WHY IS It So HARD?

Question

Im 17 and never had a gf, but i really like this girl, "Leah", but i have a hard time expressing myself. i cant stop thinking about her. its driving me crazy. i really wanna take our friendship to the next level but i just cant say it to her. I DONT WANT TO write it in a note and give it to her. i want to tell her face to face but i just cant. please help me w/ my problem. i need a way to get over my fears and tell her.

we go to the movies a lot but its usually w/ other friends. we always sit next to each other at the movies. we flirt all the time to.

Answer 1

[Oh my God, dude... I just wrote this whole thing and didn't read the details you put in at the end about you flirting... Oh well, this will probably do you good anyways...]

Oh God, dude... DO NOT TELL HER. At least not yet. And if you kissed her right now, she'd find it very weird, if she isn't attracted to you. What you have to do, is work in physical contact. Physical contact is for girls what vision is for most guys, turn on wise. You know when a girl touches you, and you feel more attraction for her, like at a dance? Well multiply that by four, and that's how girls feel about touch.

What you need to do, is gradually start touching her more and more, and eventually start flirting with her. (email me if you don't know how, I'll set you up.) At first, just touch her like High 5's , and things like that, then after awhile, ask if she's ticklish. If she tells you yes, smile slyly at her, and tickle her, if she says no, say "I don't believe you," smile slyly, and then tickle her. If she responds by laughing in either case, and doesn't react negativly, you have a fighting chance. NEVER tell her your feelings until she does, and if you do, for God's sake, don't overdo it, just calmly tell her as if it's no big deal. It's far better to just ask her out, after she's shown sighns. (Again, email me if you have no clue about the signs.)

These things take a lot of guts, I know, I've been there, but just remember to have confidence, and talk positivly to yourself, and always ALWAYS love yourself. Humor is also important, and a sense of fun. Oh and I almost forgot, gradually make fun of her (with humor) as you flirt with her more and more. There's so much to tell, but I think I've written the basics. Email me if you have any questions.

Answer 2

my friend.. love is not always about words, it's about fellings. i had the same problem u have now... i'm 17 and never had GF and i liked a girl and then i was also scared to tell her or write a note.. but i used my fellings to tell her.. i showed her how much i care for her by calling her on the cellphone, chating online with her.. i told her some words that would make her know what i wants to say instead of " i love u" for ex: she said that " u r so smart" and i answerd that " i'm only smart because i knew the best and beautiest girl in the world" exc... tell her words that shows that she is a queen and u r her servant.. make sure u tell her everything u fell and don't lie to her... try to act normally and don't try to shape ur self in different way and she will understand

Answer 3

Well this is kind of hard to answer because I don't know how well you know her. If you talk on a regular basis and are friends then why don't you invite her out with you and a group of friends that way at first it's not like a close one and one thing. Hang around her most of the time and just get to know her better. Open the door for her, pull out her chair for her, etc. Show her that you are mostly interested in being with her on this group date but don't be too pushy or anything. Then if she likes that date, tell her that she was the most fun person there and you would like to go out with just her next time and get to know her better. If she laughs alot and makes eye contact alot then that means she is interested in you. - Keep me posted on how things work out

Answer 4

Instead of just telling her you like her. try asking her out, ask her to dinner or something special so she knows it's a date. Buy her flowers and be sweet. After a few dates, if you still feel the same way about her, then tell her how you feel. it will be alot easier and by then you will know if you is interested in you and she'll realize what a great bf you'd be! Good luck

Answer 5

tell her u wanna tell her something, then tell her how u feel.

it might be easier to get her alone.

if u really can't and don't want to write it on a letter or anything.(if u do write a letter, make it good and it'll be ok, if not then don't write "i like u" on a piece of paper)

if u really can't do it face to face, then the best thing would be over the phone.

Answer 6

Grow some balls and quit being insecure, she will smell it on you instantly. Next time you guys are out having a good time give subtle hints, whispering in the ear, grabbing her hand unexpectedly, etc etc. Be a man and not some scared panzy.

Answer 7

This is not going to be easy it's suppose to be hard this means you really like her. You have to buy her something only a boyfriend would buy her like roses or a diamond or something like this. This would break the ice she will ask what is this for. That's when you step your game up. Keep us informed ok?

Answer 8

well i know That if a guy walked up to me and told me that he Feels for me The way you feel For *leah* i would so totaly say ThaT i would go out with him just tell her the way you feel youll be relived ps my keyboard is screwed up so somethings will be ****** up

Answer 9

ask her to the movies alone next time and then put the move on her. (kiss her or take her hand)

Answer 10

hunny the only way to get over your fears is to face them and hope for the best.