I had a light depression after my baby born.and it took 2 years for me to feel better.now I have fear to go for second one .my son is 26 months old and sometimes I feel he needs a brother or sister.what should I do?
2006-06-12 17:57:31 · 11 answers · asked by sepi222 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Depression after birth is very normal. About 80% of women have some amount of depression. Being depressed for two years is definitely not what most would term normal. Every pregnancy is different, however, and I'd encourage you to approach a second pregnancy with positive thoughts as this will help your mental and emotional stability.
It is also important to surround yourself with people who can support you. This is, most obviously, your family and friends. Secondly, you should have a very knowledgable primary care provider (OBGYN or midwife) who has good connections in the community for postpartum depression. It never hurts to talk to a counselor during and after pregnancy. Going to a support group like Listening Mothers can be beneficial is many different ways.
I have also dealt with mild depression since the birth of my son a year ago. It comes in waves, sometimes harder to manage than others but I don't feel that it rules my life anymore as it did in the beginning. For me, seeing a therapist was very helpful. I also took a vitamin B complex and fish oil capsule which help normalize the functioning of the brain.
The best bit of advice I can give you is to not suffer in silence. If you do have ppd again, get the help you need and know it is not your fault... it really is in the functioning of the brain beyond your control.
2006-06-13 02:04:38 · answer #1 · answered by EmmaBella 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You seem like you need more time. I think you should not have another baby while you still feel some fear or insecurity. Give it another year or two. Try to reason out what was the most depressing thing about your new position as a mother. No matter how much I loved to take care of my two babies, for me it was the thought that I have absolutely no freedom at all. If you have another baby, try to find some time for yourself from time to time - it will be good both for you and for your kid. So, just wait a little bit.
2006-06-15 02:28:38 · answer #2 · answered by Eve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Light depression is normal when pregnant. Your body goes through numerous psychological and hormonal changes while the child is developing and these changes affect may affect you for many years after wards.
I recommended going through therapy before you decide to have another child and discuss your prior pregnancy experience with a psychologist. When you do get pregnant visit your psychologist regularly to monitor and discuss your emotional well being.
2006-06-12 18:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by cute_valley_boys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt sad after my son was born, and although he is 4 months and we aren't quite ready for a new little one... but I will say that it helped so much to have my sister close by to just give me the breaks I needed. I knew she was there when I needed to cry, and so was my husband when he got home from work. Don't be afraid to have another beautiful little one, but just make sure you have loved ones near by to help you out when you need it at the last minute.
2006-06-13 05:30:34 · answer #4 · answered by gottaluvalaska 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is normal for first time parents
if you are ready for another child then by all means go for it
if you are not ready or do not want more children then that is OK also
as your child grows and starts school he or she will make friends
i grew up in a big family and it was great but i had friends that had no brothers or sisters and they were happy also . right now you feel that your child is lonely and if so you can find groups that have children in the age groups as your child join them and have fun but don't have another child just because you feel your child needs a brother or sister at this time
2006-06-12 18:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should wait that your son is three. Then it would be much easier to take care of him and a newborn. About your problem. Discuss it with your doctor. Start preparations right now. Go on therapy, maybe he can give you some medicament. And believe in yourself as a woman and a mother.
2006-06-13 01:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by HarMonia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your worried about depression dont its normal for some to have depression when and if you decide to have another baby tell your docter what you went through with the first and they can give you medication for depression i was on it with 2 of 4 of my pregnancys and it does help so dont worry
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2016-09-09 00:41:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss this with your doctor. There are some antidepressants that you can take during pregnancy and your doctor can monitor you more closely if he/she knows you are predisposed to depression.
2006-06-12 17:59:03 · answer #9 · answered by Mizbehavin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know the transition from pregnancy to motherhood is a big one. it is normal to have babyblues but it doesn't mean you will have the same problem with another one. but please if you do have another and feel depressed get someone to help you. this doesn't have to control your life
2006-06-12 18:02:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋