I cheated on my boyfriend who I've been living with for 3 monthes and dating for over a year and a half. I cheated when we started going out, like during the first month. Unfortunately when I did that, I had sex for the first time with his best friend, but when we finally had sex a little while later in the relationship, I told my boyfriend that he was my first. He believes we're both eachothers firsts and he's so happy about it. I love him, and I know he loves me, but this kills me inside everyday, because I don't want it to come back and hurt us. Should I tell him? Or just forget about it and pretend it never happened?
2006-06-12 17:35:30 · 10 answers · asked by Lovin' It 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should tell him casue if you dont your going to have to live with it for the rest of your life, thats if you guys stay together that long. Right now your living a lie your boyfriend thinks you guys are eachothers first. If you really love him you wont keep anything from him, and im sure that if he loves you he will be with you no matter what. I know it hurts you inside but if you let it out now you wont have to fill that anymore. If you dont tell him its just going to keep building up inside. I hope the best for you and him and I hope you guys get past this.
2006-06-12 17:54:17 · answer #1 · answered by Ray Ray 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You had better try to straighten it out now. I hope he knows how difficult it is for you to tell him, and that he does not blow up at you for it. If he is sensible, you will be able to put it in the past and have a great future together. If he is shallow, it may be too much for his little ego to handle.
I've had some things that I've kept from my wife for a short time, but as they always do, they found daylight. I was lucky enough that not much time had past, and things worked out. Now I don't keep a thing from her. Some body ALWAYS finds out and tells!!
Good luck, let me know what, if anything, happens.
2006-06-12 17:51:00 · answer #2 · answered by Chaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should tell him. That way, the two of you can have a relationship that's built on honesty and integrity, if you choose to stay in it.
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2006-06-12 17:42:24 · answer #3 · answered by jackmack65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, never tell him.
he has a great belief in u.
when once he got to know u r not faithful
the next moment he starts hating u in one part of his heart
and when ever u people get any differences he remembers that thing
So, I suggest not to tell him truth
2006-06-12 21:15:27 · answer #4 · answered by good_boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how you could forget.and by how you can pretend it never happen. it has happen and the posibbility to happen again is there.
the problem is really serious and you really need help.
dont consult anybody because they will make it worse.trust me.
repent to god and promise you will never do it again.
be a good girl coz whatever goes around, do comes around unless you really have repented.
take care of him and your self.
2006-06-12 17:44:28 · answer #5 · answered by luqman_hakim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he truly loves you then hell be mad especially since it was his best friend, but it will only bother him untill you make it up to him. plan a night with and just for him. and if he isn't too angry, take him right then and there. he'll love u all the more for your honesty
2006-06-12 17:40:04 · answer #6 · answered by bkhuerter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU CANT GO FORWARD IN A RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT BEING HONEST HE WILL FIND IT OUT SOONER THAN LATER LET IT BE YOU THE ONE WHO TELLS HIM THEN IT BE SOMEONE ELSE IF HE LOVES YOU IT WILL HURT HIM BUT HE WILL FORGIVE YOU AND RESPECT YOU FOR BEING HONEST
2006-06-12 17:48:03 · answer #7 · answered by samm5683 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell him...It would be better it come from you rather than someone else, right?
2006-06-12 17:49:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes or no, its up to you. I would say yes, but do no. It's hard, I know.
2006-06-12 17:42:36 · answer #9 · answered by Mike B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you got away with it no, don't make it a habit
2006-06-13 03:11:25 · answer #10 · answered by Tom H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋