How can you learn to like someone? My future son-in-law and I do not get along very well. He is a know- it- all and tends to be a little bossy at times. He is only 12 years younger than I am, but we do not get along at all. I must learn to get along with him. My little granddaughter thinks he is her daddy. (Her biological father does not want anything to do with her. He has not ever seen her...).
Please give me your advice on how to get along with someone you don't get along with, but have to....on a daily basis.......
2006-06-12 16:29:41 · 8 answers · asked by BlueAngel 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Try and find common ground with your future son-in-law. Remember as well that if your daughter loves this man (even through his faults) not connecting with him can cause trouble with your daughter as well. As my grandmother always said "consider the source and sit on it". You may have to bite your tongue often but if it saves your relationships it will be worth it. Talk to him and try to discover the true reason you do not get along with him, and then maybe you can find a way to get along in need be situations.
2006-06-12 16:54:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to like your future son in law, but you do need to get along with him.
I don't know why you don't like him, even if he is a little bit bossy, he's taking care of your daughter and granddaughter.That says a lot for his character.
All you have to do, is be amiable towards him, you do that every day of your life, with strangers you meet.
If you deal with people every day, there are some you like and some you don't like. If you treat them both the same, with a nice smile, and kind words, you will get along just fine.
Remember now, this boy, whether you like him or not, is part of your family.
Your Granddaughter is growing up with this man as her father, and your daughters husband. If you want to keep and enjoy their love, get along with you son in law.
You don't need help, with this, you know how to act, you just need to do it. For their and your own sake.
2006-06-12 23:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch...I feel for you. I guess that the best way is to look for common ground. Try to find common interests...tv shows...hobbies...get-a-ways..etc...and try to build a relationship starting out with enjoying some of the same things. You guys might like a favorite singer or something. If you have something in common, you can start bonding through that. Trusting eachother and moving on to a more close relationship will just take time. He may be a know-it-all in an attempt to impress you with his knowledge? He might be trying to get your respect...maybe trying a little too hard. Good luck
2006-06-12 23:39:20 · answer #3 · answered by BAM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy is stepping up as a father to a kid he knows isn't his then that is enough to like in his character. Doing something loving by choice is very commendable. Sometimes when people don't feel appreciated they over compensate and that behavior could be expressed as being a know it all. Try to have compassion for everyone. You learn more by staying in your heart and being the quality that you seek. Good luck! You are blessed to be in this heros life.
2006-06-12 23:46:19 · answer #4 · answered by blessmeamma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep your self busy ,think of good things, and when he gets bossy tell him to back off but in a nice way so not to cause a fight,i can`t stand my father-n-law for the same reasons and this stuff is what i do when he comes over. good luck.
2006-06-12 23:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by johnthurman77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this is a toughie. Sit down with him and talk it out. You can't be expected to let him have his way or the high way all the time. I'm sure you guys can work something out, especially for your granddaughter's sake.
2006-06-12 23:38:00 · answer #6 · answered by angel_girl2248 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love your daughter then u gotta learn how to love him...
I'm sure your daughter will be happy too if you get along with him..
That's call parent's love
2006-06-12 23:44:02 · answer #7 · answered by flurry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohh. um try talking to him and say like " look let's try to get to know each other and try to be friends" other thatn fighting. like express how u r feeling.
2006-06-12 23:39:44 · answer #8 · answered by iranian gurl and proud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋