How can I get over my cat?

Question

My cat, Smokey, died on Dec. 30, 2005 and I still cry over him when I see pictures of him. I just need to know what I can do to stop hurting myself. I mean I love him dearly and oh! Just talking about him makes me wanna cry!

Answer 1

It is o.k. to cry. We get very attatched to our pets and it really hurts when they leave us. It might help to make a scrapbook of all your pictures of Smokey. Also you might want to check out a web site called The rainbow bridge. It is dedicated to lost pets of all kinds. So sorry for your loss.

Answer 2

Get a new cat, hopefully a kitten from the pound, once you find they are healthy, can bring you a lot of joy and happy memories, like the ones you had with Smokey. I know it will be very hard to let go, and you don't have to just yet, but I definitely suggest that you replace that void. It would be wonderful for a stray kitty that you give a loving home, food, and care to a new little fuzzball that needs some love.

You can put the pictures away for now, later on when you are ok with the fact that even little furry ones need to leave our side, you'll just keep those beautiful memories in your heart.

Answer 3

With all loses there is a process of grieving these 5 steps help me in the death of my cat and my dog. I will pass it on to you.
It will get better believe that.

1. Learn to accept that your loss is real.
For many people who are grieving a loss, the first impulse is to deny the loss. Grieving denial can range from downplaying the loss, as if it's not important, to having the delusion that the person or pet is still alive.

It's often easier for people who are grieving to have an intellectual understanding of the death (the person or pet is physically gone) than an emotional understanding (the loved one is not coming back). So the first task for the grieving person is accepting that the loved one is really gone.

2. Make it OK to feel the pain.
The pain of grieving can be both emotional and physical, and unfortunately there's no way to avoid it. Denying the pain of grieving can lead to physical symptoms and can also prolong the grieving process.

3. Adjust to living without the deceased.
When a loved one dies, we also lose the part of our lifestyle that included the deceased. So while we are grieving for the loved one, we are also grieving parts of our life that will never be the same. Sometimes it can take a few months following the death for this realization to sink in.

4. Find a safe place in your heart for your loved one, and move on.
This task can be especially hard for a grieving person because it can feel at first that you're being disloyal when you start to think about enjoying a life that doesn't include the deceased.

It's likely that memories of the loved one will stay with you throughout the rest of your life, and sometimes, even years after the death, you may feel a stab of pain when you think about the beloved person or pet that was so important to you.

When this happens, it's important to remind yourself that it's a normal part of the grieving and healing process, so allow yourself to have these feelings.

5. And finally, what do you do with the love that you feel?
For many people, the hardest part of losing a loved one and grieving that loss is figuring out what to do with all the love they feel for the person or pet who is gone.

Remind yourself that you don't have to stop loving someone just because he or she is no longer with you. When a memory pops up, send a loving thought and know that you are loved in return. You may find comfort in this, and the strength to continue on in your journey.

Answer 4

My cat Mia got hit by a car on the 26th of March this year. I loved her like my child. I personally took the pain head on till I got numb and that certainly helped better than forgetting it. When Mia got hit, she had 2 kittens which were 2 months at the time. It now feels as if Mia exists, her soul lives through her kittens.

Don't worry, Smokey will always be with you. Don't banish any thoughts of him when they come up, memorize the cute things he did, and all the love he gave you. You may be depressed for awhile but you will feel better that you got through what you needed to mourn for him when he passed away.

Answer 5

This is a suggestion; whenever you can, try to find an animal shelter that is close to you and go in. You just might find a little kitten or an adult cat that you may fall in love with. I will pray to my Lord and my God for you. I do understand your hurt from the passing on of an animal because I have been down that road. May the Lord bless you in your search for a new friend.

Answer 6

Well, you can do one of two things, you can get a new cat that looks like your old cat, or you can remember the good times you had with your cat and keep it close to your heart; and know that your cat is in a better place now.

Answer 7

Its hard to lose a pet my dog Tootsie died in Feb. and i still cry when i think of everything we use to do togather. The best thing is to tell youself that you will see him again and that he is in a happier place. You have to let him go. My mom and i drove to Oklahoma for another puppy after we lost our dog. Its not replaceing the pet you lost its filling the hole that he left in your heart. It does help to get another animale to take your mind off the one you lost. Never forget what you lost and there never truly gone. Hope i helped

Answer 8

My cat has been gone for a year and half now and I still have crying spells every now and then and it still breaks my heart. I am sorry but it will never go away.

Answer 9

by finnally accepting it and buying a new cat. Or just get rid of the pictures because eventually you will forget.

Answer 10

I am sorry. If you still miss the little fellow don't stop crying. We all are with you in this hour of misery.