My freinds daughter has urination issues-?

Question

I have been dating a woman with a 6.5 year old that still has bedwetting problems. She also occasionly empties her bowels in her clothes as well.
This weekend I was alone with her at he amusement park-her mom had to check out of the hotel and trusts me with her as I have a daughter as well. Anyhow the daughter happy with the attention I give her and the places we go(I have been picking up and dropping her off at school-got her her first library card etc.) but she has some jealousy issues with the affection I show her mother..anyhow she was a little upset that her mother had to go but was happy to be at the park still..I asked if she had to pee once(I know she has a problem) and we were waiting in line when she gave me the sweetest most compasionate look I had got from her in a number of days..than I looked down and saw she was in a puddle..luckly noone saw it till we were on the ride so me and her had a secret and we talked calmly about it on the ride. please send links/advice

turtle_express16-she was doing this before I started seeing her mom and I think she gets enough attention,

she was not embarresed it seems like she is used to it happening.When I asked her after the fact she said she "forgot" that she had to go..she is easily excitable and she sometimesdoesnt hear whats being said as she is so intent on something else..could it be used getting used to listening to her body better?

Answer 1

Contrary to what you have been told by other answers, it is NOT common to urinate at this age during the day or night. You did not specify whether or not she wets the bed, but if she does, this is usually a sign of abuse or trauma. Clothes soiling during the day is usually for attention. Seeing a doctor is probably the best idea. Maybe the child needs some counseling to find out what is really bothering her. Most likely she is having issues adjusting to your relationship with her mom. Be patient and try to include her in all activies. Use your "alone time" between yourself and her mom for when she is away from the home or sleeping at night.

Answer 2

As another person mentioned, this is definitely not normal activity for a 6 year old. It is usually a sign of trauma or abuse. The advise given was along the lines of what I'd have said except my additional advice is to get her to counseling as soon as possible. She is still at an age that the negative mentallity which is associated with this can be reversed so as not to become a life-long problem.

Answer 3

The urination issues, the excitability, and the "not hearing" on occasion all sound like they could be symptoms of Sensory Integration Disorder (SID). There are many treatments (non-drug) available if this is the case. You can do a search for it to find out more.

Answer 4

There are some things you can do, such as...
Visit the doctor to make sure it's not a medical problem
No liquids after a certain hour
Going to the bathroom every hour regardless if she feels the urge
Being patient regardless of how many times it happens
Showing her how to clean up after herself on her own so she doesn't feel ashamed
Get her to talk about if anything is stressing her out
Make sure she is getting enough rest at night

http://www.blended-families.com/
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/blended_families_stepfamilies.htm
http://www.aacap.org/publications/factsfam/bedwet.htm
http://kidshealth.org/kid/health_problems/bladder/enuresis.html

Answer 5

First thing would be to go to the doctor. It is normal at this age to still wet at night but not the day. The fact she did not tell you she had to go to the toilet says something. 6.5 year olds do not just wet there pants in public and not be hugely embarrassed (mine would have been a crying mess and would have been telling me for ages I have to go to the toilet)I would say a pschologist is in need. Whatever you do, do not believe this is normal at this age IT IS NOT

Answer 6

Sounds bizzare but undetected wheat allergies are the #1 undetected factor for bed wetters and children who cant control their urination. Couldnt hurt to investigate.

Answer 7

has her mom taken her to the docter to rule out medical issues?
some kids do in fact have medical issues that cause them to do this . however if she doesnt have medical issues than she needs to speak to a councler maybe there is more to the problem maybe some one malested her or maybe this is her way of saying she wants her daddy or something

Answer 8

how about depends. and going to the doctor who will give meds for an over active bladder, it is common thing and can be corrected. nothing to be embarrassed about.