My ex girlfriend lives in another state and when she calls she?

Question

says she misses me and wants a family with me and wants to marry me. But says she wont be able to move back to this state for a year because of financial and medical reasons. But says she will wait that long. What do I do? I love her but I want her here now. I can pay her debts. Why is she doing this and saying thesae things? Is she just messing my head or is she serious?

Answer 1

The only person that has that answe is her. Go see her and ask her what is up. Ever thought maybe she doesn't want to leave her state. Maybe she would like for you to move there. Good luck!

Answer 2

Where did you meet her? If it was on the computer she is probably a kid. But if not she needs to get her priorities in line. Put her on the spot come to you within a certain time or forget about you. If she is serious about it she will discuss the matter and you can come to a solution and she will act on it, or she is just using you as a crutch, as in let me keep one on the line so I always have somewhere to turn. If you do what I told you, don't back down once you start, no matter what. If she takes it to the end and doesn't come to you don't break down and call her. Give it a few day's or a week. If she really loves you, she will call you first.

Answer 3

Ask yourself these question: Why did you both break up? How did she treat you for that? What were the main conflicts between you? Did she love you? Do you still love her?

Man, maybe she's just bored because she's new there in the other state. Girls want their sweet memories to last long, (at least while they have nothing to replace yet) until she meets another man and she'll forget you.

Answer 4

Money is a really tough issue in most relationships. I think it may be difficult for her to accept your financial help. I think you need to help her to understand that this is something you want to do and give her a little time. My significant other makes a ton more money than I do and when he first offered to help me start my own clinic, my first reaction was no way because I've always been really self-sufficient. Eventually I realized that he was doing this for our future and because he wanted me to be happy. He was really persistent and I got over my silly pride issues and let him do this for us/me. You also mention medical issues and she may not want to "burden you". I would say keep the lines of communication open.

Answer 5

Your the only one that can really answer that. just really pay attention to what she says and how. If she is worth the wait in your eyes than go for it. About you able to pay her bills, if she is an independent woman than good for her let her be. Just really listen to your heart and instinct 9 out of 10 your instinct is correct. Hope that helps.

Answer 6

Don't pay off her debts. Don't hold out too much hope that she means what she says. If you have money, go to visit her and see if you can determine what is her true situation. If she doesn't want you to visit, that sounds like she is hiding something.

Answer 7

Go there and visit her. Talk to her and she what she says. If she is messing with your head, dump her. But if she is not (and I don't think she is), then pay her debts and maybe move out to her.

Answer 8

dude, i was there

i wanted this girl to move in with me...she was broke, barely making it through, but she had to stay because of her apartment lease...i said i would wait for 6 months (until the lease ran up), we loved each other...but she broke up with me two weeks later and said that she didn't wanna do the long distance thing

Answer 9

i hate to say this to u but move on. she's just messing up ure head. by the way ure sweet taht ure willing to pay her debts to be closer to her.

Answer 10

What you should do is to talk to her what you just wrote. If you can't tell her everything, you won't be able to work things out even after you marry her.