What will happen if I tell my Mom who raped me?

Question

A girl is really helping me and I feel like i might be able to tell my Mom and family who raped me. Im so scared about whats going to happen and I dont know if i can handle the police and everyone like that. Whats going to happen ? Also, as this girl ( music_girl ) has been doing these mind exercises with me I am freaked at out at how I reakize I was jumping in and out of my body while I was raped. It seemed like i was jumping out of my body and watching myself be assaulted then back in again. I wish I could have just run away instead of getting back in. After he did that to me I felt like i was 2 pple,,,one who was very sick and one who was trying to take the sick me to be healed somewhere.What is all this stuff ? How and why does it happen ? plz pray some more if u can...also..what should I say when I go to a counselor ? Im afraid if I say this 2 pple thing and out of body stuff they will put me in the hospital....and not let me go home..

How old am I? Im 18 f student soon...athletic....etc.

Answer 1

You need to tell your mom, sweetie. I don't know what will happen when you do, but I know what happens when you don't. It eats you up inside. Then you have to try to deal with all those feelings all by yourself. I never told anyone when I was raped, and now it's been 15 years since then, and every year when it comes close to the date, I start having panic attacks and crying all the time, I can't control it.
Don't do like I did and try to make it disappear, because that doesn't work. Your mom will help you.

Answer 2

It's normal to feel "outside" of yourself and like two different people when you've survived a rape. Don't be afraid of telling - be more afraid of not telling. The police are there to make sure it never happens again, and you can ask to talk to a female police officer if it makes you feel safer or more comfortable. The doctors will help to heal your body, and you can also ask for female doctors only if it makes it easier for you. The counselor will help to heal your mind after the shock you've been through and is there to listen. Your mom will react with love and protection towards you - no matter who raped you. You are her child, always her baby, and the rest of the world can't compete with you when it comes to her loyalty. You're braver than you know - take the next step so that you can start healing.

Answer 3

Dear princess: First let me say I am very sorry you have gone through this horrendous crime. I will pray for you.
Please let your mom know who hurt you and yes please talk to the police about it. You do not have to deal with the police by yourself. There are victim's support services in most police stations. I am also sure your mom will stand by you and help you every step of the way. By not saying anything the monster who did this to you has the freedom to do it to others.
As far as councilors go just be honest with the councilor. It will help you heal emotionally if you don't hold things back. It is quite normal for people to feel like they are in and out of the episode when something so violent and horrid is taking place. Our minds will do that to try and help us, it doesn't mean you actually had an out of body experience.

Dear girl may God give you comfort and strength as you heal from this ordeal.

Answer 4

Don't be afraid of the "2 people thing". That's a natural defense mechanism of the body when a person goes through a traumatic situation. It's like the mind departs from the body in consciousness because of the trauma and it checks back periodically to see if it's safe to take in what's going on. If the situation hasn't been resolved the mind takes off again.

As to what's going to happen, God only knows. Hopefully your mother will be loving and caring and more interested in helping you recover than in seeking to get revenge on the rapist. I pray that this will be the case, in Jesus' name, Amen!

Answer 5

The counselor will understand. She/he will not have you committed. What you are experiencing is perfectly normal for the sort of trauma you have been through.

We all have two people. Some people are just really adept at not listening to one of them. Some people are healthy enough that their two people have a great amount of unity. That's what we all strive for.

The first chapter of James talks about the double minded man, unstable in all his ways. That man is double minded because he can't decide what he believes. But it is possible for a person to become double minded because the mind can't decide how to deal with an event or a person - or the direction their life is going. People experience what you're describing in different ways, but everyone has it to some degree.

I wouldn't advise telling your mother until you are seeing a counselor and have a really good relationship with him/her. You can practice telling your counselor what you need to tell your mom, and he/she will help you consider the possible conflicts and how to work through them. And after telling your mom, you'll have someone to go to and process it, whether it goes well or not. You need support.

Of course, I'll continue to keep you in my prayers.

Answer 6

You are not crazy, but you do need help. What you suffered was traumatizing. It's important for you to identify the rapist, both for yourself and for the sake of other people who will suffer as you did if this jerk doesn't get locked up. There are a lot of people who can help and support you. Don't be afraid to be honest about your feelings and experiences. The feeling of trying to disassociate from the thing that was happening to you is natural and understandable. The fact that you understand this feeling is actually a good thing and can help you in healing. Remember, you did nothing wrong.

Answer 7

Start with being honest. Talk to a trusted adult in your life. Ask them to be with you to talk to the police. You need to report your rape so that they can bring your assailant to justice. Trust the Police because they are here to help you. I think that your mother will understand what you are going through if you tell her when you are comfortable. Get some referrals for a therapist too. You can't recover from this on your own. No one should. It will help begin the healing process and you will see you attacker be punshied by the law for what they did to you. What happened to you was wrong and not your fault. The road to healing starts with the first step. My prayers go with you. Please report this to the Police. I would be concerned that this individual will atempt to do this again if you don't or try to do this to someone else. It's up to you to stop this rapist. Be blessed.

Answer 8

Its normal what your feeling and for what happen while you were being assaulted. a counsel will tell you the same thing. I have been in your shoes don't think your crazy . your not. your showing the normal signs of a victim you need to tell your mom. she can be there for you this is something you shouldn't go threw alone..... no one should. the legal process is scary but if you let this guy get away with this he will do it over and over again till he is stopped. good luck you can do this.

Answer 9

Firstly, let me say how sorry I am about your experience, Secondly, they will not put you into a hospital- you have been through an incredibly traumatic experience and you need proper counselling, not hospitalization. Are you worried about what your mum will say or do? You are her little girl and she should support you, and care for you and try to help you get through this as much as she possibly can (the same goes for the rest of your family)... As for what you say when you see the counsellor- well, you say whatever you want... you swear, you rant, you rave, you cry, you talk normally- its all totally up to you, but please, please, please go to counselling, as this will be with you for the rest of your life, and you need help to get over it and through it. I hope that you are able to move on, and go to the police, and tell your mum and ensure that this piece of scum is put away.

Answer 10

Out-of-body experiences are extremely common during trauma like that. If you tell your mom who raped you, things can only get better. They might put you in therapy, that will help you get better, but they will not lock you in a hospital and not let you come home. No one would ever do that. I hope things get better and you find peace. Blessings to you.