2006-06-12 19:14:54 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Community Service
i think that would be the parents reaction in most hindu families. even my parents would say that. but not because they have anything against muslims only because they dont know how well we can cope up in a diffrent culture. in hindu families there is a certain image about muslim families.. you have to follow certain rules, pray 5 times.. and all that.. we dont exactly know wht goes on inside muslim families so there is a fear of unknown and our parents want us to be happy and comfortable. muslim families would face similar problems and notions abt hindus. what you should do is explain to your parents and show them how your families are different religion wise but are still very similar. share the same values and you wont be entering another world if you marry the guy. and show them that his parents are going to accept you and treat you very well. once that fear of unknown is gone both families should realize that they are diffrent yet very similar.
gud luck!
2006-06-12 19:24:03 · answer #1 · answered by cranberries 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
They are not completely wrong. How old are you and how long you have know the boy?
First even if the boy does not asks you to convert right now, directlly or indirectlly you will be forced to convert later.
Will he convert to Hinduism if that is the only way to marry you?
Are you planning marriage under civil act? What his parents say about that?
You are just thinking about yourself for now.Will his family accept you as you are or you will have to convert , this facter is taken for granted?
Have you two ever disscussed religion? Do you know any detail about Islam from any other sourse than your BF?
Really there are few good laws for women in Islam but practically they are not applied and the negative facters are never stated by Muslims.
Have you two ever disscussed what would be the religion of children. He will automatically assuming that they will be Muslim only.
What will be your reaction when there are some communal tentions and you are required to belittle your own birth community in disscussions to prove your your alliance to new one?
Will your BF and his family will let his sister marry a Hindu?
There are cases where a hindu girl was married to a Muslim guy. everything was OK till guy was alive. He died in an accident. The girl is running from piller to post but his in laws havent let her even see her son for past 6-7 years.
They do not want to hand over the custody to a Hindu daughter in law and that is that.
Any marriage demands hard work. More the differnces more work. In India when you marry someone you do not marry just the guy, you marry a new family.
2006-06-12 22:43:09 · answer #2 · answered by rian30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Muslim cant marry a Hindu.
2006-06-12 23:36:53 · answer #3 · answered by sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's wrong because a Muslim can't marry a Hindu but if you'll fine with it thats your choice. But remember your religions are much more important.
2006-06-12 20:08:46 · answer #4 · answered by *Samantha* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are correct, your religions will keep you apart - it's not the Muslim boy, it's the Muslim religion and Hindu religion that is your barrier. He is probably a lovely boy and in any other society you would be okay, but in your society and the two religions clashing as they do, I think you'd be wise to listen to your parents.
2006-06-12 19:19:17 · answer #5 · answered by MillwoodsGal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very difficult choice you have to make.. if ur eally really love the guy you should go ahead with it.. but the right way .. talk to his parents and yours and see what they have to say about it..
some times when you are in love u think you could nething to make things work.. but u have to see long run.. its nothing about hindu muslim.. but the way society works .. households have a sstyle of living and when you marry him.. u will have to adapt all those things.. they might seem easy now.. but think of all these things long term.. if you are ready to make those changes to your life .. go ahead but with the consent of your parents only.. they only think well of you.. when u are getting married you are not only marrying him but his whole family.. adapting that is a big sstep and not as easy as it sounds.. dont think as a lover but as a woman who is making probably the biggest choice of her life.. and then decide..
good luck to you..
2006-06-12 19:25:15 · answer #6 · answered by kadambari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm Muslim, but it would be difficult for me to marry a Hindu girl (or any other religion)...it might cause tension. Plus the kids would be confused.
2006-06-12 19:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by schizerbone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if two people love each other they should be together regardless of race,religion or creed. Probably the reason your parents say you'll never be happy is: they will probably never give you thier blessing which will eventually make you unhappy.And how do his parents feel about the two of you being together? If the both of you are able to walk away from your parents and they're beliefs then go for it
2006-06-12 19:21:30 · answer #8 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong to marry who you want to marry. The cutural differences are rather large. If he is conservative, you maybe required to wear a burka. You will be subject to SHARIA LAW. Have you read and understand what SHARIA LAW demands of you ? If you really want to marry him, then do it. Do it because you want to and not because others have their opinion about it. Do it knowing what you are getting into. Ask him about SHARIA. Ask him about your place as his wife. My parents were not in favor of my marriage either, but I have been married for 5 years and have a more steady relationship with my wife than my parents of over 40 years of marriage. Best of luck and contact me directly at ramses8p on yahoo IM if you would like.
2006-06-12 19:23:57 · answer #9 · answered by daddyspanksalot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents are no doubt very wise and they love you, they raised you so they know you it is worth looking at what they have to say and determine if what they are telling you is for your own good or for them and their own good. I think that you should ask yourself why YOU want to marry this boy and if YOU feel that this is right for YOU if YOU are satisfied that This is right for YOU then YOU should go ahead with it
see we have to live our own lives and let others live their lives what is right for you may not be right for your parents and that is ok cause at the end of the day when we look in the mirror we can say i did what i felt was right for me, no regrets, and no blame on anyone else cause we did was what we wanted to do
2006-06-12 19:29:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋