I just started 'seeing' this guy i've liked and known for ages. I like him alot and we've been out a few times. We share the same group of friends, and went away last weekend as a big group. It was really nice, and spent alot of 'romantic' moments with him. When i'm with him he's lovely, really affectionate etc... but in between times i don't have alot of contact with him. Just the odd text here and there. I know he's a really busy person, and have asked him if he has time for anything right now. He says he wants to see me and spend time with me.. but i don't know if he's just messing me about. My friends think i'm crazy for thinking it and say its clear that he likes me. But should i be worried about the lack of contact between times...?
2006-06-12 23:44:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He says he likes you and your friends believe him, so give him the benefit of the doubt.
He is busy, active, involved in life - you find that attractive in him. He will find the same qualities attractive in you. So enjoy the time you spend with him and the time when you are apart. I.e. fill that apart time with things you enjoy. It will make you a happier, more interesting and fun person to be with.
If you start obsessing now about how much he likes you, you will become clingy and your behaviour / insecurity will turn him off you.
So go out and shine.
Boyfriends need to be impressed not depressed. And you'll no doubt attract a few admirers along the way, which will knock some of the "granted taking" out of him.
2006-06-12 23:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by del-d 2 · 11⤊ 0⤋
I certainly think he is messing you about. If he truly likes you then he should be spending a bit more time with you.
The real truth of the matter is that deep down he really cares and likes you and probably does not want to hurt you and commit to you at the same time simply because he might have some unfinished business with another girl whom he is unwilling to get over. I know guys do that!
Another way to look at it is that he is trying to avoid too much attachment with you so that should he decides to let you go, he wont feel that bad about it much simply because his mind would be telling him that there was not much attachment thereby consoling himself.
2006-06-13 00:04:38 · answer #2 · answered by Taf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even in the hot seat, where you are, it would be hard for me to tell.
Try to chill, enjoy yourselves together, enjoy yourself mean times. You exist if he don't stand next to you. That way if he is messing you, you have enjoyed yourself and learnt a little more about you and how you fit into the world.
If you find lipstick on his collar, tell him. If you got nothing keep talking to him about what it is that you could share one day and what it is that might hurt that. Together work out what you want. Most of all do not take it somewhere you are not happy with. Ta!
2006-06-13 00:02:46 · answer #3 · answered by Elisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be worried cos its early days, and this is the time its meant to be exciting and you both cant get enough of each other.
go wth your gutt instinct cos friends are not in your position to judge how you feel. they are not on the receiving end. i always find that if you trust someone else's opinion, you end up mucking up and blaming yourself for not following your gutt. do what you gotta do. confront the situation, cos its better to know where you stand now rather than later down the line when you are messed about, and deeply hurt cos you are attached.
2006-06-12 23:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by smart_babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't be worrying. Just enjoy dating him for a while and try not to let things get too serious. Make him want you more than you want him, that way you can still end up in a good relationship but not get massed around so easily! Good luck
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2006-06-12 23:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately thats just the difference between how men and women think. i don't necessarliy think you're being messed around and as a long standing friend he shouldn't do that to you anyway. just give it a little time and try not to think about it too much, easier said than done i know but lifes to short to worry about these things, trust me i've been there!
2006-06-12 23:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by yo_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u love and trust him so give him the benefit of the doubt and dont start getting ideas that he's messing u up.
its normal, sometimes the once we love are so busy they cant even make time for us, u have to understand him if u say he's a busy person.
2006-06-13 00:25:37 · answer #7 · answered by pOOhPhAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my exp the early days are the honeymoon days...so yes i think you should be worried! These are the times where the two of you cant get enough of each other. talk to him, he might be shy or have some commitment problems...
2006-06-12 23:52:31 · answer #8 · answered by bilahboo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no point in rushing things.you just have to take one day at a time . first and foremost give him the benefit of the doubt, some guys like to take things at slower pace and you just have to uderstand that . slow and steady they say can sometimes win the race. take it easy babes.
2006-06-13 00:01:30 · answer #9 · answered by iby b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blokes are often like this, he's probably a bit shy maybe he's insecure about something, dont let it worry you he sounds as though he likes you so just give it time.
2006-06-12 23:57:12 · answer #10 · answered by mr_bishiuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋