My husband and I have had some financial troubles due to lack of jobs...however, he does have a steady job now and we have a 15 month old and are wanting another one, soon. We're just now starting to get back on our feet and are wanting to wait at least until his insurance kicks in (duh!)...but i don't want my children to be too far apart in age...I'm a stay-at-home mom, so I don't really contribute financially...
We're thinking of getting pregnant in the next 4 months or so...what would you advise?
2006-06-12 16:53:19 · 15 answers · asked by tigrisow 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I have 4 kids, and am 27 years old. I really wasn't financially stable for any of mine, but through tough budgets we have made it. If you want another baby, go for it, everything will work out. My kids are 6, 5, 4, and 11 months. I know what you mean by not wanting them to far apart. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-12 16:56:57 · answer #1 · answered by chabela0731 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I wanted my second I wanted to be sure my first was at least 3 years old - because I feel like the 2s can be hard enough on a child without a new baby around. By the time they are 3 they seem to be ready for a bit of independence and don't so much mind the baby getting so much attention and they can be helpful (bringing a patsy, returning a dropped toy, etc.).
All the kids I have seen that were 2 or less when they got a sibling seem to fee cheated and have more behavioral problems, in my experience. My kids turned out to be 3.5 years apart - which was largely because we planned for compatible Astrological signs!
2006-06-13 00:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure the "average" parent is ever really financially stable or "ready" for a new baby. You just roll with the punches. My situation is similiar to yours. I am also a stay at home mom, and my husband and I would love another little one (just isn't happening yet)....and our debt is out of control. My husband does work so hard every day...but it just doesn't seem to be enough.
No matter whether you think your financially ready or not, go for it. You'll have everything you need for the baby by the time the baby is here. Enjoy these times....and I couldn't imagine my life without my two older brothers. And my parents weren't rich when they had me..but it always seems to work out.
So good, luck......and don't worry about money!
2006-06-13 09:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by mtcmmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a parent of a 11 month old and I really do not plan on having anymore, but my parents had 4 children and we are all 2 years apart. It worked out great for them because they always new what to expect financially with each of us. If you want another one, start stocking up on you know what you are really going to need.
2006-06-13 00:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by Rebecca V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are JUST getting back on your feet take a silent moment and remember what having little money is like. Now wouldnt it be a lot easier to wait for the baby and have some bucks in savings?
You and your husband would be better prepared for the arrival and all of your futures.Its great to have insurance but in this day and age not all ins. cos. cover what they used to. Take the time to find out
2006-06-13 00:02:52 · answer #5 · answered by tajura001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wait until you can afford kids you will never have any.You already have a child so know that somehow(by the grace of God)it all works out.About you not contributing financially,I recently heard somewhere if they paid housewife/stay at home moms,we would make $134,000 a year.How does your husband feel about extending your family?I say go for it,if the time is right it will happen.Good Luck.
2006-06-13 10:53:39 · answer #6 · answered by believer26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a parent but I've seen several examples of sibling rivalary getting out of hand because the kids were too close in age. I think a good age gap is 32 months. Given your situation, I would advise you to wait 8 instead of 4 months.
2006-06-13 00:11:58 · answer #7 · answered by Michaelsgdec 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd probably wait just a lil bit longer and wait till your 15 month old is one and half. Then at least you would know you'd have time for both children. They still will be close in age if you'd wait. But if you must have another child then be my guest. Good Luck to you and your family
2006-06-13 11:50:06 · answer #8 · answered by localgirl420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the baby! Family is great... when the 2nd child is a year, open your home up to an "at home daycare" and make some money for your family while being home with your children. Even if it's helping other parents with their school kids after school!
2006-06-19 21:22:32 · answer #9 · answered by bebeshanibabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think get financially stable first cos u dun wan to worry your children hav no food....
and when your elder goes to school additional cost will occur...
as for age gap dun worry ....
my sis and i age gap 4 yrs but we are very close and my 2 children gap 3 yrs are always playing together....so are my sis children
but if you are financially stable then go for it.....a few more will be even better...
But its really up to you cos only you will know about your family desire....
2006-06-13 00:05:57 · answer #10 · answered by flurry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋