My brother and new girlfriend live out-of-town. They came to visit over the weekend so that my parents, my husband, and I could meet her. I live in the same town as my parents with my husband and one-year-old son.
My brother and girlfriend stayed at my house Saturday to Sunday and I made a nice lasagna dinner and had my parents over. The next day, my brother and parents announced that they were going to drive into the city for the afternoon. They invited me along, even though they knew I couldn't go because the baby was already napping and my husband had gone golfing. My mother especially knew I couldn't go because she is very familiar with my son's nap schedule.
They all left and I was left all by myself for the entire afternoon. I had set aside my entire weekend for this visit and I thought it was rude that they made plans that I couldnt' be included in. There were definitely other things we all could've done together once the baby was up. What do you all think?
2006-06-13 01:09:39 · 14 answers · asked by wonderwoman 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I should've mentioned that my baby is getting over an illness and where my family was going wasn't "baby friendly" so waking him up from a nap wasn't really a responsible option. I am a stay-at-home mom so I get plenty of quality time with my son and, if anything, could use a break.
2006-06-13 01:32:00 · update #1
I don't think your one year old son's nap schedule should dictate the day. If it was important to spend time with your brother and family then you should have gone. Also, it doesn't sound like plans were made on what everyone was going to do the weekend your brother came. A baby can sleep in a car and stroller. Your husband went to play golf so he obviously was not concerned with spending time with your family as well. Next time just get the baby up and go. It is not fair for people without children to be on your schedule. Sorry I am sure this is not what you wanted to hear.
2006-06-13 01:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by totalstressor 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I do not think it is rude, I would not get that upset.
may be there were other things they could do but,they wanted to show the Town to your brother's new gf.
and I guess even if your baby was up, you could not join them.. most babes do not like being in car for along time.I also think that they thought that they are giving you a nice time to relax...
it is very nice that they invite you although they knew you can not go.
just take it easy and enjoy your family, you are so lucky that they are all around you.
Take care
2006-06-13 05:41:26 · answer #2 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're overreacting. Why should they have to put their entire vacation on hold because your baby was ill and napping? I mean, I understand what you're saying, but you're more upset because you don't get that much time to do "adult" things than about the fact that your family had a nice afternoon without you.
2006-06-13 02:20:09 · answer #3 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible that you could of taken him with you? My daughter is 5 and my son is 5months old and being cooped up all the time I definitely jump to the chance of going somewhere with a friend.
It will probaby interrupt his napping and he might sleep on the way there or maybe he won't BUT his crabbiness later on will be well worth it for me to "go somewhere". I will pay for it later but at least I got out and had a little fun with my family. Easier said then done I know but try it. He may even enjoy getting out of his nap for one day. I know my daughter loved it. Just a thought.
But for your answer: "Yes, it was very rude of them especially your Mom. She could of at least offered to stay home with you to give you some company.
Take care and don't beat yourself up too badly. I learned this a long time ago. :)
2006-06-13 01:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by flea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The important thing to keep in mind is that they did invite you. Regardless of whether or not you considered it rude, they did not intentionally mean to hurt you. Consider the fact that when people are on trips, vacations, etc. visiting their family, the excitement of seeing their families and loved ones tends to crowd out logical thinking. Don't make a big deal out of it with your parents or brother, or else it will just turn into a big fight. Just shrug it off. We all do things unintentionally that others may consider rude or innappropriate. Try to think back to a time when you unwittingly may have hurt someone's feelings. Believe me, you'll remember those times, and if you don't remember, I know for a fact that all those you have accidentally offended will be more than happy to remind you. At the end of the day, ask yourself: do you really want to be stewing over this for the next month?
2006-06-13 05:45:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it was a big deal. I would love to have the afternoon with my one year old son. You should have turned around the disappointment and turned it into something enjoyable for you and your son. Don't worry about it, they didn't mean it and maybe they wanted to spend time with your parents.
2006-06-13 01:16:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time they come over say well im going to town and hopefully when i come home dinner will be done.lol. yes that was rude what they did to you.look at it they used you for a place to eat and a place to get dressed you need to realize that your family used you and you need to tell them that it hurt your feelings,
2006-06-13 05:33:54 · answer #7 · answered by vasqdd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was rude, but I wouldn't get too mad over it. I mean family's family, right?
2006-06-13 05:29:07 · answer #8 · answered by cheer4life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very rude and unkind.... they could have waited an hour or so for starters or done something else.
2006-06-13 01:15:21 · answer #9 · answered by ptdemon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it was thoughtless of them. they should made you aware of the plan, so you could get a sitter or something.
2006-06-13 05:28:52 · answer #10 · answered by deb in ohio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋