so what i'm looking for are some serious and honest answers. everyone has an opinion, but can you back it? tell me why you think what you think? tell me about the role of persuer and persuee. what do you perfer? ladies, what about you? what do you believe is true about guys? why?...
2006-06-12 21:26:54 · 14 answers · asked by euphoria 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's great if someone takes the time to pursue me. Sometimes others know what your looking for better than you, so what's the harm. As far as pursuing someone I don't mind to a point, a little challenge never hurt anyone either. Trick is figuring when to keep trying and when to walk on, unless it's painfully blatant. I think the most fun is figuring how someone wants to be pursued. Everyone is different after all.
2006-06-12 21:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how shy people are.
People that are very shy very often end up being pursued rather than doing the persuing. Some are actually upset by this. My last boyfriend was. He always wanted to be the one flirting and making dates, but he never quite managed to. He never asks anyone out on a date simply because he is afraid to, but he longs to do so very badly.
I on the other hand, would love to be persued. I'm smart, fairly attractive, make good money, but I like mild mannered shy geeks. They just aren't going to come knocking at my door no matter how hard I want them to. So I'm the one who makes the date and brings the flowers. Or springs for the romantic fling in Honolulu.
The only reason I'm the persuer is that I was that shy person but I came out of my shell.
2006-06-13 04:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by Swanhart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking back on my relationships, the ones that were most successful and rewarding were those in which a woman took an interest in me, rather than my persuing a woman. I think what it comes down to is, a woman who takes an interest in me is more willing to be satisfied with what she gets than a woman that I choose. That latter sort has a set of standards and expectations that can be difficult to fulfill. In other words, I may not fit her notion of the perfect man, so at best, my role in her life is temporary. Yeah, let them come to me; that is best.
2006-06-13 04:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
men have always been the persuers. but things are changing slowly there are alot of women who do the persueing these days.
2006-06-13 04:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES !!!
I love it when women are the persuer. It shows that they are bold, daring, willing to go for what they want...
It basically screams I can be independent but I choose to be with you...
That is a modern woman.
2006-06-13 04:29:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant speak for other guys, but I dont like to persue, and I dont like to be persued either. Instead, I prefer a girl to show interest and give me an occasional sign. Coming on hot and heavy is a turn off, for me anyways. Other guys might like it.
2006-06-13 04:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by jack f 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i personally think that men prefer to be the pursuer rather than being pursued/ it's always been that way ever since ancient times. That's because men have more genetical readiness for girlshunt and when a girls hunts em down they sort of feel as if they lost their game. Other men, though, do prefer getting spanked in the *** as a result of their low selfesteem. Anyway i personally LOVE to pursue girls because they are so wonderfully mysterious and i think it's up to us men find out about their secrets.
PS. Girls please do continue to show your buttcrack with thong that's MEZMIRIZING!!
2006-06-13 04:32:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dnt like a gal pressurizing me...Neither I do the same...Its a mutual thing that both guy as well as gal understand. I am just going through the phase of a brake off and I fell that my X used to pressurize alot that dnt do this dnt do that...which I never liked and I never did the same with her due to which she always felt that I never loved her...which is not true
2006-06-13 04:33:34 · answer #8 · answered by Vikas k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like your name, first of all.
Umm... I'd say sometimes I like to be the pursuer, like if I'm throwing a party, then the people there are my guests, and expect to see me, and since they know who I am, etc. then I feel more comfortable going up to people rather than just sitting in a corner and waiting for something to happen.
If I'm out somewhere strange, not in my element, then I feel more comfortable just hanging out not pursuing.
2006-06-13 04:32:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the who dosent like being persued so it same with the guys u know it makes one feel better u know gives airs of self imp. and to be honest every one likes that so its being persued
2006-06-13 04:29:58 · answer #10 · answered by sid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋