How can parents teach younger kids not to talk back? Is this normal at age 5?

Answer 1

It is much easier to teach a 5 year old not to talk back than it is a 16 year old. When they talk back to you, put them into a "time out" or take away a favorite toy or a activity that they take for granted. But explain to them why you are doing this and tell them just how long they will be without. Set a timer if needed. Warn them that the next time that they do it, the duration will be longer or something more will be added to it. You must be persistant and do this everytime they talk back to you or they may find that there will be occasions that they can get away with it with no recourse. If there are other children involved. They may think twice before talking back if they see what the potential punishment may be.Kudos to you for being concerned and wanting to try and correct this problem before they get older.

Answer 2

I think children should be allowed to voice their opinion. However 2 things should be adhered to....1) no rudeness and no loudness
2) after a certain amount of time the parent should say something like....ok I've listened to you and now I've heard enough...end of discussion. Then you're the parent so taking into consideration what they've said the final deal is...you're the parent. If they continue to talk back after that they should be sent to their room. If you're consistent with this pretty soon it'll work. Having said all that there are times when very firmly you just say....that's enough, no more talking and walk away. It's better to do this now before it gets out of hand.

Answer 3

This is a very normal stage for your child. He/she is only trying to build a sense of independence, and by talking back, he/she feels that they have a sense of power and say-so that before wasn't realized. Something you can do is set boundaries and then when he/she crosses that boundary, have a very clear, simple, and immediate consequence that remains the same every time you enforce it. It doesn't matter so much what kind of consequence it is, but instead, that you enforce it as SOON as he/she crosses the line and do it every single time. Also, have discussions over dinner every night about mutual respect....the two-way street discussion may be old, but it's old for a reason: it works. Children understand the concept of respect much more than adults give them credit for.

Answer 4

I think it's part of the growing/maturing process. They are actually talking back the first time you tell them to do something and the immediate answer is "NO". My daughter did that long before she was 2 yrs old. The tricky part was letting her know it's fine to have an opinion, and to let her express her opinion, just not in a disrespectful tone of voice. She's 17 now, and of course, more mouthy and the vocabulary is much larger.

Answer 5

actualy yes. It is normal. all kids go threw stages that you went threw when you and the other parent went threw. When I was 5, I cursed alot. I have 3 year old niece and she abuses her words all the time. Put in a naughty spot like a rug or a chair, or maybe even the bed. You sit there and watch and make time of the naughty spot minutes of how old the child is.

Answer 6

When a child is talking back you get down on there level. talk directly to them in a firm yet low voice, let them know that that kind of behavior is unacceptable and if the continue there will be consequences for them that you as a parent can live with. Perhaps taking away their favorite toy till they earn it back, no tv, no outside time etc.

Answer 7

Try reading the book "How to mkae children mind, without loosing yours" It is christian based, but very good. My wife and I have been togeather for 5 years. When we got together she had a daughter from a previous mariage. This past year her daughter got out of control with her attitude and so we got this book. Within weeks she was completely different. The house has not been the same since. Try it and see.

Answer 8

The urge maybe normal for a five year old, but being the parent, you are in control and need to be assertive. When you say something, stick by it or the child will not respect your authority. The older they get the worse it becomes due to years of "giving in".

Answer 9

The first time that they do it today, tell them that you will not accept that behavior any more because it is rude. Talk about exactly what you expect them to do..........and what some phrases would be that would be considered talking back.
Have them model for you what they are going to do.
Also, state what the consequence will be if they choose to talk back. A time out.......if they continue to talk back...two minutes added to the time out, etc.
When they test you, don't respond just give them a time outl....in their room chair whatever. Pick up the child place them in the chair,, room and say you have a time out for talking back. When you are quiet and have sat and thought about this...........four minutes, I will come back and talk to you.If you choose to talk or get up time will be added.
If they go for so long without talking back............reward them.

Answer 10

There may be a lot of influnces from his friends and from television. Children emulate what they see, so there could be something in the family that lets him feel that it is OK.

If you and your wife have disagreements, this should be done in private.