how do you stop teen suicide?

Question

how do we as parents stop our children from talking their lifes? what can we do, what are the signs, and why do they do it.

Answer 1

Try and always be honest with your children and let them know that they can talk to you about anything and that you will always be there for them - in the good times and bad. As upsetting as it may be for you if they break the law or anything don't reject or threaten them.

Why they do it?
* Could be for a number of reasons they are in trouble (illegally) and can't find a way to get out of it - they choose death.
* Not fitting in with people, no one understands them, they are useless, lonliness - what is the point of living?
* Depression just broke up with boyfriend or girlfriend - not good enough - lonely..

The Signs - I guess it would vary with different people - withdrawal from society, staying in their room. Maybe bitterness/angriness against the world - everything is negative.

It is not just teens that you need to worry about. We had a 37 y.o who was living with us who hung himself in our shed. From that experience there is no way to stop it, once they have made up their minds they will find a way and time of doing it.

I hope that you never experience it, it is not a very good thing to have to experience!

Answer 2

My cousin was just past his teenage years, at 20, when he took his own life. The signs were difficult to see, though he had substance abuse troubles in the past and a close friend of his had died, and he never really got over it. I suppose in hindsight, if he had more help with his recovery from drug use, and if he had therapy over the loss of his friend, he might have felt like continuing to live. But we'll never know.

But don't get yourself too worked up over the idea. In the grand scheme of things, the vast majority of teens will not kill themselves. If there is any mention of suicide or depression it should be taken seriously, however. It's a cry for help whether the person is really suicidal or not, and should be addressed. If you are alert and do your best as a parent, staying in close communication with your children and looking out for them, this is more than likely a scenario you'll never be faced with.

It's commendable to be on the look for signs, and that alone means your chances of running into the problem are slim. But sometimes teens have problems that don't go away easily. They may suffer massive trauma or have a chemical imbalance, and in that case you just do the best you can and get them the help they need.

Good question.

Answer 3

While I am not a trained professional, I have had to deal with this kind of situation on occassion due to my profession. For starters, thoes who want to commit suicide are usually pretty frantic about it. And you as a parent have reached this point to where you can possibly stop it with a bit of grace, here is my suggestion.

First and foremost, when you talk to them remember to never raise your voice. Talk calmly and low no matter how long it may take. Parents often make the mistake of raising there voices at their kids in crucial situations because there very upset at them and in this case it surely isnt remcomended.

I have often engaged in over 2-3 hour converstations before they begin to feel something positive. Talk to them open and honestly about their problems, and as when you feel that they are done talking about that point and are a bit more comfortable with the converstation begin to slowly focus away from committing suicide, and have them focus on something they like or a memory that made them happy in life.

Everyone has their happy moments no matter how depressed they are. They usually will begin to look at why they liked life at that point in time and people in general usually would love to retun to that point.

Now you want to build off of that, and take the conversation in a positive direction. Sometimes even though they feel better, they may need additional help and they are plenty of teen lines where they can talk anonymously to someone if they do not feel comfortable with going to a professional. What ever you do, don't push them, they will tell you what they are feeling or what like to do, especailly if the converstation has been honest up to this point. And hopefully take it from there. ..... Hope this at all helpful.

Answer 4

the most important thing is to stay in contact. often parents lose contact during the teen years. if you can offer kids a nonjudgmental ear they will talk to you.
signs of depression are the first signs. change in sleep patterns such as sleeping a lot or not sleeping at all are signs. change in appetite is a sign as well. loss of interest in things the person once loved to do. these are all basic signs, there are more.

http://www.policesuicide.com/Warning_Signs.htm
this site lists warning signs as well as other stuff.

if you think someone is suicidal get them help.

Answer 5

CHILDREN ARE STILL IN THE DEVELOPING STATE THEY CANNOT HANDEL THE PRESSURE PUT UP BY THEIR PARENTS NOR CAN THEY REACH THE GOALS SET BY THEIR PARENTS

IT IS SUCH THAT THE PARENTS TRY TO COMPETE CHILDREN SO AS TO BRING THEM AHEAD BUT UN KNOWINGLY THE CHILDREN ARE SET INTO A BACK HIT THAT THEY EVEN AFTER TRYING THEY ARE NO WHERE CLOSE
SO EVEN IF THEY ARE CLOSE THE PARENTS FORCE3 THEN TO PERFORM BETTER


THIS IS WHERE THE LIMIT BREAKS AND THE CHILD UNABLE TO HANDEL ALL THE MOUNTING PRESSURE FALLS IN


HE FEELS IT IS BETTER TO DIE

TO PREVENT THIS PARENTS MUST SET GOALS KNOWING THE LIMITS OF THE STUDENTS

PARENTS MUST NOT FORCE THEIR DECISIONS ON KIDS ( THERE ARE A FEW EXCEPTIONS ON WHICH IT HAS TO BE FORCED)

SIT WITH UR KIDS ANG SHOW THEM THE RIGHT PATH

Answer 6

You can't. I've had friends and even boyfriends that was about to suicide right in frount of my eyes, i've talked them not to do it. Some parents can help them not to suicide but not all, call up his or her best friends to help u out. Most teen will listen to their friends or girlfriend/boyfriend (not all).
The signs can be anything but not completely sure wat.
Y do they do it its cuz they think their life is shtty, their boyfriend/girlfriend (that they really really really loved) broke up with them, peer pressure, drugs, and possiblely family probelms.
I'm a 16 year old teen, i know these stuff cuz i've once thought about suicideing, because of family probelms. Need more infomation send me a e-mail.

Answer 7

suicide is a sensible thing. give respect to the teens and let them go in thier own way( iam not talking about drugs, premarital sex etc...), let them enjoy thier college, games. be a friend of your son/daughter. solve thier problems. dont pressure them for studies. infact study will help us for know the world little bit much. encourage their talent. u will not find a single suicide then..

an adult can become dipressed just for a small rejection.(love, family, career, friendship etc..) why cant a teen... just recognise the teen as an adult and treat him as an adult and repect his attitude....thanks for your time

Answer 8

Really good parents children seem to never commit suicide
Engage them in meaning full conversation
If they are talking to you they are not likely to do something stupid like suicide

Answer 9

signs ar not easy if they are going to do it they will its an awful thing but they must be very very low indeed its so sad as they have a right ti live but they dont seem to realise it and after all they get it into there heads and nothing seems to matter anymore

Answer 10

You got show a little kindness,
Show a lot of affection
to let them know how important they are
Kiss an angel good morning...