Do you believe in beating or spanking your kids to discipline them? Why or why not?

Question

I was beaten as a kid, but I don't have bad feelings against my parents for it. I know they did that for my own good.
I have a 3 month old daughter, and as of right now, I would say that I would not hit her or spank her. I would find an alternative method of discipline.
My husband was also spanked as a child, although not as much as me. He says we should never hit our daughter. I do believe I agree.
But what about you? Who thinks spankings as children make for adults who beat on their kids? And who thinks they're an okay method for punishment?

Let me rephrase. I wasn't beaten, but spanked. I don't want folks thinking I was abused.

Answer 1

As your child gets older you will have a whole different perspective on this whole subject. Your daughter is so young and innocent now but when she is older she will mouth off and possibly say obscene things to you or tell you to shut up, then what will you do? I don't think a good old fashioned spanking never hurt anyone, NOT a beating a spanking! I think it instills values in them. That is what is wrong with this world today and there are so many teenagers robbing, murdering, and in just plain trouble for anything and everything. Use your own judgment on your own children when the time comes. Good Luck!

Answer 2

I don't and never will believe that spanking is an effective way of discipline. I am against it. I have kids and went to school to study child development. I found a great site that I always pass on to people about spanking. It is the #1 site from Dr Sears. I always recieve compliments on how well behaved and fun my kids are. I use time out, taking away priviledges and have good talks with my kids. Kids should never be spanked. Check out below.
Mondell- spanking does not instill values in kids, you should also check out this site. Every person who thinks spanking is okay automatically thinks that if you don't, your child will run the show and turn out to be a violent criminal. It is not the only alternative. Have you ever looked at researches Mondell????

Answer 3

There is a difference between beating and spanking beatings are done to inflict pain spankings are more for the point and for discipline not hurting. I find that the motion and actual act of a spanking are the most important part - you can barely touch your child in the form of a spanking and it can be very effective without hurting them at all other than maybe their feelings.

Answer 4

Okay there is a difference in spanking and beating and you should know the difference. As my child grew up if she was told not to do something and I had to repeat it more than twice I popped her hand not hard enough to hurt her but to get her attention.as she got older if I had to tell her more than twice then she got a nice couple of swats to the rear. I was spanked when I was small with leather straps that were wet and made to wear a dress to school. So I understand but time out don't really work all the time. Allot of the time it will depend on the child to.

Answer 5

I both agree and disagree.

Beating, espy. when it gets excessive or unreasonable. While I don't harbour any grudges and we all get along just fine in our old age, I must say I could have done *without* over 90% of the beatings I got.

A single slap on the bum or a tight clutch on the shoulder is another matter. I think it's okay - when really required - to use these 2 methods. They do not really hurt the child but they do get a little "fear of god" in them - it establishes the hierarchy and draws a line for the really really naughty/bad acts.

Most likely a few times is all it takes, much as with a puppy, after that those behaviours are unlikely to be repeated. Don't forget, we come from apes, who are also hierarchical pack animals.

Answer 6

There is a difference between spanking and beating. Your child will get to the age where he or she will be learning to do things that they know you don't like and you have to find some way to set them straight. it is up to you how you handle that. Spanking them is not going to do them any harm. it is a firm way to show them that is not okay. children wear diapers so it kind of cushions it! state law says that its okay as long it is not out of anger or with objects. an open hand and not with great force. most of the time, the noise scares them more than the little jolt does. If you and your husband don't wish to spank then watch the NANNY. she teaches parents how to discipline without spanking and she mainly enforces timeout. She also says to talk to them on their level-eye to eye and put them in time out. age = how many minutes they get. I just see that as a way for them to sit there and scream their heads off. kids hate to sit still. i spank, i was spanked as a kid, and i think that its all up to you to be responsible about it. they won't hate you and they won't hold it against you. You'll find a comfortable medium once those buttons are getting pushed and you'll be okay!

Answer 7

I've got spanked as a child myself and I really think it done me some good cause my mom & dad did it out of love. But I have a 6 yr old child and she only got a spanking 3 times cause I always said I wouldn't spank my child but the time came where I just knew if I don't disipline her now she will keep doing it so I had 2 stop it where it started. It's just that after u do spank your child u have 2 talk & tell them y you did it and reassure them that you did it out of love. Your child is still young but when those terroble 2's come U will reconsider your desicion trust me but if u have 2 do it out of love.

Answer 8

The difference between spanking and beating is anger.

If you are frustrated and lose your temper at your child then proceed to "spank" them, you are abusing them.

On the other hand, if spanking is used to discipline him or her the same way any other punishment would be administered, such as a "time out", then there's nothing wrong with it in my opinion.

There's a big difference between administering a punishment, and intending to do harm.

Answer 9

Spanking is an effective form of discipline. But it will always be a contraversal issue. It works for me and my family. It may not work for my best friend.
What people need to understand is there is a BIG difference between beating a child and spanking.

Answer 10

I did spank my kids and I was spanked. I have many friends that don't / didn't.

What you need to do is be firm.. very firm. You can get your message across without hitting. However, the child needs to learn and know that you are the one in charge.

So many kids today are what I see as wild. Their parents don't give them the direction they need. And, no, they shouldn't just be ignored because the parent is afraid of what "others" will say.

Children want and need to be taught right from wrong, the world doesn't stop for them, there are rules to follow and they need to follow them....

Learn to have balance an direct your child to be self confident, caring of themself & others, love the crap out of them and let them know who's mom. It's not easy, but you can do it.

Best of Luck to YOU!