she has dated her b/f for 9 months now and he is turnin 16, both sets of parents are trying to keep our eyes on them...but i want to be responsible about it I talk to her about the reason not to and even how to be safe if she decides to..but i was young once and i know how things go..soo any suggestions on how to handle this?
2006-06-12 20:27:38 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just wanted to add they havent dated alone yet...trying to avoid that as long as possible...and we do talk ...lord i even talk to him..Thanks so much so far
2006-06-12 20:43:58 · update #1
tell her that 14 is way to young and it is a big choice to make tell her of all the negatives that can come pregnancy std's and make sure u watch him a 16 yr old boy i a walking hormone
2006-06-12 20:31:12 · answer #1 · answered by sicivic05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About the only thing you can do is talk to them. The risks of teenage sex and chance of pregnancy, std's, heartbreak. And keep a VERY close eye on them. If they are determined, they will find a way to do it without you ever having a clue. I could tell you things that I did in my own house while my parents were home that would blow your mind.
Get together with his parents and call around to some clinics or hospitals and ask around to friends and family.... Maybe you can get a teen mom with a new baby and her family to allow your daughter and her boyfriend into their home to " play" mom and dad for a day and night. It just may scare them into having no sex for a good long while.
Keep the lines of communication open. Let them both know that they can talk to you. And for goodness sake... make sure that your daughter knows that she can come to you at any time for Birth control. Make sure she knows that you will not get angry about anything that she asks.
My friends mom talked to her about it at 14 and sent her to a class at a planned parenthood center for the pill.
Good Luck. Hope all goes well!
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2006-06-13 03:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a father u shd first try to know whom ur daughter is more comfortable talking to ...u or ur wife.Either of u can take it up....
As parents of young kids it is also ur responsibility to make the guys parents aware of what u think and why you feel that ur kids may do it....
U could always give her some real life examples by bringing up the conversation....u must know her comfort level while discussing such issues thay's why i mentioned either u or ur wife....
If u have some medics as friends u can ask them to give a small seminar sort of thing to inform all the young kids about the misconceptions and drawbacks of early sex.... U can ask ur daughter to invite all her friends over and have open discussion...something like a sex education...
U may also make up stories which seem real as kids get the impact soon.
Same hold true for the guy and his parents as well
2006-06-13 03:51:15 · answer #3 · answered by Adi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ! very sensitive question and I wud try to answer sensibly too ! I think without making them conscious, we should try to find out the level at which these two interact. Are they emotional or just experimenting with their phyisical changes.
If they are emotional then we need to talk to them about the possible consequences and if they are in the phase of experimenting then they need to handle bit strictly and calmly. So that they may not get the feeling that they are doing something very wrong.
2006-06-13 03:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that what ever she decides is her decision and that she can always talk to you if she ever has a problem. (never over react if she does come to you!!!!) Tell her that her virginity is a very valuable thing to have and can never be replaced. Make sure she knows the consequences of having sex. Diseases, condoms breaking, pregnancies etc... Hopfully she makes the right decision. Oh and don't tell her you went on the internet to talk to strangers about her doin it with her bf. That will break any trust lock you have built with her. Believe me...hugs :)
2006-06-13 03:39:23 · answer #5 · answered by Chaysee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should be trying to establish some type of trust between the 2 of you. If she thinks she's ready to have sex she should feel comfortable enough to talk to you about her decision. That also lets you know it's time to really sit down and explain to her all of the reasons why she shouln't have sex yet.Good Luck, I hope she makes the right decision.
2006-06-13 03:40:19 · answer #6 · answered by chocollate_75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter decides to have sex not even a chasity belt will stop her. Thats how it is. Explaining safe sex and putting her on the pill is the best thing you can do for her. You shouldn't promote it of course but sit her down and know she can talk to you about it.
2006-06-13 03:34:27 · answer #7 · answered by kandysue_86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lock her in her room and don't let her out till she is 18???
Tough one, this may be why dating is not such a good thing as we have always thought. In my opinion one on one dates at that age should have been out of the question. Going out with a group of friends might be ok. I don't know and hope I never have to deal with it but my day is coming lol.
2006-06-13 03:41:16 · answer #8 · answered by kissmymindagain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you cant actually stop it from happened but all you can do is talk to her like you have been doing and if i were you i would put her on the pill just in case some thing did happen
2006-06-13 04:06:36 · answer #9 · answered by little ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THEY PROBABLY ALREADY ARE, OR WILL ANYTIME THEY GET A CHANCE. SHOW HER/THEM SOME PICTURES OF STDS. HAVE HER BABYSIT SOMEONES KIDS, THE YOUNGER THE BETTER. CRYING, THE DIAPERS, UP ALL NITE. HAVE HER DO IT FOR A WEEKEND. MAYBE 1 OF UR FRIENDS OR FAMILY. PAY HERE A LIL CASH TO DO IT.
2006-06-13 03:37:46 · answer #10 · answered by Damian A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋