I would love 2 be in a relationship. I'm 18 turning 19, in college studyin engineering. I dont bliev in findin men over the internet, so sorry single guys. I think i'm cute, but my problem is that i'm afraid 2 make eye contact with guys. I think they intimidate me or something. Sometimes i'm scared that if i smile at them they'll jus think i'm a freak or something. I keep on trying but i just cant do it. & i dont bliev in making the first move either. I bliev i'm worth the effort. Still a virg too. Help me out guys & girls. What d'you guys think is the best way to catch ur attention?
2006-06-12 15:13:52 · 24 answers · asked by AfroSistah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can pretty much always get a man's interest by simply showing interest in him. It's not really about what you look like or how many interests you have. *How* you feel about yourself is very important, it shows on your face. If you're afraid, this makes them afraid, too.
Don't go forcing yourself to smile at guys in order to *find* a guy. If you're too uncomfortable doing it, like you said, they'll intuit this discomfort and walk fast the other way. I suggest that you just practice smiling for the time being, at *any* and *all* strangers (everyone *but* the guys you're interested in) just for the sake of getting into the habit of smiling naturally. Then one day, when you least expect it, you'll find yourself smiling at someone interesting, who's smiling right back at you. Let the worries slide by turning smiling into a permanent art form.
2006-06-13 06:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by Skye 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I can only tell if a girl is interested in me when she smiles at me. Then I look behind me and make sure its not someone else... but ya, you dont have to make the first move but you can just smile at them and wave or something. There are probably lots of guys at ur school right? They wont think you are a freak unless you follow them around or something.
2006-06-12 15:17:14 · answer #2 · answered by Lookinstr8over 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, we have a lot in common. I got married first then sex at the age of 24. I considered myself to be beautiful and so did others. Try looking at the guy in the eye and putting your head back down. It shows submission guys like that. You don't have to say a word first, just a simple smile. Some of the best guys are in church. Go to church and look approachable not slutty. Get involved with church functions. Have you seen the movie "memoirs of Geisha?"
2006-06-12 15:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by twirly#1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your only 18....don't worry about "getting a man", just have fun. If your serious about college, you don't have the free time for a relationship. Sounds like your problem is confidence. I'm a bit older than you, and trust me when I say that most men are just as worried about what you may think of them. Confidence comes with age, and most men find that to be seductive. Finish your education.....Education will open the door to choices, freedom, and money. And honi....that's sexy. So, my advice....become the person you want to be. When your comfortable with that.....the men will line up.
2006-06-12 15:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by wendy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try just be yourself. That is what we really want to see anyway. A smile is a wonderful thing, it can make someone's day alot better. The best advice i can give you is to be yourself above all else. If the person you really are is not good enough for someone you don't need to be with them.
2006-06-12 15:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by aintlovegrand78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to be really shy like you and it took me forever to get over it. I had to practice smiling at a guy and force myself to say hello to a guy. Now it comes natural. Try it. After a while you won't even notice you are doing it.
2006-06-12 15:19:23 · answer #6 · answered by doc_is 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try assembly up with him for a informal date and ask him...head to head high-quality method to get reply. Give him advantage of the doubt til you recognize for definite. If that had been his woman then she could have both requested "who is that this" or what the F***. If you name and always get voicemail I could be worried-that would imply it dont wish to reply if she is there. what do you obtained to lose in case you meet him for dinner?
2016-09-09 00:40:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to find someone...... Is to stop looking. Let them find you. Guys like the thrill of the chase. You don't have to play hard to get or anything, just have faith in yourself and be confident.
2006-06-12 15:26:00 · answer #8 · answered by Jessiegirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, if you really are cute, and you might better check the mirror again, you will not have any problem getting the attention of the guys.
2006-06-12 15:15:39 · answer #9 · answered by wild1handy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Build up the nerve and make eye contact.Whats the worst that could happen. I think you will be surprised if you start looking into a man's eyes.
2006-06-12 15:20:40 · answer #10 · answered by im_where71 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋