What is the trick to raising children without going insane?

Answer 1

The trick to raising children is letting them know who the parent is and which is the child.You have to have a firm belief in God and ask him for wisdom for each child because each child is different. We all make mistakes,You can be firm as well as have another "mommy" voice" which means I love you but I said"no" AND DON'T GO BACK ON YOUR ANSWER. Or wait til your dad gets home won't get it either,DEAL WITH IT 'NOW'. If you treat them like little rebels, that's what they will be, but if you treat them with respect and really listen to what they say, you will find out they will treat you the same. What ever is in the heart of a child will come out their mouth if you are really listening to what they are saying. I have 3 older children, one is a Pastor and project manager , one is a vocal leader in a worship team, and the other plays the bass guitar in the team. I wasn't a perfect parent I just stayed firm especially in the tean years and always Check and see if they are where they said they were going. You didn't say if you are a single parent, if you are not, Make sure you and your husband have a night once a week that you can get out away from them and enjoy yourselves, without the children. It will make you a better Mom and dad and you won't feel trapped, and believe it or not they need a day away from you and daddy too. There is no trick to raising children , if there was I would have found it after 37 years of marriage,believe me!! If you are single mom ,U still need a nite away from the children. Mothers-in-laws are good for that,believe me they enjoy having the children to their selves once in a while, God Bless and Good Luck, my prayers are with you, Dollyllama 2003

Answer 2

First of all, I'd say use the Bible as your guide. There is lots of parenting advice in the Bible, from rules on how and when to discipline your child, to how to teach your child to be respectful of you and all other authorities.

If you try to raise your children the "Dr Spock" way, or with advice presented in Cosmopolitan, you're going to be presented with lots of conflicting advice that if you were to follow, would produce schizophrenic children that don't know the different between right and wrong, that thing that their self esteem is the most important thing in the world and that are selfish little self absorted brats.

Shew.

Anyway, even when you use Biblical methods for raising children, you're going to be challenged. You'll have days when you just don't like your children very much. My wife and I have a saying... "Boy, today I love xxxxxx, but I just don't like him very much." They are programed to test the boundaries of acceptable behavior. We, as parents, have to make sure that if they go past those boundaries, the consequences will be painful.

Limit TV, Video Games, Movies and other entertainment choices that teach kids to be disrespectful of authority (we have no TV in our house).

Be patient. One day they'll have kids of their own and you'll get to sugar up your grandchildren and send them back home. Ah. Sweet Revenge ;)

Answer 3

Love, love and more love. Take time to talk to your children, they are very intersting little people. Don't scream and yell, but talk. I know everyone loses his/her temper now and then but the trick is to try to stick to the subject when you are upset about something. Speak about what behavior is not acceptable and stick to it. When disciplining make sure your children know that they are loved no matter what they do. It's not easy being a parent but it is worth every second. I am immensely proud of my son and if I do say so myself I think my husband and I have done a great job in guiding him while he grew up.

Answer 4

Patience is a virtue... I would know...lol. Between my children and stepchildren, I have 10 all together. Managing thier issues, fear, needs and wants has to be balanced with your own as well. You have to find some "me" time in there somewhere. No it's not being selfish, it a way to maintain your sanity and keep from letting your kids push your buttons.
With children you have to set clear boundries and limits on what they can do and what they can't do. Try not to let them whine you into getting thier way. Being firm and fair is an excellent attribute. And lastly... show they every opportunity that you get that they are valuable and you love them.

Answer 5

Once a week take a break from one another and do something that interests you. It could be for a day or it could be for an hour just get away. Your children of course will have to be supervised by someone else you trust and is responsible.

Answer 6

trust me,
the older they get, the easier it gets.!!
I have 4 all aged 14, 13, 12 and 10.
We wonted it this way so they could grow up 2 gether but it was REALLY REALLY HARD.
i was NOT copping with life and i ended up going to the docs and i am now on Zoloft.
it is an anti depression tablet.
I now do not yell and i now smile and laugh with my kids.

Answer 7

Dont make every thing a battle. You have to pick and choose them wisely or you will be constantly on edge. I just ignore the little battles if I didnt It would be something constantly and i would be to wore out to handle the big stuff.

Answer 8

I have a fourteen year old and the trick is... oh wait I AM insane!

Answer 9

I assume you mean small children? Patience is the key and knowing that there is a light at the end of the tunnel that is, until they reach their teens - which is where my two are at!!!

Answer 10

banging my head against a wall...insane? No I'm not insane. Let me know when you find out! A good bottle of champagne always helps:)