Okay, I have herd both sides of the Love story, and it all ends up leaving me confused. People have told me (that in a relashionship) love is no big deal, were as others have told me to say you love someone is the ultimate relashionship commintment before marriage.
I have been led to beleive the second, and have broken up with two girls becasue they have told me they loved me. I do not fear commitment, but I am not ready for such a big commitment like LOVE.
Is love a big deal? Am I right in not whanting to get involved in a relashionship were such an emoition is not mutual?
2006-06-12 11:17:06 · 8 answers · asked by playdude 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well love my friend isn't a commitment it's a joy a feeling inside
that trust me when you have it youll know. i agree with the second one by the way. but hey maybe you just arn't ready to have someone by your side your probably the type who still wants to live life.
2006-06-12 11:22:26 · answer #1 · answered by Cupid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what good is a romantic relationship that does not involve love? if not in love, why bother with a relationship. i think YES, love IS a big deal. and it's even a bigger deal, if you make such a worry like that. i say let love flow, give love a chance. love isn't really eternal, fortunately. love needs tender care. some will wither and die, and some will burn forever. it's how you care for it. and when i say "how you care for it" i do mean the relationship. the tricky one is actually the relationship. saying i love you is easy. building a relationship is a whole new world.
aw, f**k it. i'm not helping you. i'm just blabbering.
2006-06-12 18:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by phaditama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your being up front and honest with them in the beginning, then I see no problem with it. But I think you may have "love" wrong though. You don't just say "I Love You" to someone as a prelude to marriage. I have loved all the men in my life, but I didn't marry them all. Love is just the ultimate feeling you have for someone that means you love them inspite of their faults, in spite of the bad things they might have said, and it says you love them enough to stick around. Love doesn't mean you have to get down on one knee with a ring. When you feel like you love someone so much that they totally complete you and you can't imagine your life without them, then...you know THAT is an ever lasting love.
2006-06-12 18:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well love is a big deal that is why takes time to grow you really need to know a person before you can determine that you love them and you shouldn't break up with someone just because they dropped the "L" bomb (love). If it bothers you when another person says it then let them know first, tell them you know that they have feelings for you but for them to wait until you say "I love you" before saying it again. If you break up with them because the feelings just aren't there for you in any kind of way but friendship good for you, that is the sign to move on.
2006-06-12 18:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by pinkmonkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
basically what you are looking for is not a "love" relationship, let me explain u might have stong feelings for that person but not as strong as saying those three words. before u get in a deep relationship with a female you should tell her how u feel about that whole love thing and if she really like you then she should understand where u are coming from.
2006-06-12 18:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by downflchick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be upfrnt with the gals ,if they say they love you tell them your not ready for a commitment ,and if they stay then youve been honest with them.
2006-06-12 18:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because you love someone don't mean you want to marry them be up front let them no you don't want a commitment so your not hurting anyone
2006-06-12 18:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by BIG MOMMA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK,WELL LOVE GETS ME CONFUSED TO,BUT ITS NO BIG DEAL.GIRLS SAY THIS TO BOYS MOST OF THE TIME.I EVEN SAID THAT TO MY EX-BOYFRIEND LOTS OF TIMES AND LOOK NOW I DON'T GO WITH HIM BUT THAT'S NOT THE REASON WHY WE BROKE UP.BUT DON'T BE AFRAID WHEN ONE OF YOUR GIRLS SAYS THAT TO YOU.ITS JUST LIKE SAYING I LIKE YOU AND THINGS LIKE THAT.....SO DON'T WORRY.IT OK.SO HOPE THAT WHAT I TOLD YOU HELPS...OK BYE-BYE
2006-06-12 18:25:50 · answer #8 · answered by TIGRES FAN 4 LIFE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋