Would I have to convert to Islam if i married a Muslim guy?

Question

My family is Christian and his family is Muslim.

i'm concerned about what religion our children will be.

Does a Muslim guy really HAVE to have 4 wives? I'm american and he's not.

Answer 1

I married a muslim and lived in Morrocco with his family for 2 yrs they were happy enough for me to keep my religion altho they would have been happier if I'd changed they put no pressure on me at all but every family is different and his family may not be happy unless you do take his religion

Answer 2

I only have two words of caution for you.., and you really need to pay attention.

(1) Is this Muslim man from overseas? Arabia turf? The reason I ask is that there have man far too many cases of the Muslim husbands taking the children back to their native lands where the Islamic governments only recognizes the mans rights - the wife has non. Once they have the children there - it is virtually impossible to get the kids back. Some women have hired professionals to help kidnap the kids back.., since they were kidnapped to start with - consider it fair play.

(2) I am convinced that "THE" Antichrist comes out of Islam. He will take on the guise of Muslims awaited, Mahdi, and will have either a man claiming (pretending) to be Jesus (actually the false prophet) or perhaps the Pope claiming to represent Jesus.., and tell the world that this Mahdi is the true anointed one, not Jesus.

No Muslim will cop to this because they do not realize this - and are dupes of a religion started by Satan portraying himself as the Angel Gabriel to Muhammad. If you have an NIV (New International Version) Bible.., turn to DANIEL 9:27. Read that verse. Next read the [i where its marked for verse 27] foot note associated with it.

On the Temple Mount site of the Solomon's Temple - sitting on the wing of its foundation is a temple of abominations "The Dome of the Rock" and the Antichrist arrives from this place.., the Dome of the Rock is a Muslim Mosque. Daniel foresaw the Antichrist coming from the abomination that causes desolation - ISLAM.

I suggest you pray about it and may God help you back away from this relationship. With the troubles going on in the Middle East, its just a matter of time that the Antichrist comes - and if you are married to a Muslim there will be no escape.

Marrying outside one's own faith causes problems anyway because at some point, conflicts do arise. Given Islam's violent state despite all the lies otherwise.., is it wise to get involves.

I have not lied about one thing I told you. Kidnapped children taken from their mothers has been documented on 20/20 and 60 Minutes some few years ago. As for the Antichrist coming from Islam - its evident the Prophet Daniel was shown the Dome of the Rock far in advance of Islam's birth, and identified as something very evil.

Answer 3

A Muslim guy does not HAVE to have 4 wives in fact he should only have one unless it is proven that she cannot provide him with children. If she gives her permission then and only then he is permitted to marry another.
The 4 wives idea came about during the the early years of Islam when men were going to war and their wives and children were being left with no-one, If the husband died another man married the woman in order to take care of her and her children.
As far as converting is concerned most men prefer their wives to have converted , it is however up to the individual but Islamically a Muslim man can marry a christian woman without her converting to Islam.
Your childrens faith should be decided by both of you together although Islam seems to be the preffered choice more often than not.

Answer 4

This is tough because Islam is a very demanding religion of both the husband and the wife. If you and your family are Christian, do you honestly think that you could foresake God and your family to convert to Islam? I don't think it is worth it. Even if this man isn't a hardcore Muslim, he may be one day and start expecting you to convert to Islam. I am not prejudiced at all against Islam but I feel it would be better for all people to marry within their Religion because one person will always have to bow down to the others Religion. Then you have the issue of raising children. Would they be Christian or Muslim. A very tough choice indeed.

Answer 5

You dont' have to convert. Muslims and Christians can get married without changing religion as basically they both arose from the same root.
No, muslims don't have to have four wives. It's a choice, not a must act. In most part of muslim areas, it's considered as one of the worst practices and not even encouraged by the religion.

Answer 6

I can really understand your fear. If he's muslim enough he should have told you that for better relationship, it would be better for you to REVERT to Islam.
I'd say this because the dangers are so much if you do not join him. The children will get confused. All those i met while at the university who claimed to be free thinker- by my findings- are from broken home and different religious home. He ought to head the home and for you to appreciate this, you need be a muslim, otherwise, you'd lead him to stress. The odds are many dear sister.
If you'd buy my suggestion. Ask him to come to table and have an open discussion about the two religion with you. Present your fact and let him present his. Come to a conclution and if judge your conviction. If you need time, ask for time. Either way, he owes you all the effort to make you understand. At least he chose you as a christian. He owe you.
I am a muslim and this is my view.
Good luck.

Answer 7

You do not have to convert since you are people of the book ie Christian. Your children are to be raised Muslim their father's religion.

Do not be afraid of the 4 wives. One he can not have them if you place it in your marriage contract. And if it is not you still have to sign for it as the first wife. Plus the Quran says that he can only have a second wife only if he can love and take care of you equally. Since no one can love anyone equally he can not have a second wife.

Congratulations on your marriage.

A good book for you to check out for your rights as a woman in the Quran would be

Quran and Woman: Rereading the Sacred Text from a Woman's Perspective By: Amina Wadud

Answer 8

Alright, I've been reading what everyone else has posted, and i think i got a decent enough answer. My dad is a practicing Muslim and my mom is a practicing Christian. You don't have to convert, not for religouis reasons atleast. If you're fiance is demanding that, then it's a personal matter. As for the children... my mom and my dad have both instilled in me the values of both religoins, and I guess it's up to me to decide, but other situations of the same sort could be different all really depends on you and him.

Answer 9

I will suggest you to study on Islamic relagion. Do research on this relagion. If you find Islam a logical and reasoned relagion and if you like it then you should convert. Please do not convert before you understand Islam, before you know why you are converting. I am a practicing muslim. I am proud for being muslim, because I know what I am following and why I am following. Since I found so many reasons and logic to follow Islam, I enjoy following it. I never feel bored practicing it. I rather enjoy it. Once I miss any prayer I feel uncomfortable. Therefore, I will suggest you to know Islam first then decide.

I was reading the comments of several guys rgarding the status of a wife in Islam. Honestly, they do not know what they are talking about. The things what they said are wrong. You should read Islam by yourself. You should read Quran and Hadith to know about Islam. These two books are the principal basis of Islam. You can get Quran and Hadith in English translation from any Islamic book shop.

Answer 10

I have read of more than a few Western or non-Muslim women who have married Muslim men but later regretted it.

I have read that the Muslim men are very charming and exotic before the marriage takes place, but then as soon as the marriage happens, they change ... they start taking charge and, as the wife, you essentially become a second-class citizen in your own home.

Works of fiction like Aladdin paint a very glamorous, exotic picture of Muslim life ... but from what I've read and heard regarding non-Muslim Western women marrying Muslim men, it is not like that at all in reality.

Whether you'd have to convert to Islam is not the important issue here. There are SERIOUS cultural and religious differences here that, I am afraid to say, are very likely to turn you into a very unhappy woman who ends up being persecuted in your very own home.

Read "Not Without My Daughter" for a more detailed personal account of what I'm talking about.