How rude is this?

Question

I had a birthday party yesterday and everybody got a present for me except one girl and she didnt even mention it and i didn't even notice until i was writing the thank you cards. Im kinda mad at her. Should I be?

Answer 1

If your friendship is measured by the amount of gifts you receive then yes you should be mad. Maybe she can't afford to give you anything monetary.

Friendship is more than money and material

Answer 2

I would just be glad that she came to the party. Maybe she didn't have the money or maybe birthdays are not a real big deal to her or her beliefs. If she is a good friend, then don't worry. I don't think she meant to be rude. If she acted weird or stuck up at your party, then maybe you should be mad and say somethinl. If not, then just be glad she came. Don't let that bother you and don't take it personal. I think that gift giving is so overrated anyway. Those things to me are just usually thoughtful but not always useful. I mean how many lotions and music do you need? I don't even like holiday gifts. I use to when I was little, but now I just don't like the idea of having to buy gifts for those things--it should be more about the time spent together. Now I can see the purpose of a wedding gift for useful items they need or giving to less fortunate people. Plus I still buy presents for others for holidays and such, but I believe those types are so not important. I hate it when people expect those. I make it clear that I don't, yet I get them anyway. My husband and I really do not celebrate gifts for eachother at Christmas--we buy things together that we like year round. I hope this helps you see a different view point on gift giving.

Answer 3

No, I don't think it's rude. Like some of the other answerers said, maybe she didn't have the money to buy you a gift. Sometimes people can't buy a present. I think you should just be happy that she showed up at all.

As for the thank you cards, well, just because she didn't give you a gift doesn't mean that you can't still send her a thank you card just for coming to the party. Think about it.

Answer 4

You should not be mad unless the only reason you threw a party was to get lots of presents. That's kind of selfish. So someone didn't get you a present. It's not the end of the world. People who are invited to parties but do not feel "close" to the host or hostess do not always bring presents and it's nothing to hold against them.

Answer 5

Be careful that money was put in the card and has fallen out or is misplaced? Maybe a present is still coming..
If not just her coming to your party is worth you giving her a thanks for coming card..
If she did not get you a present, out of everyone else really is it that important to waste negative energy on. If you react badly, the same will just come back to you..
Let it go and you are the much better person in the end..

Answer 6

I agree with hea dude, maybe she didn't have any money. I know at a birthday party you expect presents, but is that the only reason why you invited your friends? You feel mad but she might also feel bad too. Just move on. It's not that big of a deal.

Answer 7

You are being rude. Apparently you had a party for the gifts. That means you are so materialistic that presents mean more than people.
She probably couldn't afford a gift but still wanted to celebrate your life as a FRIEND.
In the future, no one will get hurt if you add to your invitations "gifts required" but let us all know how many people show up!

Answer 8

It is customary to bring a present, but not a law, really.

While there may be some justifiable reason she didn't, I would simply see it as rude and go on with my life.

Of course, you have the right to be mad at anyone you want, but consider that you're being mad because she didn't bring you something just because you turned a new age.

Answer 9

I would also go with maybe she did not have the money or does not give a gift everytime she gets invited to a birthday party. Sounds like you had a good birthday and enjoyed the day, is'nt that worth not recieving one gift? I would not be mad at her.

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Answer 10

No, you shouldn't be mad. Forget it. She may have brought you a gift, but it was lost during the party. She may not have had the money to buy a gift. Don't mention it; you'll only embarrass her and yourself. Remember, the purpose of a party is not to amass as many gifts as possible (that would make you a greedy, self-centered little snot, and I know you're not that). The purpose is to celebrate a milestone with your friends.

Answer 11

Well, yes and no. There maybe a very good explanation to as why she didn't. However, you can't approach her ask her b/c that seems selfish. I believe you should worry about it and send her a thank-you note anyways just to thank her for showing up. If you felt the need to ask her to as why I believe the best way would be I notice that you didn't bring a gift when you arrived I was just wondering why? (that's the best way I know). Good luck. God bless.