We have to get married sooner for immigration purposes. I am American and he is Canadian. All of our family is going on the cruise and I am trying to keep it a secret so they don't get upset for having to be at a fake wedding. Can I? Should I tell? Would you be upset?
Thanks
2006-06-12 13:52:36 · 8 answers · asked by pictureperfectii 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It will not be obvious to the unknowlegable that we are already married. Everything will look the same, I hope.
2006-06-12 14:02:14 · update #1
keep it between the two of you, who needs to know that you two are already married. just enjoy the first moments as husband and wife and let your worries just fade away all will be just fine.
2006-06-12 14:16:42 · answer #1 · answered by captures_sunsets 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My mom is my best friend (Corny I know!) but I would die if I kept something like that from her. I studied to become a bridal consultant and there are a lot of cruise ships that won't "legally" marry someone, either being they don't have a chaplain/priest/pastor, whatever on board... or regulations just don't allow it. If it bothers you to keep the big secret then don't, I really don't think anyone will get upset that you're having a "fake" wedding, they are getting to share a very special moment with you, they should be happy they at least get to do that.
2006-06-12 17:57:33 · answer #2 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll be fine. You did what you did for a reason and that's all that matters. It was something between you and your new husband and you shouldn't let other people judge you. You know what's right for you. My "fiance" and I went and legalized our relationship right after we got engaged b/c he was getting deployed and I had no benefits, plus it was a way to pay off our bills and pay for our wedding. It wasn't our wedding and we kept it as simple and meaningless as possible. We didn't exchange rings or change my last name. In our minds it was a piece of paper we signed to recieve benefits and basically to pay for our wedding. We only told our parents who were really supportive about the whole thing. They already knew how we felt and it was jsut the smartest thing to do. Especially if you're in a military family I'm sure you would understand that most military people (or the ones I've met have done this). Our "real" wedding is being held this August. It will be the day we exchange rings, I'll take his last name, and we'll be able to express our feelings for one another. We both knew the document we signed had legally bound us, but it wasn't the day we were able to express our emotions or become one.
Good luck to you!
2006-06-12 14:38:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you still going through the service and everything? Will it be apparant that you are already legally married during your wedding? I think you should tell though, it will come out anyway probably, or people will ask weird questions...if it's for a good reason and you have to elope next weekend then your family should understand
2006-06-12 14:00:21 · answer #4 · answered by karen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were going to do that. We wanted to have a private ceremony with just the two of us because we felt like it was such a personal and private thing. However, in the end we didnt do it. My husband would have but financially and logistically it just wasnt going to work. Plus, I wanted to be able to keep our wedding rings on once we put them on each other!
If you both can truly keep it a secret FOREVER and never tell anyone, I would say to do it. But if there is any chance of it ever slipping out, just tell people what's going on because they will be hurt if they find out later.
2006-06-12 14:34:46 · answer #5 · answered by jenniferaboston 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL Congrats of course...would not seem that there are a lot of you october 2010 brides here suited now! i'm a october 2011 bride myself...9/10/11 i can not look ahead to the day because of the fact the making plans is soo darn tedious.
2016-12-08 08:36:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll have to face it sometime. you need to tell your parents at least cause your dad will want to walk you down the isle and your mom is a very special part in this event. you and i both know it means the world to her. i would tell them. you're getting married anyway and i know you would want their blessing.
2006-06-12 14:16:45 · answer #7 · answered by aj607 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be arrested!
2006-06-12 13:57:57 · answer #8 · answered by sillycat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋