3

There are men who just dont like the idea...it was just so unfortunate that the guy has to be your fiancee...theres nothing you can do about it...try something like a strawberry flavored vaginal wash or anything that could eliminate the thought that he is actually kissing a vagina..

Answer 4

I have the same problem. He expects it from me, but doesn't return it. I stopped doing it for him. Even when he whines about it. I told him he owes me and I won't do it again until he does. That didn't last long. Now he knows that I expect it as much as he does and he won't get anymore unless he takes care of me too.

Answer 5

just tell him.. he probably doesn't even know that its bothering u like this. maybe he thought that was a once in a blue moon kind of thing or figured that u didn't enjoy it. the best thing to do is just tell him that u would like him to "reutrn the favor".

Answer 6

let him know that he won't get anymore until he can dish it out, that it can't be a one sided activity