would u lie to ur partner about how many people u have actually slept with ???

Question

if asked that is ?? i lied so not to hurt her

Answer 1

i cant lie, she'd find out lol

Answer 2

Most of the time honesty is the best policy, however, you know your partner and if you feel she'd be hurt (for whatever reason) and you felt you needed to lie, then that's OK.

Sometimes loving, or just caring for someone, is knowing the difference between telling a lie and protecting. I believe you've done the latter.

Although, I would say depending on your situation, you may be best to tell her at some stage during your relationship. Maybe she's not very confident now (sexually) and you didn't want her to think you were too experienced? In this case you should tell her in the future when she is more confident. Maybe she'd get jealous, so you probably shouldn't.

I don't know the whole story but I can understand that you know her and you did (and should always do) whatever you feel is rite at the time. :-)

D*

Answer 3

At the end of the day, the subject is best avoided!!

It doesn't matter really, you are the same person whether you had one or a thousand partners.

This is the most dangerous question to answer in a relationship coz its unlikely that both of you would be telling the truth anyway.

Its best to just refuse to answer, and explain that you didn't know your partner back then.

Lies really hurt when you get further down the line in your relationship. Be honest whilst you still can!

Answer 4

Umm generally i don't lie to my partner (boyfriend) about anything. It depends tho, if i tell them with how many people i have slept with. I always have told them the truth but that didn't have too good consequences. From then on i've told them only what they wanted to hear. When i was still a virgin i never told them that, but once i wasn't anymore, i only told them what i had to say for them to want to have sex with me, cuz you know some men have prejudices about women's sex life. Some just collect virgins as trophies, others don't care. Telling them the truth about the number of people i've slpet with, depends on if they respect me no matter what my sex life is like.

Answer 5

I wouldn't lie. I think it would always be there in the back of your mind that you had. Otherwise you wouldn't have posted the question really. It might initially hurt her but the complete trust that comes from honesty is key to every kind of relationship.

Answer 6

My husband and I have decided never to ask eaach other this question. It's simply not relevant to our life togther. He was a bit of a naughty boy when he was younger and I was a bit of a naughty girl so those combined experiences make us the people we are today. I think it's only the insecurity of youth that makes some people want to know everything about the past life of their partners. Forget it, enjoy being with each other and create your own future.

Answer 7

i agree, it often works out not to go into details about how many, it becomes a bit of a competition, and like it or not, knowing and dealing with sexual past experiences in a monogamous culture is a toughy. i dont lie about it, but i'd prefer not to say, there's no guilt or shame in it, there's just the possibilty of embelishing on your lives together as if it's the first.

Answer 8

Yes, if they really had to know how many girls we've slept with she could think that we just want her for one reason or she'll feel like she's got a lot to live up to or something. I just know that most woman prefer not to know how many woman their partners have slept with.

Answer 9

My wife likes my honesty, I never lie I just tell her the truth.
She knows what to ask & take well Or what not to ask cos she mightn't like the answer.
Lying hurts even if not immediately......

Hope this helps, have a nice day

;-)

Answer 10

I wouldnt lie. I wouldnt ask anyone but if I did Id expect them to tell me the truth. Not much of a relationship if you have to lie to keep them with you.
Id personally rather not know, but of course he volunteered the information to me...*rolls eyes*

Answer 11

No, I wouldn't lie.
What happened in the past is nobodys business.
It is unfair to ask a partner about past behaviour.
Or for a partner to ask you about yours.
The past is history.
While I would not lie, neither do I consider myself accountable to someone else for my past.
I would just refuse to answer such questions.
If that is unacceptable, then just move on please, and give me space to find a more suitable partner who wont pry into my past.