What does Cristianity & Judaism say about the pre marital relationships?

Question

In west almost everyone have a bf/gf but in Islam it is strictly forbidden to have pre marital relations as it causes imbalances in family life(what's happening in the west, these days) & i think no religion promotes to have pre marital relationships then why the west are so immoral?dont they fear God?

Answer 1

You are right. Both biblical Judaism and biblical Christianity forbid such relations before marriage. Immorality is prevalent in the West because, generally speaking, they have no fear of God. It is as 2 Timothy 3:5 says, they have a "form" of godly devotion but prove false to its power. And it is as 2 Timothy 4:3 says, they have gathered preachers to tickle their ears and tell them what they want to hear. Thus they learn that "as long as you love each other, it is alright." These ones have watered down the very word they claim to believe.

Answer 2

I only know about judaism. Pre-marital relationships are strongly forbidden. They are one of the biggest sins someone can do. A child who is bord out of wedlock is called a "mamze" and can only marry another one. They have a very difficult life.

Therefor G-d gave us laws and commandments to keep us from doing this. A person may NOT TOUCH someone from the opposite gender. This means that a woman cannot shake the hand of a man (so don't get insulted - it's part of religion). There are also guidelines of dating. Obviously, if you cant touch you can't kiss, sex or anything else.

A woman must also always be dressed modestly so that she does not attract to attention of men. This does not mean she should not look pretty - the opposite is true - she should just not be dressed that every man who passes looks at her. She should save her beauty for her husband - we always learn in school that we shouldn't get dressed fancy and put on lots of makeup when we go out of the house - we should do it in the house for your own husband!!

This also means we have a dress code:
1) Tops: Sleeves have to cover the elbow, it may not be seethrough, you may not see the shape of the hips or chest (which means clothing shouldnt be too fitted), although the shape of the arms are allowedthe shirt should cover your collerbone in front, in the back it can only go down till the 2nd vertebrae, and on the sides till the shoulders -you may not see the shoulders - only the neck

2) skirts:no pants are allowed. The skirt must cover the knee at all times - even when sitting, jumping, walking up steps. Therefore the is a basic rule of the skirt should go up to 4 inches below the knee. A man may not see the SHAPE of the leg so the skirt may not be fitted, or seethrough. Under the knee, the foot must be totally covered with socks - although it is permitted to see the shape.

3) Hair: I always learned in school that if the hair length goes below the shoulders then it has to be pulled back in a pony. The hair shouldnt be wild (no crazy hairstyles, beads...)

4) Make up: It may be used - but not too much. base, coverup, blush, and a little mascara is fine. It gets much more complicated with eye makeup since were not supposed to put on colors that are foreign to the face.

The orthodox Jews adhere strongly to all these rules. G-d gave us these guidelines to keep us from sinning, as you mentioned. It is almost unheard of for an orthodox Jewish person to have any affair - be it before marriage or during it. There is also no such thing as having a boyfriend/girlfriend. We go to separate boy/girl schools and the way we meet someone from the opposite gender is for a marriage proposal which is done through a matchmaker. There is extensive research done into the boys family, friends, charachter and level of observance. Then the boy/girl go out on a couple of dates or have a sit-in (Chassidim) and hopefully get engaged.

I think our way of life is a much more moral and normal way to live. It is and enjoyable and healthy system. As you see, G-d is wise and everything he commands us to do is for our best.

Answer 3

You have been misled my friend, "In west almost everyone have a bf/gf" is incorrect. And you also mistake the fact that not all who claim to be in the bf/gf arena are having pre-marital sex.

I saw a poll taken by CNN who found that the number of young couples who prefer abstinence until marriage is a lot more than anyone thought.

It is the same values here as in Islam, it is forbidden by Christian parents to allow their children to have pre-marital relations as well.

Answer 4

While I am at odds with Islam - I agree with you on this one thing.., American has become very immoral. Christianity (real Christianity) forbids premarital relationships.., but the newer generation churches do no more than mention it, seldom if ever chiding members who violate that trust. Todays Churches (not all but the majority) seem to be caught up in permissiveness in order to fill church pews (benches & chairs) and slide into the Politically Correct business giving blessing to homosexuality IN THE CHURCH as Leaders and Pastors! This is an inexcusable before God.

God is not happy about this Great Whor e, which is the Mystery Babylon spoken of in the Book of Revelations. America has become a religious prostitute, a haunt of many demons and souceries..., and other nations desire to burn her with fire because she flaunts herself like a brazen, shameless prostitute.

This does not mean all Christians are spiritual strumpets by any means - but those who are, are not Christian but in word only. Its as though anyone can claim to be Christian and turn our Savior Jesus into a cheap designer logo for their jackets and shoes and worse.

I hope more Christians wake up before its too late. God is going to take America down to her knees and even then she wont repent.

Lastly - Those who reject Jesus will follow the Antichrist.., and he's coming. The Bible says the Antichrist is coming from a detestable temple that sits on the wing of Solomon's Temple. The detestable temple, an object of abominations, sits there now on a wing of the remnants of the Temple Mount's foundation.

I am warning people before hand - flee that testable religion from where the Antichrist comes..., I am warning Christians to start taking Jesus seriously - start taking GOD himself as serious. (Jesus is not God, but IS the Son of God, prophet and last high priest)

The time is short, and mocking or laughing or challenging it will not delay God's wrath. Mercy and forgiveness is in God's mighty hand, and in the end, God is not mocked.

Answer 5

Speaking for Christianity only...
Depends on the type of pre-marital relationship.

The Bible tells us that it is good to be around fellow Christians. Have a relationship with someone could be a friendship or boy/girl-friend. Doesn't mean that they are having a sexual relationship. Any form of sexual relationship before marriage is wrong, and many do live in sin with that aspect.

Answer 6

I agree that a lot of people have lost respect or fear of God's word. We live in such a do whatever feels good society, that many give into temptation and disobey God, and it does cause an imbalance in family life. God never intended for there to be single parent homes or children not knowing who there father is. It is really sad.

Answer 7

Christianity's view: taken from the Bible

1 Corinthians 6: 18: Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

Judaism's view: taken from the Torah
Halacha-Overview - Torah.org
u-Milchamoseihem Seven commandments apply to non-Jews: idolatry, blasphemy, murder, fornication, robbery, eating from a living animal (as Noah was commanded, "But...
http://www.torah.org/...ning/halacha-overview/chapter83.html

Both warn against it.

Answer 8

Both religions forbid it. Pre-marital sex is a sin in all religions. The question is: do you still call your self a christian or jew if you keep defying your religion!

Answer 9

christianity sure forbids it... its just that we all are imperfect and vulnerable to sin..it just so happened that those sins are visible while the others are not that well documented...but it is totally not acceptable for christianity...

Answer 10

all religions forbid pre-marital sex.