If you love someone and know they love you, and you are in a committed relationship, do you think sex before marriage is okay? I don't see anything wrong with it in that situation, but lots of people do.
Do you want to wait for marriage, and if so why? For personal, or religious reasons? Or do you think waiting for marriage is an old-fashioned or silly notion?
2006-06-12 10:56:36 · 28 answers · asked by Five- Farthings 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do not think it is wrong, but I do think that you need to be careful about who you are with
2006-06-18 12:49:40 · answer #1 · answered by i'm_a_goodie 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I think that if you love someone and they love you, and you are in a committed relationship, then you may as well get married, because that is the definition of marriage. To not acknowledge this is foolish.
Sex should only be shared between a couple who are in love with each other, anything else is futile. Without love, sex is meaningless.
The reason why I think it's a good idea to wait until marriage before sex is because marriage is a manifesto of love, and that sex really isn't the only part of a loving relationship.
Not only that, but sex is the process of REPRODUCTION, and sometimes, this can mean that babies can happen. Any children that may be born need the stability of marriage, and committed, loving parents; that is what marriage was designed for, for any future children, so that the parents have already made a longterm commitment to each other for the benefit of any future children, before any such children may even be considered.
Saving your virginity for the one person you love is the most beautiful gift you can give that person; it shows that they are the one person you wish to share your most personal feelings with.
It isn't old-fashioned or silly at all, it shows that you care. It makes it special, and it means that you care about the other person.
Too many people nowadays place far too much emphasis on sex, and not enough on other stuff. And too many people think about themselves, how they can have fun, but not about the possible consequences.
2006-06-12 11:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think people should wait until they are married to have sex for several reason.
1. The disease's reasons.
2. For every person you have sex with you are also having sex with the person they have sex with and so on. Sorta like the pyramid scheme. This also goes along with the disease. Also with the emotional baggage etc.
3. Sex is a gift/scared that should only be shared with that someone special that you marry.
4. Sex is and can be emotionally traumatizing no matter the age and can cause serious damage. Yes it can be beautiful when shared with someone you love, which is why it should wait for when you get married to the man/woman you will spend the rest of your life with.
These are some of the reasons why I think God said there should be no sex before marriage. There are others I'm sure but I can't think of them right now. Plus in today's society where kids are just throwing away their virginity to anybody, it is indeed a precious gift to the person who does indeed wait for marriage. Even for someone who did give it up their virginity, regretted it, and then took an oath of celibacy.
Besides for those who said you should try them before you get married because they may be lame in bed. Well, sex is like most things, most people aren't that great at it at first. In fact most peoples first time is not pretty. It takes patience, time and practice. That is what a honeymoon is all about. Getting to know one another. Your likes and dislikes. You teach him, he teaches you. If someone is lame in bed, they can learn how to be better.
Most people, myself included, I have talked to wished they had waited til they were married to have sex for the first time. Besides, honestly there are somethings you can do without going all the way to test his prowless in bed if need be.
2006-06-12 11:08:54 · answer #3 · answered by Nickie H 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is absoultely nothing wrong with sex before marriage.
Would you buy a car without drive testing it first?
If you love your man it is worth finding out if you are compatible
sexually because if you are not, only trouble will be the outcome. There has to be chemistry between you otherwise it will not be a fruitful relationship. Filmstars have flopped if the chemistry is not there when they try to portray a relationship on screen.
Hope this answers your question and have a lot of fun finding out!
2006-06-12 11:09:26 · answer #4 · answered by LILY 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have grown up with the no sex before marriage and I still think it is a good idea to wait. Sex is a big commitment and you want to be sure it is with the right person I prefur it to be my husband that I first have sex with not a date that I really like or my boyfriend buy my husband. I want to know that I will love him forever and have a lasting comitment with him have the securtiy of a marriage. Not forget about him and move on. once you have sex with a person you have a stronger bond to them weather you admit it to yourself or not.
2006-06-12 11:09:08 · answer #5 · answered by pinkbunnylol 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Waiting will make your wedding day so much better---and if you can get a guy who will wait for you, it shows how much he loves you for who you are and not just for your goods. That kind of relationship lasts so much longer. Read this book--don't be turned off the title, you don't have to do everything it says, but just think about some of the ideas, especially about how much more love is shown by waiting than by giving in---I Kissed Dating Goodbye, by Josh Harris.
2006-06-12 11:11:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look if you are mature enough to handle the safety stuff and check you know your stuff, over mid to late teens and really want to do it fine.. do it... Why miss out on all the expereicnes at each age group... Ie making love in a tent at a festival is really cool when young and a teenager... not so much when older as is feeling each other up and making out in cinemas... then uni stuff, etc... get the general idea?
Likwise better to all do it at a similar time so somone to realte to and people to turn to if all goes pair shaped....
2006-06-12 11:06:44 · answer #7 · answered by Joey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you're both adults, go for it. You don't want to get all excited for your wedding night and find out he is 4 inches and a horrible lay and can't go down on you right! If you spend your life with a bad sex life, it could ruin your relationship.
2006-06-12 11:07:16 · answer #8 · answered by Queen D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex ,before marriage, is the greatest you would ever experience with your partner
2006-06-12 19:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by Basil P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why wait,if both of you agree to either way do whats right for you.I think the more the merrier love grows with it too!!
2006-06-12 11:11:22 · answer #10 · answered by gymmum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i thinks its up to the person if they want to or not...you can be in a committed relationship but it doesnt mean the guy is being fully honest its up to you to decide..its hard to wait because it could be temptin but its up to you!.......me i say im going to wait.....why......because a guy who is willin to wait for what you want means hes not just around to have sex with you.......hes willin to wait till your ready
2006-06-12 11:00:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋