My ex of 3 years burned me pretty bad (lied to me, everything) and I'm finally over him and seeing someone else, but I'm finding hard to trust him fully. I'm always doubting him, although he's given me no cause to, I really like him, how to I forget the past before I push him away?
2006-06-12 20:04:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you finally over him and you were dating someone else..You must not have any burden in yourself..
they said, when you moved on... you forgive someone on the past. Forgive is to forget. The more you kept the burden inside the more you will feel difficult to open your hearts to someone...Always remember " What Peter's does, Juan will not"
Not all people are the same. There is always a reason for everything that happens to your life...You just need to look for the positive side, be grateful that he is not the person you will have spend for the rest of your life.
I've been to your situation before, but when Ive met my husband thats the time I realized, thats how God made everything. He will do something even if it hurts you so bad. But in turn he will give you the best when you least unexpected...
Dont expect when you loved someone that he will return the love you gave to him.. It just a matter of trust, confidence, and enjoying each other companionship. Building relationship is a matter of compromise. It takes a hardwork to make it better...
Just forget the past...
I hope this helps..
2006-06-12 20:29:18 · answer #1 · answered by just me 3 · 16⤊ 3⤋
trust is such a difficult thing to have sometimes, especially if you have been hurt in previous relationships. It definitely has to be earned and I would suggest that you take things slowly with your new relationship. The clue is really in your last sentence when you say that 'how can I forget the past before I push him away'. Why would you need to push him away? Try not to have 'walls' of defence around you and be aware of how you feel and communicate this to your new man. This will help him understand where you are coming from.
I know exactly how you feel and it is hard to trust new people, but not everyone is a b**tard, so let yourself be loved and love yourself, you deserve it.
2006-06-13 03:11:02 · answer #2 · answered by taliesin_bow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there, I completely understand ur situation, after being hurt n betrayed once, it takes time to trust. But u cant live in ur past, dont u wana experience the real beauty of life. Don't let one jerk of a person ruin ur life for You.The new guy whom u like, if he likes u as much in return doesnt he deserve a fair chance. Remember m not tellin u to rush into nething, take ur time with this new fellow bt keep ur ex completely out of this, dont compare. N u will realise that trust has automatically developed between both of all with time. Trust doesnt come in a minute, it takes time to built n if this new guy is gud at heart, it will simply *** from u widout u realisin it.
Take care n all the best : )
2006-06-13 03:39:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You evidently still have emotional issues to do with your previous relationship, even though you are over him. I suspect that you still don't feel quite secure or confident with yourself yet. That is very natural and you need to examine yourself and find out where the negativity is and face it. So often we push things like that to the back of the cupboard because they are, frankly, painful to deal with. They have to be addressed, though, so we can get back on track and begin to fully accept ourselves.
One method which I've found very helpful, because it's something which one can do oneself and doesn't involve a lot of instruction and practice, is called Emotional Freedom Technique. The basic technique is there for all to learn free - if one became interested and wanted to go into it more deeply, then they do, of course, sell stuff but it's not one of those sites that are out to make money first and foremost. Here it is, for what it's worth - it may be your thing or it may not, in the end, but it's worth a try:
http://www.emofree.com
2006-06-13 08:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety i wouldn't be in a hurry to start trusting him yet...If your finding it hard to trust this guy and always doubting him,theres a reason for his...Trust yourself and the feeling of mistrust and doubt don't let your guard down until these feeling past!!!! But if they don't lift up,it's time to find something else of interest...Be smart,trust yourself.....
Clowmy
2006-06-13 03:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have not been able to trust him after all he has done then meaning = you cannot trust him kick him in the pants tell him to get a move on and you find someone appreciate a Good lady like you because honey there plenty of good men out there that treats a lady like a lady
2006-06-13 03:08:42 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you forgiven your ex yet? It may not be pleasant but it will help you move on. Also, talk to your new love and tell him what is going on in your head so he knows what the issue is. With patience and time, you can trust again.
2006-06-13 04:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by BBQribs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to trust after all?
In reality there is almost nobody who is completely trustworthy and unfortunately, most of those who are are also dumb people.
Forget about trust, live the present, have fun, have sex.
2006-06-13 03:11:12 · answer #8 · answered by Steaming emotions 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will come naturally, if u arent ready to trust stay solo and keep searching within ur self
2006-06-13 03:13:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my pdoc said to remind yourself everytime you have those feelings or thoughts that this man isnt your ex.
2006-06-13 03:08:45 · answer #10 · answered by ***BUTTERFLY*** 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋