I am 25 years old, independent, have a good job, am buying a house, all the "good" stuff. I have been told I am smart and funny and not too bad too look at BUT I have found it IMPOSSIBLE to get into a normal relationship. I am divorced and have 2 kids so I am not sure if this is what is scaring people away or what... Any advice??
2006-06-13 00:51:32 · 16 answers · asked by Alayna M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most men are intimidated by independent women. The right man can not be scared away. Be patient. When you are anxious for love, you let go of your usual standards, in the end, you have settled and are back to square one. When you least expect it, love will find you. And remember, if they don't take your breath away, keep looking, because always making excuses in your mind for the way they act, only hurts you in the end. Enjoy your independence and your children, be happy. Happiness spreads, and you will find someone who you can share happiness with, and your children as well. Good Luck.
2006-06-13 01:00:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 1⤋
For a lot of men it is quite scary thinking about all the success that u have got and it will scare them and also having children scares them a bit too, but if you talk to them about it all a guy that is really interested will stay and if he isn't that interested then he will leave or maybe you just need to take a break from the dating world and focus on your children and your new home and get into activities that will help you meet new guys and then you can get to know each other before anything happens, or you can just stay friends.
2006-06-13 08:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by i_love_john_cena_009 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are guys who will be interested in you if you have children (and please don't put any blame on the children) but I think a lot of guys might be afraid --- most want to start out as fathers the normal way. BUT NOT ALL. You will find someone and that person is going to accept you and your kids. You come as a "package deal" and unless you find a guy willing to accept and love all of you.......keep moving on until you find that right person.....AND YOU WILL --- I just think it is a tad slower when children are involved. At this point, the kids are your most important items right now anyway.
2006-06-13 07:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are looking in the wrong places . I have lots of single friends with kids who still have great relationships so I do not think that is your problem. You could always hold off on telling someone that you are divorced until after hey get to know you if you think that is scaring them.
2006-06-13 07:56:21 · answer #4 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If anything, the kids will probably help you to find a sincere and honest man. I'd start looking towards clubs, organizations, churches, for guys.
Don't give up, and definely don't settle. You'll find it worse in the long run to be with someone you're not fully compatible with than being alone.
2006-06-14 08:12:55 · answer #5 · answered by Brian G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure!
Divorce and KIDS are RED FLAGS.
You're, from a relationship standpoint... already a ONE TIME LOSER. (I know, but it looks that way)...
And Children are TOUGH WORK. Parent is a TOUGH JOB... being a STEP PARENT is twice as hard... it's like having the ICE CREAM SHOP without tasting the product!
(I know... I've had two sets of step children)....
You say you have all the "GOOD" stuff... I submit it's the GOOD STUFF that you're looking for.
2006-06-13 07:56:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be your self, Men see women in two ways, sexty and hot which is just lust and as a friend who in tme leads to love. Don't try to hard to find "mr right" he's out there and will find you. You could try a dateing site but my advice is to join a club, go out walking or swimming . You my find a single parent club where you will meet people who are in the same bout as you. Don't try to get it all at once it does take time.
2006-06-13 08:00:05 · answer #7 · answered by littlebrother1961 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep trying. if a man really loves u it wouldn't matter how many children u have. i found a perfect wealthy man and i have 3 children and no wrok. my friend found a perfect wealthy man and she also has 3 children and no work. an acquaintance of mine found a man (i don't know whether he is wealthy or not) but she has 6 children and no wrok. i also had been dating a lot before i found this perfect man. all men i dated were nice but not enough wealthy and they wouldn't mind to be with me even if i had 3 children. so it is not how many kids u have or what wrok u have, it is who u re and how they feel with u. good luck
2006-06-13 07:58:02 · answer #8 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at your age it is almost impossible to find some without excess baggage
you have head start though
a lot of males are afraid or hesitate to raise another mans children because it can cause conflict
stop looking so hard and when the time is right you will meet Mr. right
2006-06-13 07:57:50 · answer #9 · answered by JULIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids are always going to scared a lot of guys away, a lot of them will immediately think you are looking for a father figure, i know it sounds corny but one of those date sites might be good for you, you can get all the info out, it might take a bit but a guy will come to you don't worry
2006-06-13 07:56:36 · answer #10 · answered by Chris H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋