please help me! my boyfriend and i are getting ready for the summer... and we decided to be friends and then get bacl together next school year. mean while this girl is like trying to take him.. and i think he wants her. people are saying all this stuff about them but i dont know what to believe! i realy really like him... and i kow he rell really likes me. i promosed to call him everyday, but i dont know if i should... what him and that girl are together!!?!?! PLEASE HELP ME OUT! :-/
2006-06-12 10:07:56 · 16 answers · asked by penguin1o1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you two want to have fun for the summer. You want to have your cake and eat it too. Well It don't work that way, It really sounds like you want to be with other guys, with out calling it cheating and the same for him, and now it is kicking you on your ***, Now that he has someone that likes him, and I belt that your not being with any one. So now your all hurt, but its your fault. That's not the way it works out if you like someone. I say that you grow up and stick to the guy you like and stop taking breaks. Good luck....
2006-06-12 10:20:48 · answer #1 · answered by queen b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, you guys decided to call it quits during the summer, probably for this very reason. If it was his idea maybe he had this other girl in mind the entire time. Besides, if you guys really like each other why break up during the summer. Thats crazy. Its not like school should change anything in your relationship unless its all just for show. What are you the head cheer leader and him the quarter back? If he's already "talking" with this girl than he's either into her or he's trying to make you jealous. You can either call him up and tell him that you really like him and don't want to lose him to this other girl and tell him you don't think you should take a break over the summer. Or you can do what I would do. Forget him for the summer. Go out and have fun with your friends and meet other guys. Don't worry about whether you're cheating on him because you're on a break for the summer and he's not worrying about it. Enjoy your summer, don't spend it freaking out about him. He's not worth the head ache let alone the heart ache.
2006-06-12 17:17:12 · answer #2 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to move away from my hometown right in the beginning of a relationship. We both thought this would have gotten serious over time but there was no way around it. I made a decision that we could be friends and talk on the phone or when i went back to visit we could get together, but because i didn't want to be miles away worrying and agonizing about what he was doing or who he was doing it with i made the decision to Leave him to do what he needed to do, and i go to do my thing. If by some chance i came back and we still wanted to be together than Great! but if it didn't than we didn't waste time on something that wasnt meant to be now 3 years later, we are still living happily! . so leave with nothing holding you back and enjoy the time you have for yourself! You might grow from the experience and have alot more to offer when you get back.
2006-06-12 17:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1. if him & the other girl are together, then his loss. he's not worth you stressing out about it. #2. i think your both idiots! why would you decide to split up for summer break? that is a lot of time for a lot of changes to take place. it looks to me like you set yourself up to get hurt. #3. you must have stability issues if you are listening to what other people are saying. you cant truly be independant untill the only opinion that matters to you is your own!
2006-06-12 17:23:23 · answer #4 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so desperate about Guys. When you are they know it and treat you like Crap. If he really likes you best, he won't go out with others, just you. Don't listen to gossip beause some people just want to start trouble, you have to find out for yourself what kind of person he is but don't go chasing him around, play hard to get and he might stay around, if not he's not worth it anyway.
2006-06-12 17:14:52 · answer #5 · answered by Make It Happen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him, and why did you split for the summer? that is the most important time for a relationship. he (or you) is obviously going to find someone else and forget all about the other person. i can't really help you, they are probably together and happy.
2006-06-12 17:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by m_rae0232 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants to be free and have fun for the summer. personally i wouldnt deal with it, i wouldnt call him or get back with him. But only you can decide what is best for you.
2006-06-12 17:11:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you are sure that he really likes you...then what should you worry about? if he ends up dumping you...maybe he wasnt the guy for you...go ahead give it a try and test him that way. at the end it will all work out.
2006-06-12 17:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg. forget him. im picturing my bf telling me that. and then me knowing that stuff.
well id say ASK him if those rumors are true. if he starts getting really emotional like WAT!?!?! wat are u talking about!?! then id say then he is. but if hes just shocked about it then hes ok.
then ask the girl on the phone and act like ure some regular girl and ask her if shes going out with him.
and if they do go out then DUMP HIM and if he ever does ask u back out then say NO. hes not worth loving if he ALSO LIKES this OTHER girl. and chooses her over u.
call him and ask him that and wait a while. hopefully things will get better.
2006-06-12 17:14:57 · answer #9 · answered by ~*Peaches~n'~Cream*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be straight up with him. ask him if there is something between him and her, and if there is then i wouldn't call him everyday and he'd know why. you have to decide whether or not you really trust him. if you can't, let him go.
good luck
2006-06-12 17:11:56 · answer #10 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋