Im a fat teen. Will I ever find love?

Question

I'm a 15 year old teenage boy who is 5'4 and weighs 220 lbs sadly.
I think it is pathetic that I'm judged because of my weight. And also, I would really like to have a girlfriend, but all the girls I know either tease me to make me think they like me but I find them later spreading nasty rumors about me, or they give me blank stares. My question is, will I ever find love?

Answer 1

Yes ,once you start loving yourself.

Answer 2

Holy **** son, don't buy into all this hype. These are just a bunch of sentimental females trying to boost you up because it's in their nature, but if they probably saw you in real life they'd run away. No, at 5'4" 220 lbs you are NOT going to find love. Chicks instinctively think the following of a guy with these measurements: "He won't be able to give me genetically strong, healthy, able-bodied kids." It's survival of the fittest dude.

I was taking a swimming class this past spring and I'm at 5'11" 201 lbs, of hard muscle and tanned skin. The fine girls did not hide the fact that they were oogling me up and down right in front of my face, dude. I definitely got play. Remember, we live in a visual, materialistic, hedonistic, superficial, looks-oriented society for the most part. Most females won't take the time to delve into your inner nice guy personality within the 5 second span it takes for them to decide whether they'd lay you or not.

BE A REALIST. Do the work, son. Lose the weight and you'll soon get the bed springs ringing happily with an attractive member of the fairer sex!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

You sound like a sensitive and caring guy. If a smart girl ever comes along she will be real happy with you.

But until then you have to work on your self confidence. Tomorrow, start an intense, summer weight-loss session. Lots of water, no soda, sit ups till you're sore, push-ups till you drop, and lots of protein.

Looks aren't everything but losing weight will build up your confidence for approaching someone.

Every time it gets hard and you want to quit, just tell yourself, "I'm worth it." Don't tell yourself that it's work or pain, just think of it as doing your body a favor.

You will find love and when you do, it will be meaningful and real because it will be about what's on the inside. ***** what people say and do in high school, they're assholes.

Good luck, man, really go for it!

Answer 4

Sure honey, you'll find love! Your weight will not matter to the girl who is meant for you. There's a girl out there who will love you for who you are! You sound like a pretty special guy to me! Stop focusing on your size and focus on the great qualities you have! Some people might wish they had your big heart or eyes! If your weight bothers you, simply do something about it. Try to start eating a bit healthier or just exercise. I recently joined my local YMCA and it's only $60 a month. I know you don't wanna hear this but you are only 15, don't rush life. You are going to be just fine my friend! Don't listen to those who say nasty things, God will deal with them in their own time. People who stare and make fun of others do it only because they are insecure. These are people who have a difficult time sleeping at night and looking in the mirror! Those people are bad on the inside. Atleast you are great on the inside. It's easier to change your weight than to change evil behavior, you know? Be proud of who you are! Hold your head up and realize that you are a special child of God and He created you and will take care of you! Don't worry anymore about this, relax and realize just how special you are!

Answer 5

You will one day. Looks aren't what matters it's how you treat people and who you are as a person. Any girl that will not be with you because of your weight you don't want anyway. That just means that they are superficial and think of only themselves. Your also 15 you have years a head of you to find the right person. If your weight bothers you ask your parents to get you a membership at a gym or get into Martial arts or kick boxing. It is almost summer go on hikes. But your personality is what matters. My boyfriend for 5 years is no Brad Pitt but he makes me laugh and is always there for me and that is why I love him not because of what he looks like.

Answer 6

You should lose the weight......for your health, if nothing else.

People tease you? Big deal. People get teased all the time for any number of reasons. If you think your weight is the only reason you get teased, then do something about it. If you don't want to lose the weight because you enjoy being a sad sack, then you're doing this all to yourself.

If you don't try to lose the weight (in a healthy weight-loss program), you are setting yourself up for some major health problems in the future.

Answer 7

Man you will eventually but hey your only 15 and you have alot to live before you can say your in love I know that those rumors hurt but guess what you have to know how to snap on them don't be mean but you are allowed to embarrass them. now half the battle is won you know you are overweight but what are you doing about it? If you like McD's try there salads just as good as the other food or try subway's hold the condiments try walking everywhere instead if busses or subways if you live in NYC try walking to downtown I member doing that but with a couple of friends not to many maybe one or two you don't want people to think your up to no good try riding bike swimming anything like that are any other medical problems you know about try getting your mom to take you for a complete physical to find out what going on with your body and ask her to get you a male doctor you will be more comfortable like that

Answer 8

Yes, dear. You worry too much about your weight. I think you should love yourself first then poeple will love you. And, not just you, boy. Girls at your age like older boys and think boys at their age are silly (believe me, I was a teen-girl). You build you confidence, then ask some younger girl out someday.

(Addition idea: why not now that you start your diet? And make new friends at a gym? Or, go to a swimming pool? Sports don't only help you get slimmer but also teach you to love yourself.)

Goodluck!

Answer 9

Of corse you will find love!may be because your over wieght some girls may not like you or if you really do like some girls that tease you becease you are over wieght you should try and loose some pounds and may be more girls will like you and then you could ask them out!:)you should also try going to the gym and eating less junk food and more healthier food but im sure you will find love!

Answer 10

first thing is first, your STILL YOUNG so begin by excersising and loosing some weight.

Put yourself in a girls position, would you like a really fat girlfreind? say 400lbs

second girls like tall guys, so start streching and playing lots of basketball. believe me ive seen ppl who were your height grow inmensly by playing this sport. weird how this works

third, play a little with human psycology,
example, attire: dont wear plad shirts or shirts with horizontal stripes. Vertical striped shirts make you look thiner and taller
take it from that movie " hitch " its all about the look

well good luck

Answer 11

From what I experienced, what truly matters isn't the looks...it's the heart! Please don't listen to these people who teases you like this...and yes, you will find love for sure.

If you are so concerned about your weight, you can always lose it. Unless you suffer from some sort of disease that won't allow it. You can get so many helps from so many people like doctors. You should talk to your parents about this and I'm sure they will help in some way.

I hope everything goes well for you. Take care!