Say you are going out with a girl you like. She is everything that you have always wanted. You let her know that and that you want to marry her and have babies with her. But you call only when you feel like it. Sometimes you tell her that you'll call her but then you don't. She invites you to go to the movies and you never call her about a time that works for you. And when she calls you to see what's up and to make sure that your not dead (after not hearing from you in days) you tell her that, "Oh I can't go out today cause my cars having trouble, I'll call you later" and then don't call her. Why would you do that, what does that mean?
2006-06-12 15:52:14 · 17 answers · asked by bellacervantes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no mystery see other post where i unlock the secrets
2006-06-12 15:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that he is shallow, callous, and doesn't know what love is. He is more concerned about what his needs are while you are like a convenience store to him. The great thing is that you realize this before you settle down with him or have a baby by him. Suppose you got pregnant, don't try to fool yourself into thinking that it will suddenly change his ways. If he is selfish now, he will be even more selfish later. But he isn't alone. Many people are like that. You sound like a sweet, caring, and intelligent young lady. You think with your head and feel with your heart, and that will help you know when you have found the right guy. You should pat yourself on the back for recognizing the weakness in your boyfriend and how it keeps your relationship in a poor state. Have faith in yourself.
2006-06-12 23:02:23 · answer #2 · answered by Awesome Bill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say, but that's what I've done with girls that I wasn't really interested in, and didn't have enough courage to just break it off with them. Perhaps, there's alot that he does like about you, but not quite enough for him to have as much attention on you as you'd like. You should just sit him down and ask, "Do you really want to be with me, or would you rather find someone else?" This kinda guy might give you a PR (public relations) answer which he doesn't really mean. You'll have to dig for the truth, even saying, "Tell me the truth." If a girl told me that, that would pull the truth out of me.
2006-06-12 23:15:06 · answer #3 · answered by John C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me guess. He pursued you and pursued you. You finally said yes, and now he's acting like a jerk.
But truth is, he didn't turn into a jerk. He was always one. But you didn't see it because he was treating you so sweetly at one point and was determined to win you over. He told you he loved you, and painted pictures of a future with you. You most likely told him to slow down, take it easy, and pointed out things you were scared or unsure about. But he convinced you that he wasn't going anywhere, and that he loved you. At first you were unimpressed. You had been through this before. Men chasing after you, sending flowers, bringing you your favorite icecream, etc., etc. But he seemed to really be sticking to his word. He didn't seem to be going anywhere. You saw him as different from anyone you'd ever met. Feeling safe, you decided to push your fears aside and go for it, right? Then you fell in love with him, and accepted him for who he was- flaws and all. You probably put everything, all of yourself, all of your energy into loving him.
But wait, then he saw that. He saw that you were a dedicated, sweet, beautiful woman! Everything he thought he always wanted. And if you were somewhat adventurous, he probably felt like he tamed you a little bit. Then he decided you were now a little too tame. Why? Because you loved him. He needs another challenge to restock his manliness.
Wait, if he finally won you over, who else could he win over? Or maybe he could play around with you a little bit, see if he can get into your mind and make you ask yourself questions like, "Did he ever really love me? Was it all a game? Is he possibly just scared and needs some time?" All I can say is BOY IS HE ENJOYING THIS. It gives him so much power. He loves that the once independent woman who didn't want to give him a chance is wrought with worry over losing him.
2006-06-12 23:14:06 · answer #4 · answered by smewth-e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it be said that he likes you as a person but nothing more. If you stop having sex with him you will see the whole picture and realize how tight your eyes were closed to the situation.
2006-06-12 23:08:40 · answer #5 · answered by real 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he does not put you as a top priority.I would tell him if he wants you in his life he needs to call you more often and respect your time the same way he wants you to respect his.
2006-06-12 22:59:18 · answer #6 · answered by looking1964 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no mystery about men. They are what they are. Men only say what you want to hear.
2006-06-12 22:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by EMY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means she isnt everything and you dont want to marry her or probably cant be bothered turning up anyway. babies? ha! ill come see them when my car isnt troubling me
2006-06-12 22:56:46 · answer #8 · answered by frostyg02uk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, it means he is taking advantage of you, knowing you will be at his beck and call whenever he wants you.
2006-06-12 23:26:53 · answer #9 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that he is just playing with you and he is a quick that wants everything but then kick it aside later on
2006-06-12 23:00:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋