My son is 5. He is starting to ask some very normal curious questions. You know, the ones that we dread answering. Do you feel that the truth should be told? Please provide an explanation for your answer.
My husband and I feel that the truth should be told (of course in an age appropriate educational manner.) We were both raised this way and felt it helped us prepare for the real world.
2006-06-12 18:06:48 · 16 answers · asked by BlackWidow 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Always tell the truth in an appropriate manner. Kids need to learn from their parents, not other kids, TV, music or the street.
You and your husband are thinking correctly.
2006-06-12 18:10:34 · answer #1 · answered by soleil_fairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should tell the truth to your child (in a age appropriate manner) as much as possible. My son is only two so i have not come across these problems yet, but when i do i am prepared to tell him as much of the truth as i think he can handle at the time, because otherwise he will learn things from other kids at school as he gets older, and then they may not trust what you say, i am going to be honest with my son and hope that he gives me the same courtesy in all aspects of his life!!
2006-06-13 01:12:33 · answer #2 · answered by bec 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest in an age appropriate educational manner. The reason such topics have a stigma attached to them is simply because at some point in history, society considered such talk taboo. If there is no secrecy, if everything is straight forward and done in a "no big deal" manner it looses the stigma and thus looses its "giggle factor". Life is life...and there isnt a blooming thing anyone of us can do to change the facts.
Best of Luck!
PS: I have learned that it is best to drop the topic when the child demonstrates a lack of interest. Dont push to finish your conversation. Let it drop when they move on to something more interesting. It will always pick up later!
2006-06-13 01:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by seanachaipriestess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You owe your child the truth and he should learn now that no matter what the question you will try to provide an answer. Then always answer in the most appropriate manner for his age. birth control or death are far different conversations with 5 yr olds then they are with 15 yr olds. This concept was to the test last yr when my 9yr old girl asked me what a (noun deleted) was. The answer was an artificial phallus.
2006-06-13 01:12:56 · answer #4 · answered by der_grosse_e 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am really big on telling my kids the truth about things . you dont always have to give every little detail of the truth to a child , but tell them what is age approperate .
I have bumped heads with other family memebers with this subject. I never lied to my kids about santa or the easter bunny . i told them the real reason we was celebrating what ever holiday it was. the whole santa/bunny thing i believe was a mistake my parents made with me . shortly after finding out they were not real i started believeing god was not real , but just another lie to get me to do good things as it was with the santa thing .
also i believe that if you do not teach your child the things they are asking to know , someone else will teach it to them and it may not be a good thing .
i really do think by telling your child the truth , they will be more willing to communicate with you because they know they can look at you for the truth .
2006-06-13 08:29:38 · answer #5 · answered by mick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is that I DID learn about a lot of the answers to dreaded questions from TV and from friends. I turned out fine (relatively), but you never know. Answering truthfully and at an age appropriate manner will probably spare you from having to deal with your kid either A). finding out from an inappropriate source and/or B). resent you for lying to him later on.
2006-06-13 01:13:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. He's asking you for the truth. Not some lame stork story. So tell him the truth. It bothers some people how I explain alot of things to my kids, but I refuse to treat their questions with a quick brush-off. If you answer him honestly now, it should help him come to you later for answers when the questions are much harder and more adult.
2006-06-13 01:47:53 · answer #7 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It always best to tell the truth. For some reason, kids can tell that older folks are bluffing. We have a four year and we try our best to answer all his inquiries with truthful answers. Of course, you don't want your answers to be so complicated. Keep it simple and truthful. He'll appreciate that now and later.
2006-06-13 01:38:11 · answer #8 · answered by Nimuy's Mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should answer with the truth. When they ask it means that they are ready. Ofcourse depending on the question make the answer more suitable for but yet understandable for your sons age.
2006-06-13 01:12:07 · answer #9 · answered by Tomas A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you should tell the truth. But only answer enough to satisfy his curiosity. Children at that age only need simple answers. Hope this helps and good luck!
2006-06-13 01:23:58 · answer #10 · answered by MaryAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋